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DH made a woman cry - wtf

325 replies

parkedonthestreet · 30/06/2019 15:17

Cars park on our street and it's a free for all. We noticed a car parked behind ours with a flat tyre on friday. DH has been going on about it. Today as we were going to our car he saw a woman walking to it and said "oh is this yours? Thought it was abandoned." She looked startled and said no ... why. He said because it had a flat tyre and she said something like oh, it'll be ok. Dh repeated it'll be ok and laughed loudly. She looked uncomfortable, then started crying, got in it and drove off.

OP posts:
IncognitoIsMyFavouriteWord · 30/06/2019 19:39

DP was a condescending arse.

He could have offered to help her change it?

"I thought it was abandoned" sounded snooty.

AutumnCrow · 30/06/2019 19:42

The tyre went from being a 'flat tyre' to being a bit 'deflated' very quickly in the OP's posts. So it wasn't a flat tyre, even.

All very odd.

CheckingOutTheQuantocks · 30/06/2019 19:46

If I came back to my car to find it had a flat, or that the pressure was too low, I would be perfectly capable of putting it right myself - but if a weird, confrontational man was standing there having a go at me for "abandoning" the car, I'd probably want to get away from him before I started messing around with the jack. I would probably have ignored him and driven off too. Although, if he'd started mocking me like your H mocked this woman, I would have told him to fuck off.

NumbersStation · 30/06/2019 19:47

And the prize for condescending arsehole today goes to....

Justcos · 30/06/2019 19:47

A flat tyre was mentioned in the opening post. I don’t have time to trawl through the whole thread to see if there was a change in the tyre situation.

NCforthis2019 · 30/06/2019 19:48

What a big man your husband is - belittling a woman. Men like your husband make me sick - how anyone can marry them is beyond me. I hope he treats you better.

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 30/06/2019 19:52

Why the fuck did your “d”h not offer to pump it up.?
Horrible man

Ginger1982 · 30/06/2019 19:58

I initially thought reading the heading that you were saying 'wtf' in regards to your DH's behaviour, not the woman. Did you have a chuckle along with him? You have no idea what was going on in her life that day. You sound nasty.

And where are you anyway? Not brave enough to come back?

MonstranceClock · 30/06/2019 20:08

Your husband is a class A bell piece.

Belenus · 30/06/2019 20:20

You pay road tax and therefore can use and park on any road where there aren’t any restrictions.

You pay vehicle excise duty. Road tax was abolished over 80 years ago. You don't own a piece of the road and your right to park isn't related to whatever taxes you pay. Sure, yes you can park on the public highway but it's nothing to do with road tax.

OP your husband sounds like a knob. I'd probably have given him a mouthful for being an obnoxious twat. And no, I very much doubt he would have talked like that to anybody capable of hitting him. My bf's response would have been "I see you've got a flat tyre, are you OK or would you like some help?"

llangennith · 30/06/2019 20:22

Sounds like she was having a rough day and he patronised her. Is he usually so insensitive?

^
This

Osirus · 30/06/2019 20:24

My DH would have helped her, as he has done countless times. What’s wrong with your DH?

DrinkTaboo · 30/06/2019 20:33

I'm not sure why so many people seem to be jumping on the fact she drove on a flat or half flat tyre. Fact is at slow speed for a short drive it's ok. I have had to do this my self when I could not get my sodding wheel off. Garage was not far away, it was all 30mph roads.

OP, I think your husband was rude for no reason, other then he was annoyed by the car being there. I don't know why she cried maybe he scared her or maybe she was having a shit day.

I think your husband should feel embarrassed if nothing else, after all he was rude and made someone cry, whether he meant to or not.

nzeire · 30/06/2019 20:33

Sounds like a meanie

Moodyfoodie · 30/06/2019 20:36

He could have tried to help or offer a few kind words but instead decided to take the piss out of her. What a big man.

Armadillostoes · 30/06/2019 20:50

Why are you married to such a vile excuse for a man? He mocked a total stranger for no reason, knowing nothing about her life and didn't even offer to help. Really nasty behaviour.

WellThisIsShit · 01/07/2019 01:28

OP, I hope your bad news isn’t too awful.

I don’t know why people haven’t picked up on this, but it sounds like you have more important things to worry about than whether you set up the voting properly on this thread or not!

Hope you’re ok. Flowers

Antibles · 01/07/2019 02:08

He mocked her by imitating her and upset her. What a bully. I doubt he'd have spoken to a strapping bloke like that. If her car was parked legally, flat tyre or no, she was entitled to leave it there as long as she liked, not have some twat come along and harass her.

Patroclus · 01/07/2019 03:03

How do you live with somebody who goes on about cars with slightly flat tyres in the street??

Blondebakingmumma · 01/07/2019 03:09

My husband would have offered to help change the tire

StoppinBy · 01/07/2019 03:13

I agree with the PP who said when I was broke and couldn't afford to replace a tyre I would have cried if someone had mocked me about a situation that I knew I had to do something about but couldn't afford to.

Your DH should have either tried to help her or get his mouth shut, he was a jerk to a complete stranger for no reason.

mathanxiety · 01/07/2019 03:31

Do you think she was being a wuss or that your H was being a dick?

Because it's YABU for the former - an unknown man came up to her and mocked her, and YANBU to 'My husband is a dick who should mind his own business'.

mathanxiety · 01/07/2019 03:34

Hope your bad news isn't too awful, OP.

Flowers
TheadReaper · 01/07/2019 07:54

I don’t know why people haven’t picked up on this, but it sounds like you have more important things to worry about than whether you set up the voting properly on this thread or not!

It might be the fact that she didn't give much thought to the fact that the poor crying woman could've also had some bad news before her dick husband belittled her. Instead OP came here and tried to belittle her further by mocking the fact that DH (dick husband) made her cry...then conveniently is unable to come back to the thread once people start pointing this all out Hmm

Springfern · 01/07/2019 08:09

To everyone wondering why the OP posted here, the aibu is obviously inferred. AIBU to think my husband is a bullying mansplainer?

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