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DH made a woman cry - wtf

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parkedonthestreet · 30/06/2019 15:17

Cars park on our street and it's a free for all. We noticed a car parked behind ours with a flat tyre on friday. DH has been going on about it. Today as we were going to our car he saw a woman walking to it and said "oh is this yours? Thought it was abandoned." She looked startled and said no ... why. He said because it had a flat tyre and she said something like oh, it'll be ok. Dh repeated it'll be ok and laughed loudly. She looked uncomfortable, then started crying, got in it and drove off.

OP posts:
ProteinshakesandAntonsbum · 01/07/2019 08:13

@Springfern I dont think it is.

I think its aibu or was my husband right to tell and is she a silly moo for crying.

VivienneHolt · 01/07/2019 08:16

Your husband is a tedious, cowardly bully. Imagine if he was a decent enough person to have offered her a hand instead of sneering at her?

LimitIsUp · 01/07/2019 08:17

Springfern - I can't agreed that that the inference is clear. Op could be saying 'wtf' at her h's attitude to the woman, or she could be saying 'wtf' at the response of the woman (op might think woman was overreacting)

VivienneHolt · 01/07/2019 08:17

(And I guarantee there’s no way the tosser would have been such a cunt to the car owner if it had been a strapping bloke instead of a woman he clearly felt able to intimidate)

Ihatehashtags · 01/07/2019 08:17

Sounds like you’re married to an arsehole

MediocreOmens · 01/07/2019 08:28

I came back to this thread to see if anyone had got to the bottom of why the OP posted but alas no.

OP your husband is a bully and reminds me of my cousin's husband who would have reacted like yours. He is an asshole too. Your husband could have easily replied well there is a garage down the road if you need to fill your tyre up, or just said nothing. Instead he chose to belittle and humiliate the poor woman. He would never have reacted the way he did to a big man.

I bet your husband uses the word "banter" a lot, yet is very sensitive to criticism from others.

Belenus · 01/07/2019 08:35

I don’t know why people haven’t picked up on this, but it sounds like you have more important things to worry about than whether you set up the voting properly on this thread or not!

I picked up on it. And I thought two things 1. as pp have said, it seems we must consider what the OP might be going through whereas she doesn't have to worry what flat-tyre woman might be going through. 2. It just seems to terribly convenient when so many people think the OP's husband was being an arse, suddenly to have a problem which garners sympathy and to be unable to come back to the thread.

It could be that something dreadful has happened and I hope the OP is OK. But in the meantime, her husband is still an arse who chooses to mock and bully when he could instead offer help.

ProteinshakesandAntonsbum · 01/07/2019 08:41

2. It just seems to terribly convenient when so many people think the OP's husband was being an arse, suddenly to have a problem which garners sympathy and to be unable to come back to the thread.

And also after being a dick and telling someone not to post, because they (like everyone else) didnt get what her aibu was.

Then she comes up with a story to get sympathy?

Convenient?

vampirethriller · 01/07/2019 16:22

I think the bad news was the sudden realisation that her husband is a bellend.

LittleLongDog · 01/07/2019 16:31

@vampirethriller definitely.

I’m pretty sure mine and my DP’s first reactions would have been sympathy. I had a slow puncture and couldn’t afford to get it sorted for ages. The tyre would constantly need pumping up - it was such a pain.

SteelRiver · 01/07/2019 16:34

I think your husband was rude and should have minded his own business.

pisspawpatrol · 01/07/2019 16:38

Your husband sounds like he was a bit rude tbh, repeating what she said and then laughing at her. He can't really have thought it was abandoned and I would think that he was quite confrontational, especially if the car wasn't causing you any issues.

Mia1415 · 01/07/2019 16:39

I'm not surprised she cried.

  1. your DH said to her that he thought the car was abandoned, implying it is an old/ rubbish car
  2. he then repeated what she said back to her (is he 6?)
  3. He laughed at her.

Not nice

Usernumbers1234 · 01/07/2019 16:44

Deeply confused by this thread.

Woman appears next to car that has been left in road for a couple of days

Man reacts to women walking to car and says “is that yours, I was wondering if it had been abandoned”

She says “why”

He observes it has a flat tyre.

Can someone please explain to me why that is “bullying behaviour” and he’s a “total knobhead”

SallyWD · 01/07/2019 16:45

I think if he spoke in an aggressive way and then laughed at me I'd feel very upset too. I probably wouldn't cry though.

Usernumbers1234 · 01/07/2019 16:45

Duh, ignore me. Re-read it and saw the little flourish on the end, yeah, bit of a knobhead

Oscarsdaddy · 01/07/2019 17:24

Perhaps she was feeling deflated

Strange thing to do, start crying and drive off with a flat tyre

ProteinshakesandAntonsbum · 01/07/2019 17:26

Turns out it wasnt flat. It needed more air in it but not completely flat.

teyem · 01/07/2019 17:28

Perhaps she was feeling deflated Grin

Funnyface1 · 01/07/2019 17:33

It sounds like he was rude to her. I think I'd have just thought he was a prick, but that woman might have been dealing with something horrible and feeling really low.

Yesididnamechange · 01/07/2019 17:50

I mean, she refused to acknowledge the safety risks and acted like it was nothing. I would laugh at someone being that ignorant too. A flat tire is dangerous for other road users, not just her.

Yabbers · 01/07/2019 17:50

Dh was doing his civic duty warning her

It isn’t his civic duty to make fun of her. That is him being a fucking twat.

Yabbers · 01/07/2019 17:51

I would laugh at someone being that ignorant too.

You sound lovely. 🙄

Womble351 · 01/07/2019 17:53

Maybe it had runflat tyres,mine does

Yesididnamechange · 01/07/2019 17:55

yabbers i am actually, not so much to people compromising other people’s safety.

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