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Original poster

To have let my DS2 have a (wash out) crazy colour on his hair?

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 12:24

DS2 Is obsessed with all things blue and has been pleading to have blue hair for a party since he saw it on somebody else.

we thought what's the harm it's a bit of fun and will wash out so we did it for him. The thing we used was called crazy colours and isn't a proper hair dye and doesn't have all the harsh chemicals in.

DS is thrilled but my fathers reaction was "what the f, why have you done that to his hair"

Suddenly what started as a bit of fun to make DS happy has made me not want to take him outside like it. Is it really so terrible? I've washed it twice but there's still a tinge so will need a few more washes definitely.

Am I a terrible parent?

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HopelessLayout · 02/07/2019 17:13

What if a two-year old child wanted to dye his/her hair a non-"fun" colour, e.g., a brunette girl wanted to go blonde. Would that be ok too?

And if not, what's the difference?

Darkq · 02/07/2019 17:19

Aprillygirl I'd argue you're then helping them learn colours in a way that's fun and different while also maybe building their confidence to wear what they want. As long as it doesn't cause harm or is permanent I really don't see the issue.

Ppl who get ear piercers or don't put sun cream on babies are doing more harm then temporary hair colour.

Frequency · 02/07/2019 17:20

Crazy Color by Renbow is a 'proper' hair dye. It's a non-oxidising true semi and in theory should wash out completely. In practise some colours have a tendency to stain light coloured hair, blue being one of them.

Please don't use vitamin C on his hair. It's very drying and can cause severe skin reactions and increase skin sensitivity. Step away from Google and leave it to wash out fade naturally. If you need to speed it up cheap shampoos like Vosene or an anti dandruff shampoo will help but any staining will remain until it naturally fades from environmental factors (like sun, wind etc).

That being said it's hair. It grows, it falls out, it gets cut off. I don't think YABU. I probably wouldn't do it a 2yo but I wouldn't judge someone who did. There are chemicals in Crazy Colour but no more than there are in shampoo/coloured hairsprays/face paint etc. It's very gentle as far as hair colours go.

Darkq · 02/07/2019 17:22

HopelessLayout I'm not expert in hair colouring but I think to go from darker hair to blonde you'd need to bleach the hair which is completely different from what the OP has done. So in my eyes yes it's different because of the bleach.

Lalliella · 02/07/2019 17:23

YANBU. And I know he’s 2. It’s just a bit of fun.

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 17:26

I'm not sure why people would reach the conclusion that I turned his hair blue because that's something I wanted to do for myself, I have plenty of my own hair to dye if I wanted to.

He wanted it blue it because he thinks it looks great and made him happy, I saw (and still see) no harm in it.

His grandma has red hair and if he wanted that in the future then that's fine by me, although I would likely use something else as recommended that will come out in one wash as opposed to several.

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 17:29

Taken on board about the vitamin C, I'll use his usual shampoo to fade it out gradually (standard baby shampoo)

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goodwinter · 02/07/2019 17:41

So he asked for it
It made him happy
You loved seeing his reaction as he was so excited

Someone please tell me what's wrong with this.

Totally! I don't understand why this is a bad thing or how it's teaching your DS that he can have whatever he wants, whenever he asks for it.

goodwinter · 02/07/2019 17:43

What if a two-year old child wanted to dye his/her hair a non-"fun" colour, e.g., a brunette girl wanted to go blonde. Would that be ok too?

Well not in that example, because you can't just put temp blonde colouring over brunette hair and expect it to make any difference. But I wouldn't have an issue with the other way around as a one-off thing. I don't think a 2yo is old enough to have internalised beauty standards or anything, so I don't see a difference in the two scenarios.

Pinkwink · 02/07/2019 17:46

I voted YANBU until I saw his age. Two is too young for this kind of thing.

RiftGibbon · 02/07/2019 17:49

I couldn't care less what people on the street think. My hair has been all colours of the rainbow - when DC was smaller we did temporary colour for a festival.

As long as it's temporary colour, then it's fine.

PositiveVibez · 02/07/2019 17:51

Thank you to those of you who don't think I'm awful!

I wouldn't think you were awful. I would just think you were a little bit of a sandwich short of a picnic.

Mummadeeze · 02/07/2019 17:52

I think it is a little shocking for a two year old to have blue hair but if I saw him I would think it was really cool and quite a forward thinking fashion statement! As long as he asked for it and you didn’t force it on him, I say why not!

AlwaysCheddar · 02/07/2019 17:54

He’s 2 FFS!

MonstranceClock · 02/07/2019 17:59

Such a shame that people are so judgemental over something so little. Most 2 year olds would love to have a funky colour hair. My daughter would've at that age. And as for looking like a punk, my little one has been rockin dm's and a biker jacket since she could walk. Her choice.

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 18:29

I do agree it would look shocking to people in public as it's very unusual, but that doesn't mean it's bad or I need to be ashamed of myself for allowing it

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Passthecherrycoke · 02/07/2019 18:39

I think it seems more like something you want because it seems so unlikely your 2YO begged for blue hair. I had a very early talking articulate 2 YO but she wouldn’t have had any concept that hair colour was something you could choose, despite seeing me getting my own hair coloured, it’s just not something they’re going to request without adult prompting IMO

Frequency · 02/07/2019 18:45

My eldest begged for pink dreadlocks from the day she could string a sentence together. A woman at the local shop had electric pink and blue dreadlocks. Every time I brushed her hair she pleaded with me to make it like the 'pink ladies'. She could not be left unattended with paint or felt pens or she would colour in her hair.

I relented in year six and let her use Renbow Crazy Colour. She survived. She's 16 now and currently sitting behind me with a silver/lilac toner on her bleached hair. She's never had dreadlocks but has experimented with undercuts/side shaves. She has a bob now.

MyGastIsFlabbered · 02/07/2019 18:55

Given that I've got 2 boys who have done all sorts to themselves over the years I'd probably smile if I saw you and assume the blue was the result of an accident at home!

But there is a year 2 boy at school whose mum admitted she bleaches his hair and I'm afraid my judgey pants do get hoiked up a bit there Confused

PositiveVibez · 02/07/2019 18:56

And as for looking like a punk, my little one has been rockin dm's and a biker jacket since she could walk

Yeah okay 🙄

PositiveVibez · 02/07/2019 18:57

The yeah okay was to you saying 'her choice'

MonstranceClock · 02/07/2019 19:00

How wouldn't it be her choice? She's always chosen her own shoes and clothes in the shops and what she wears each day.

TheDarkPassenger · 02/07/2019 19:02

Don’t be ashamed! You sound like my kinda parent! And I’ve managed to get on to ten and he’s not bratty and awful (yet) just a happy polite boy!

TheDarkPassenger · 02/07/2019 19:04

There’s a kid at our school who rocked up to disco in fake tan, that did make me laugh a bit as his mum is very odd colour indeed, I don’t know if he stole it and did it himself or she did it, either way it tickled me slightly! 😂

OkPedro · 02/07/2019 19:15

mischone My ds asks for blue hair at the end of each school term. I buy the spray in colour from super drug. Just use old pillow cases as it can stain. It says it’s suitable for all ages. I bet your ds looks cool 😎