Is this weird ? Dh comes home from work parks on the drive which runs down along the house, then walks across the front garden so he can look in the window

[Lardlizard]

He must do it surely to spy on what we are Upto as he is clearly going out of his way as it’s an l shaped house and the walks past he front door, across the front lawn then looks jn the window

I think it’s weird

He thinks I’m weird for thinking it’s weird

He’s reason he’s doing it to say hello?! Well be quick to come straight in the door

Is he trying to catch you doing something? It's weird.

How's he going to spy on you? You can hear him parking the car.

So does he say hello through the window?
Is he the checking up on you type?
Is he critical, does he micromanage?

Or is he a chirpy person who likes to be playful?
More context needed.

Raging trust and paranoia issues?

I'm a child minder and used to have a patent who would do something similar. She just liked to watch her DC playing with the others for a minute, what goes on when she wasn't about. It wasn't odd or trying to catch me out she was just interested in the difference.

*parent!

Actually I do this

Not to your house I hasten to add

But I love that glimpse into "my family from the outside", it looks so cosy and inviting. Tonight I came home a bit early before dc were asleep and sneaked upstairs. I overheard dd1 telling dh she loved him and her grandparents. It was just a lovely moment.

Dd always comes to the window to let us know she’s back instead of the door. I think it’s nice.

Big sign with
Fuck off weirdo!
Hold it up when you hear his car!!

It's weird, I would hate it if DH did this!

I love looking through my own window at dusk!

Only you know if this is something more sinister or just a quirk.

Impossible to say without more information

It’s either to seewhat we are upto or to take a peek at family life from the window

So almost 70percent agree

Depends on what he is usually like, is he insecure, does he check up on you ?
What do you say when he walks through the door?
I don’t think it’s necessarily weird in isolation, more info needed.

I do this! And my DF always used to do it, and still announces his presence by looming up outside the window with a comic expression before letting himself in the door.

And when I go to pick up DS from nursery I first glue my eye to a crack in the fence to watch him in the garden - a trick I learnt from another nursery mum.

So, your DH may be a massive weirdo, but he is not alone.

When my DCs were little they used to love seeing DH through the window before he came in. It added to the excitement of Daddy coming home!

I do this. I too love seeing my family together from the outside. It's such a lovely moment, to see and appreciate what you have. I know it seems stalkerish to look at anyone through a window but for me it comes from a place of wanting to value what I have! Sometimes in the chaos of family life (especially in the evening) it's easy to forget how lucky you are and these little outside glimpses help me remember.

Well you know your DH better than I do, but I would say that he just likes to get a glimpse of happy family life!

When DS was little it was fun sometimes to watch him playing happily when he didn't know we were watching.

What happens in the winter when it’s dark early? At the curtains closed then? Does he ask you to leave them open or does he just come straight in? If he just comes straight in, I’d agree with others and just say he likes seeing his family ‘at play’.

If he demands you leave curtains open, then that’s a bit more curious...

I think it looks weird if the neighbours see him

I often do something similar as I like to see the family interacting when I’m not there. It’s fascinating. Similarly, when DCs were at primary school I used to arrive early and stand at a point in the playground where I could see into the classroom but they couldn’t see me. I found it really interesting to see how they behaved when I wasn’t around - not in a ‘trying to catch them out’ way, just an interest in how they were developing as independent people.

Abusive monstrous horrible ex used to do this.

Once I looked up from doing something to find him peering in at the sitting room window. He actively walked past the front door and sneaked in by the side garden door to spy on me.

What he expected to see I do not know.

If you don’t like it tell your husband to stop, if he persists then it is an issue.

If it doesn’t bother you and he’s a nice person and just wanting to catch a glimpse of his family being happy, then let him carry on.

I think it looks weird if the neighbours see him

Unless he's lurking out of sight, watching from behind a bush, I don't think you need worry.

I'm sure he just looks in for a few moments, he won't be standing there watching the window like a TV.

Could you get your arse ready to give him a full moon next time you hear tyres parking on the gravel outside?