Is this weird ? Dh comes home from work parks on the drive which runs down along the house, then walks across the front garden so he can look in the window

[Lardlizard]

He must do it surely to spy on what we are Upto as he is clearly going out of his way as it’s an l shaped house and the walks past he front door, across the front lawn then looks jn the window

I think it’s weird

He thinks I’m weird for thinking it’s weird

He’s reason he’s doing it to say hello?! Well be quick to come straight in the door

If you’re that bothered, get a net curtain or a blind that lets light through! Although if I didn’t think it was done with malice, I’d be tempted to put it down to a quirk.

I think all depends on the nature of your relationship and how things are between you.
I love to do this - its a glimpse of my family being natural without them stopping what they are doing to say hello.
If there are issues with jealousy and control in the relationship then maybe it would be interpreted differently.
I don't think neighbours would care or pay any attention to it at all...

Lol at mooning our the window or putting a sign up

We do this when my kids are at the in laws. I trust them explicitly, but when we're going to pick them up after they've stopped there, we like to peek on them in the living room, to see what they're up to when we're not there. And then we knock on the window and they get excited at waving to us through the window

Actually think that should say trust implicitly not explicitly!

My DH will sometimes do this, though he doesn't have to actively walk by the front door to do it, when he knows I've had a rough day with the DC and to brace himself if it all seems like chaos or has calmed down. Normally he walks straight in the door though.

Agree that its down to what your DH is like normally. That said if it makes you uncomfortable and he knows this, but continues to do it then he's being a dick.

Your paranoia is weird.

How is it possible for your DH to 'spy' on his family, in their living room, in the house that he lives in? Do you require people to make an announcement every time they're about to enter a room, so the occupants don't feel 'spied upon' by an unexpected entrant?

Unless there's a massive drip-feed about him being a controlling arse, you're being very odd.

What are doing in the living room that is so secret?

I would definitely think it was weird if DH had to make a longer, more awkward trip to look at me through a window.

i dont think a Fuck off sign is appropriate

i think you should pretend to be sleeping

If hes actually walking past the front door to do it then yes weird

My husband looks through the window before coming inside to wave at us all... mostly the cats though.

I know a few people who do this, are you sure you're not the paranoid one?

Everyone accusing OP of paranoia needs to take down their curtains lest they are likewise accused.

He’s it’s the fact that he actually walks past the front door and across the front lawn to do it

If the drive was on the other side and he naturally walked across I wouldn’t think it was odd at all looking in

It’s more the fact he walks past the front door and across the lawn

Be also dos know I don’t like it

When dd was a baby, I sometimes stood her on the windowsill of the front window (holding her obvs) when DP would be coming home, so we could spot him before he saw us and surprise him with a wave.

Were we spying on him?

He also does know, I don’t like it

But when I explain that to him
He just tells me I’m being weird about it and doesn’t listen

Unless there's more to the story then no It's not weird and YABU

Completely depends on the context and relationship. If there are already control issues then that could say something but for most people, hopefully it's just either having a look in or messing around.

My DS (11) particularly likes to hide then jump out at us - I usually manage to spot him but not always which can then be a shock for us both!

It’s sweet: it’s like saying ‘coooeee’.

If it is jealousy, insecurity or control he would be doing a lot worse than this!

And how illogical to suspect I’ll intent of a habit that is regular and ingrained. Because no one would ever ‘catch someone out’ like this, at regular homecoming time, having parked, slammed the door etc.

It's weird and I wouldn't like it. Although, I have a fear of looking out the window and seeing someone looking back at me. Perhaps too many horror movies.

Close the blinds.

Why do you feel 'spied upon' by someone who lives in your house, while at home? This isn't the postman, it's your husband.

Where does that feeling of discomfort at your own husband seeing you living your ordinary family life, come from? Why are you so on edge?

Everyone accusing OP of paranoia needs to take down their curtains lest they are likewise accused.

I only draw the blinds if I'm taking clothes off or going to sleep - I certainly don't feel the need to stop people seeing in my sitting room.

why dont you be ready waving out of the window