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DH made a woman cry - wtf

325 replies

parkedonthestreet · 30/06/2019 15:17

Cars park on our street and it's a free for all. We noticed a car parked behind ours with a flat tyre on friday. DH has been going on about it. Today as we were going to our car he saw a woman walking to it and said "oh is this yours? Thought it was abandoned." She looked startled and said no ... why. He said because it had a flat tyre and she said something like oh, it'll be ok. Dh repeated it'll be ok and laughed loudly. She looked uncomfortable, then started crying, got in it and drove off.

OP posts:
MagneticSingularity · 30/06/2019 15:51

Your DH sounds like a bullying gobshite twat to me - not sure what your AIBU is so didn’t vote.

Allhailthesun · 30/06/2019 15:52

He didn’t need the bit about “ thinking it was abandoned”. I’d presume he was implying it had been there too long.

Also possibly pointing out she has a flat tyre afterwards might be the final straw. Maybe she thinks he did it for “ abondoning” the car.

Meyoumeanmeh · 30/06/2019 15:52

Dh repeated it'll be ok and laughed loudly

What a twattish way to behave. What did you do? I hope you told him he was being an arse.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 30/06/2019 15:54

Why was he so wound up about someone else’s flat tyre? Confused

I’d have said “do you need a hand changing that tyre?” And either helped or not as per her decision.

I’m not sure what your DH was hoping to achieve by doing what he did.

Redpostbox · 30/06/2019 15:55

Did your husband speak in a nasty tone of voice?

NeverSayFreelance · 30/06/2019 15:56

She probably cried because she was having a bad day and then some random man in the street got on at her.

teyem · 30/06/2019 15:56

How do you mimic someone and laugh at them loudly in the right tone of voice?

AcrossthePond55 · 30/06/2019 15:56

So it wasn't a 'flat' tyre, just low on air? What a jerk!

My DH (or my sons) would have offered a can of 'fix a flat' or help changing the tyre instead of being a sarcastic bawbag. The very least they would have done would have been to say "You should get that taken care of right away, you'll ruin your tyre/rim".

NottonightJosepheen · 30/06/2019 15:59

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Justaboy · 30/06/2019 16:00

If it were me there out with the trolly jack and spider brace and would have had that changed in 5 mins;!

bee222 · 30/06/2019 16:00

Sounds like she was stressed and having a bad day, and to top it off your husband was a bit of a prick to her. Not surprised she cried.

sashh · 30/06/2019 16:01

What MilkTwoSugarsThanks said

RoryGillmoresEvilTwin · 30/06/2019 16:02

Your husband sounds like a twat.
He's obviously one of those arshole, mysogynistic men that likes to prove to women how superior he is.
Why mimic her unless he wants to humiliate her?
Urgh!

foreverchanging19 · 30/06/2019 16:03

Your husband sounds like a right catch.

DishingOutDone · 30/06/2019 16:06

Well yes, YABU. You've posted without a question - maybe you thought we'd all come on and say wow your DH was just having a lovely joke, whaddaguy - then you've come back briefly and said more or less nothing, and now posters are mostly saying that was a really unkind thing him to do, you can't discuss as you've had some bad news.

So you have an issue, we all need to be sympathetic. This lady has an issue, your DH has to take the piss out of her. Hmm

Newschapter · 30/06/2019 16:06

I'd have cried too if a man I didn't know laughed at and mocked me too, totally unprovoked. Hmm

AutumnCrow · 30/06/2019 16:07

I don't understand either how the AIBU vote facility would work with this post.

dudsville · 30/06/2019 16:09

Is your aibu that you're posting?

Your oh was fine, if not a perfect gentleman, and the owner either needs a thicker skin or is having a terrible day.

Iliterallycantthinkofanythingq · 30/06/2019 16:09

I'd be really upset to be laughed at loudly by a stranger. Especially one being a bit rude / weird with me like your husband was. If I'd had a bad day already this could probably make me cry, alongside the stress of a flat tyre!

vampirethriller · 30/06/2019 16:09

I'd be upset if a strange man repeated what I'd just said and laughed loudly, that's mocking and unkind.

MrsSarahSiddons · 30/06/2019 16:09

I voted YANBU because I thought your wtf?was directed at your bellend of a husband. But on reflection maybe I should have voted YABU because of his dickish behaviour -which you did nothing to stop.

Douberry · 30/06/2019 16:09

Your DH sounds a bit patronising tbh. Repeating what she said then laughing loudly? Not helpful! Is he always such a prick OP

StreetwiseHercules · 30/06/2019 16:11

What business is it of your husband’s? I’d have told him to fuck off.

m0therofdragons · 30/06/2019 16:13

Reading stuff like this makes me appreciate my lovely dh. I've no doubt he would have, on establishing it's her car, offered to help her inflate it so she could safely get to a garage. No one wants confrontation or to be laughed at by a stranger.

teyem · 30/06/2019 16:16

You seem reluctant to come back, op.

I bet this guy is a real dick to you on a regular basis and your bar for shitty behaviour is uncomfortably high. It must have set you back to see that he had this woman in tears over something that you consider trivial. So, you are sat at home now justifying to yourself that this woman was just a wimp/ that your DH was just being observant/ that he was justified in being rude because the tyre needed to be fixed.

And now page after page of women asking why the hell was he so rude? What did he get out of being so rude? And you're thinking, that isn't the half of it...

I could be wrong, I guess. But, just in case I'm not, it's not banter, it's being a dick.