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Original poster

To have let my DS2 have a (wash out) crazy colour on his hair?

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 12:24

DS2 Is obsessed with all things blue and has been pleading to have blue hair for a party since he saw it on somebody else.

we thought what's the harm it's a bit of fun and will wash out so we did it for him. The thing we used was called crazy colours and isn't a proper hair dye and doesn't have all the harsh chemicals in.

DS is thrilled but my fathers reaction was "what the f, why have you done that to his hair"

Suddenly what started as a bit of fun to make DS happy has made me not want to take him outside like it. Is it really so terrible? I've washed it twice but there's still a tinge so will need a few more washes definitely.

Am I a terrible parent?

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 14:29

That sounds absolutely adorable Owlchemist

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MonstranceClock · 02/07/2019 14:29

It's not going to kill him. My daughter started using hair chalks at 2. And nail varnish and face paints.

Dadadadededadeda · 02/07/2019 14:29

If a 2yo has to sit with Head & Shoulders on his head afterwards, adding chemicals on top of chemicals I'm afraid you have made a mistake.

SpinsterOfArts · 02/07/2019 14:30

YABU. I changed my vote after reading that he was two.

mytittifersungtheirsong · 02/07/2019 14:32

At 2 YABU. At 5-6 onwards for Red Nose Day or similar at school you would NBU.

AlbusSeverusMalfoy · 02/07/2019 14:32

Its hardly dying to the roots damaging his hair. Its no different to 2 years old wearing nail varnish or playing make up. YANBU.

FamilyOfAliens · 02/07/2019 14:33

All those saying what’s the harm, it washes out - the OP said it was still a bit blue even after two washes.

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 14:33

He doesn't have to sit with head and shoulders on his head, personally I was happy to let it fade out over a course of washes but given some reactions such as my dad's and me being told on here that i should be ashamed of myself, I don't want him exposed to such judgement which would make him feel bad about something that made him happy.

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AnneTwackie · 02/07/2019 14:33

What a lovely, slightly bonkers mum you sound! I too would stare and at 2 might assume it was your choice rather than his but don’t beat yourself up, your intentions were good!

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 02/07/2019 14:34

There is some hair colour you can get in a tube that dries like a chalk and washes out quickly, without having to leave a colour to develop. I think I would prefer to use those on such a small child, I used colour spray on DS for Comic Relief when he was at primary school, but I'm not sure I would use a dye. I don't really know why, because I use them myself and know they are conditioning and safe. I can't explain why I wouldn't do it, but I'd prefer the cream, chalk or spray.

MonstranceClock · 02/07/2019 14:34

Fairy liquid is good for removing colour from hair. And baby shampoo. I used to use those to strip my hair.

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 14:35

Somebody I know had her one year olds ears pierced last week and nobody bats an eyelid, but I put a temporary fun colour in DS's hair at his request I should be ashamed of myself. It's a funny old world Grin

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Uptheshard · 02/07/2019 14:36

Two years old? Er no.
My ds is 9..he had blue hair for a few weeks before school ended..as a bit of fun

9 is ok... 2 not!

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 14:37

Thank you to those of you who don't think I'm awful!

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Owlchemist · 02/07/2019 14:38

OP said it was still a bit blue even after two washes.

Ok so use spray in colour next time

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 14:38

But why is it any different for a 9yo than a 2yo?

We did a patch test and used a safe product

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FenellaMaxwell · 02/07/2019 14:39

The vitamin C and head and shoulders, and fairy liquid are all quite abrasive to the hair. With fine, baby hair the colour will be much harder to shift too, and will quite possibly damage the condition of his hair. YABU.

CMOTDibbler · 02/07/2019 14:39

2 is a bit young for me, but older children I have no issue at all. My ds is having neon green hair for the summer, and has persuaded me to bleach some of his hair so it really shows -he is 13, but i first dyed his hair with manic panic when he was 11

Darkq · 02/07/2019 14:40

If it's not permanent and no chemicals are used in the dye and the child isn't being upset, I don't see what the big deal is, especially with the amount of parents that think it's ok to get their babies ears pierced.

usernameuser · 02/07/2019 14:40

Somebody I know had her one year olds ears pierced last week and nobody bats an eyelid,

I very much do bat my eyelids at this.

Aprillygirl · 02/07/2019 14:43

I'd have the same reaction as your father if I'm honest OP. Your DS is 2, he needs to learn the word 'no.'

Darkq · 02/07/2019 15:13

Aprillygirl why ? Do two year olds have to learn harm less fun is not acceptable?

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 15:19

He understands the word no very well, I'm struggling to understand what the harm was.

He's not in school so won't get into trouble for having an outlandish hair style, the product was safe, we did a patch test, it made him extremely happy

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 15:20

I think some people would have a problem with it solely because it looks non conformist, not because it's dangerous and harmful to the child

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Loyaultemelie · 02/07/2019 15:41

My 9 year old and 4 year old are getting theirs coloured with vivid and rose pink respectively tonight. Semi permanent too. (Vegan and cruelty free dyes). I've checked with our hairdresser who gave the go ahead. Life's too short.