To have let my DS2 have a (wash out) crazy colour on his hair?

[Mischone]

DS2 Is obsessed with all things blue and has been pleading to have blue hair for a party since he saw it on somebody else.

we thought what's the harm it's a bit of fun and will wash out so we did it for him. The thing we used was called crazy colours and isn't a proper hair dye and doesn't have all the harsh chemicals in.

DS is thrilled but my fathers reaction was "what the f, why have you done that to his hair"

Suddenly what started as a bit of fun to make DS happy has made me not want to take him outside like it. Is it really so terrible? I've washed it twice but there's still a tinge so will need a few more washes definitely.

Am I a terrible parent?

Well when my 8yr old wanted her hair pink and blue for summer, 3yr old DD had a tantrum.... She ended up with mermaid hair that everyone commented on.... Cant get worked up over it tbh..... No worse than nails painted

I think it seems more like something you want because it seems so unlikely your 2YO begged for blue hair. I had a very early talking articulate 2 YO but she wouldn’t have had any concept that hair colour was something you could choose, despite seeing me getting my own hair coloured, it’s just not something they’re going to request without adult prompting IMO

Maybe your 2 year old wouldn't but mine would and has - he has insisted on pink leggings since he was able to make his opinions known (pre-verbal) and, like the OP's son, he saw someone at a festival with pink stripes and glitter in her hair and asked if we could do it to his, so we did. I'm surprised that so many people are against this and don't really understand any of the reasons on here - the OP has clearly stated that she did it because he wanted it, so the 'child as accessory' arguments don't really wash, she did a patch test, so safety isn't really a concern, so I'm not sure what the problem is other than people like to conform and not doing so will always attract attention, both negative and positive.

I need to be ashamed of myself for allowing it

You didn't allow it. You did. It to him.

And as for looking like a punk, my little one has been rockin dm's and a biker jacket since she could walk

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It's not something I'd have done but certainly wouldn't get worked up over another parent doing it!

No harm done.

I think it's a nice thing to do. You were listening to what your son wanted and you made his life a little bit more magical. Make sure you take photos to show him when he's older!

I would totally do it for my 2 yo if he wanted.

I think it’s fine. It’s only a washable fun colour that is temporary. I cannot see an issue with it. I’m really surprised at the reactions here. Blue is better than if he wanted to change, say, dark hair to blond.

I really wouldn't give so much thought to wash out hair dye. Your dad didn't like it... So what? Your son wanted blue hair and he got to have it for a short while with no negative consequences. It's really not a big deal.

Life is too short to worry about this.

I'm impressed that your 2yo is verbal enough to express a repeated wish for blue hair, and also that he sits still long enough to let you dye it :o

I probably wouldn't have done it but I don't see anything wrong with it really.

Why cant toddlers be allowed to be toddlers ? No wonder they have no ries to kick against when the are teenagers, they have been there seen it and done it by the time they go to school. They are children not mini adults

My mother used to take issue with me using wash out colours at university.

She wouldn’t be seen out in public until i’d washed it out, and then it would be the first thing she’d mention to any aquaintance we met- cats bum mouth and “hair dye, i think it looks awful” followed bu a request for agreement.

It didn’t fit her idea of how a well groomed, classy young lady at university should look. I think she thought i’d come back in neat suits, blazers, glossy mid length hair and intelligent spectacles.

micah I'm 40 and still get my grandmother telling me that my bright red hair is awful, and it looks so much nicer when it's a natural colour. The problem is, the natural colour she prefers on me is blonde, and my hair is naturally very dark brown where it's not grey!

I wouldn't - but I'd colour it with hair chalk

Plus blue hair dye is a nightmare to get out fully - even the wash in wash out ones has a hint for months

I will be dying both my DC 6 and 3 hair any colour they like when term ends. It's just hair.

Life is way too short to conform constantly

Chalk at his age would be the best option imo. You colour it in, it washes out when you wash his hair, ime crazy colours don't always wash out very fast, the blue especially, like red it grabs.
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Nothing really bad about this, but thinking about two year old's its an unusual request from one so young. but hey ho. I am out of touch with the real world ha ha. You don't see many,or any,older ladies with a blue rinse these days, your child may be starting up this fashion again.!

My nearly 8yo DS is currently sitting with pastel blue wash out dye in his hair, he’s been asking for months and I couldn’t think why he shouldn’t in summer.

If the 2yo actually asked, it washes out and is safe then I think YANBU. It will grow back anyway.

What happens if next week he decides his favourite colour is red,and the week after green?

Really struggling to see why this would be an issue tbh.

No harm having done it once, but next time maybe hair chalks would be better for his age? Same effect, immediate wash-out and he can change and mix colours day to day.