DH made a woman cry - wtf

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Cars park on our street and it's a free for all. We noticed a car parked behind ours with a flat tyre on friday. DH has been going on about it. Today as we were going to our car he saw a woman walking to it and said "oh is this yours? Thought it was abandoned." She looked startled and said no ... why. He said because it had a flat tyre and she said something like oh, it'll be ok. Dh repeated it'll be ok and laughed loudly. She looked uncomfortable, then started crying, got in it and drove off.

He said because it had a flat tyre and she said something like oh, it'll be ok. Dh repeated it'll be ok and laughed loudly

Omg, how old is you DH? YANBU to think your DH is a dick.

Repeating something a person has said and laughing is belittling behaviour, never mind the unnecessary dig about it being an abandoned car.

Your DH was rude and shouldn’t be surprised if his rudeness makes other people feel shit.

Yup. Your 'd'h was acting like mean twat. Must be proud of him

What a big man being sarky and laughing at a woman, wonder if she was standing with a man your dh would've been such an arsehole, probably not as he mocks women but deserves a good finger wagging or a fucking punch from that woman's OH
What an obnoxious pillock your dh is mocking a woman, why on earth didn't he help her change the flatty?

Well, I for one hope that DH is very proud of himself, getting the reaction he wanted.
Poor woman's got a flat tyre, and then some bloke belittling her.

Hed have been most put out if he was told to fuck off wouldn't he?

He asked her if it was her car and she said no it wasn't. He laughed and probably expected her to laugh too, seeing how it wasn't her car.

Two questions:-
Why didn’t he offer to help?
Would he have spoken like that to a bloke?

The socially accepted conversation on your DH's part would usually go something like this:
"Excuse me I don't know if you're aware you have a slightly flat tyre." and then check if she needed any help.

Have we gone and done lost the darn OP again?

This really isn't a big deal on its own she must have had something else going on. He informed her that she had a flat and she said it would 'be okay' when clearly it wouldn't be. I personally wouldn't have been offering help at that point so I can't get my knicks in a twist as so many have done on here. You'd think the man had told her to 'fuck off' or shouted at her.

He laughed and probably expected her to laugh too, seeing how it wasn't her car.

OP says she got in it and drove off. It was her car.

I went with a YABU as I couldn't work out what you were asking - but your DH sounds like a nob

ProteinshakesandAntonsbum. Yes, but when he asked her initially she said no.

I think that woman needs to work on building some resilience. Also a decent person would have offered to assist with the flat tyre not mocked and laughed.

AcrossThePond55

Is this a UK thing? I'm in the US and I don't have a problem parking in front of someone else's home as long as I'm parking legally & not blocking anything.

No it’s not a UK thing, I wouldn’t think twice about parking anywhere I needed to on a street where it was available for anyone to park! You pay road tax and therefore can use and park on any road where there aren’t any restrictions. It being outside someone’s house is irrelevant, it’s not their piece of road any more than it’s anyone else’s. I think some people do worry though and get anxious about it but I have no idea why. I don’t bat an eyelid when people park in front of my house, the road is there for everyone!

Yes, but when he asked her initially she said no.

Yes I know. But why would he life and repeat her words, if he believed it wasnt her car and was sharing a joke.

It sounds more like she was saying she didnt abandon her car.

Or maybe, if she had other stuff going on, she just wanted this whiny man to go away.

You cant tell me that someone goes on for 2 days about car parked on the street to their wife, then speaks to the car owner in a friendly manner.

Perhaps he could have shown an ounce of kindness and offered to help her change the tire?

No need to be unkind. If you must comment maybe be helpful. Being sarcastic may not seem like a big deal to him but obviously it really got to her .

Your husband sounds like a real prick!

Mumnset tends to bring out some sound responses when it comes to car/ driving situations. Driving with a flat tyre is unsafe and the woman knowingly did this. In my opinion that’s much more detrimental than a bit of scoffing. The possibility of a bad day does not warrant putting other road users and pedestrians at risk. I can understand that your husband wasn’t too impressed. It would have been a lot more helpful if your husband had of offered assistance, but I don’t think that he deserves some of the responses he’s getting on here.

Your husband was being patronising and quite unpleasant. If you can’t see that then I suppose YABU.

Maybe this needs repeating - she said no, the car wasn't abandoned. She didn't say no, the car isn't mine.

@Justcos Mumsnet tends to bring out people too lazy to read the thread. It wasn't flat - it just had lower pressure than it should have.
She won't have damaged the wheel and would have had to drive the car to take it somewhere where she could re-inflate the tyre.

@newmomof1 I was just about to post that.

I dont get it. If you cant be arsed to read the thread, or even the ops updates, just dont comment.

I read it as she said it would be alright and he laughed as in right yeah.
Can't see the massive crime he has commited .

Any decent person would have asked if she needed help, not reacted by taking the piss and belittling her.
He sounds like a bit of a bully tbh. Does he behaving in a bullying manner towards women in general?
I bet he wouldn’t have done that to a burly builder or a guy from a boxing club would he?