Is this weird ? Dh comes home from work parks on the drive which runs down along the house, then walks across the front garden so he can look in the window

[Lardlizard]

He must do it surely to spy on what we are Upto as he is clearly going out of his way as it’s an l shaped house and the walks past he front door, across the front lawn then looks jn the window

I think it’s weird

He thinks I’m weird for thinking it’s weird

He’s reason he’s doing it to say hello?! Well be quick to come straight in the door

I do this and I live alone. Now that's weird!

So almost 70percent agree

So, what are you going to do with that fact? Wave it at him and say, 'look, MN has voted, and you can't do it any more'?

Or does he get to make his own post and get a vote?

Don't we all do little things that cheer us up that have no cost and no effect other than to make us happy?

It’s threads like this that keep me on Mumsnet

It’s threads like this that keep me on Mumsnet

hear hear!

Buy net curtains. We bought very cool net curtains at JL and they don't look old-fashioned at all.

Next time he does it flash your boobs!

OP, I'd be tempted to install this! It's a privacy mirror film. Imagine seeing his face (he won't see it from the outside, only his reflection)
www.omegawindowfilms.co.uk/making-glass-one-way/one-way-silver-mirror-window-film.html?gclid=EAIaIQobChMInre1vPeV4wIVQZztCh07dQ3rEAAYAyAAEgIQdfD_BwE

I think it's creepy and I'd expect my DH to stop if I told him it bothered me. Someone's face leering in the window unexpectedly would make me shit myself.

He won't see you from the outside

I don't believe you are ok with people staring in through your window.

My parent’s do a lot of childcare for us and I sometimes peer through my parent’s front window when I go to pick our children up, I also have to walk past the door to do this. There’s no reason for doing it really, I suppose just having a glimpse at what they are up to when I’m not there. It’s not checking up it’s more ahhh look at them. It’s not that weird is it? I’d probably do it at my own house, but we have them sheer blinds that you can’t see through, you know to stop nosey people from peering in!

Bloody weird. When he's due home close the curtains. It would so annoy me

I do think you're being odd. I really think you need to understand why you feel this way, for your own benefit.

But, I do also think that, when you tell someone you don't like something and ask them to stop, they should stop. Crucially, they don't need to be able to understand why it bothers you, or agree that the same thing would bother them, they just need to accept that it does bother you. That's part of recognising that you are an autonomous person, not an extension of them.

It would be good, in addition, if you could explain why you feel that way, as these feelings may have other implications.

Is he Bill Bryson?

At the end of Notes from a Small Island, he describes coming home from a trip and pausing to look through the window and enjoy watching his family - playing a board game I think. I find it rather sweet.

But she might be picking her nose!

Why does it have to be sinister? Don't you think he might just want a nice glimpse into the home to take a moment to reflect how lucky he is? It's a pure thing.

If he is trying to spy on you then it's totally different but he may just want a moment to see how the family are without knowing he's there.

Does he do it every night? My DP did it to me last night but he was just messing around being a perv at the window lol He caught me watching Love Island, nothing exciting.

Sorry, this thread made me 😆
We need more details 🤷‍♀️It’s not weird at all unless as has been said, he’s controllong etc?
What is it about him doing it that bothers you?

It's not really stalkerish to look through your own window .
I used to have a house with huge windows and you could see all the way in from the garden. It was one of my favourite things to look at the house unobserved and see the kids and then h pottering about. Made me feel very lucky and secure in my own little world.

I’m surprised people have Mare comments like, it’s breads like this that keep me on mumsnet
Surely it’s not that interesting

And yes there is the element of suddenly seeing someone at the window can make you jump out of your skin

Made

I don't think it's that weird. I'm not married now but if ex was with the children I'd like to have a little peek in through the window to see what they're doing. As pps have said it's different if he's actually controlling or critical but as it stands I wouldn't be too bothered.

And threads

Sorry my phone is going nuts today

Make sure you are in the kitchen doing something useful. Never get caught out with your feet up on the sofa eating chocolates.

I might just shut the blinds tonight
But that makes it darker inside