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New kitchen, annoyed house mate ...

162 replies

LittleMissUnreasonable · 27/06/2019 18:50

So basically I had a new kitchen fitted a few weeks ago, which managed to over run to whilst I was on holiday for 3 nights. My housemate was in for the last day of the kitchen management. We had already been 2 weeks without a kitchen and were coping with a fridge and microwave set up in the living room which was less than ideal. I could see she was getting irate at it all. The builders left the key in a safe place when they left which I told her about but not specifics (eg I said it was in the shed rather than in the shed under the paint can). It has slipped my mind to mention the specifics because I was driving , which I know I was being totally unreasonable for. I got an angry phone call whilst away demanding where the key is as she couldn't get in. I was very apologetic, told her and said I was sorry as she had been searching for it for 15 mins. Now she's been calling her sister, parents and partner saying how unreasonable I was, how she's sick of the kitchen etc. I told her to leave everything for me when I get back and she was a martyr and decided to unpack things into kitchen cupboards then moan about it. I have specifically said I would do this when home.
This is housemate is not paying rent and hasn't done since living here months ago (friend of a friend). Would I be unreasonable to tell her if she doesn't like living rent free in my house and moans to all and sundry about an error I made, she can sod off and get her own digs?

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BruceAndNosh · 27/06/2019 18:53

Rent free and moaning?
I think the word you are after is Sponger not Housemate

InkyToesies · 27/06/2019 18:53

YANBU. Tell her to sling her hook.

Feelingsad19 · 27/06/2019 18:53

WTAF?!

She’s not paying rent? She’s not a housemate she’s a scrounger

Stefoscope · 27/06/2019 18:53

You would not be unreasonable to tell her to move out given the circumstances. I'm sure most people would put up with a couple of weeks of having no kitchen if they were living rent free!

AnathemaPulsifer · 27/06/2019 18:54

Why on earth do you have a friend of a friend living with you rent free?

Tink88 · 27/06/2019 18:55

How on earth has she got into the position where she’s living with you rent free? Not only that moaning and becoming irate over a new kitchen that I presume you’ve paid for? Not a chance, tell her to leave

icelollycraving · 27/06/2019 18:55

She’s not a housemate, she’s a cf. I’d give her the weekend to fuck off.

cstaff · 27/06/2019 18:56

So she as a non paying housemate thinks it is ok to complain to you about your house not being perfect for her use. Fuck off and find your own digs luv. Who the hell does she think she is. If she was paying you rent then maybe, and even then, what was the crime. Cheeky bitch.

SunnyCoco · 27/06/2019 18:58

Up until the final paragraph I was ready to say YABU
But you're doing her an enormous favour, this is crazy! Yanbu!

ElspethFlashman · 27/06/2019 18:58

How do you feel about supporting a freeloader?

HermioneKipper · 27/06/2019 19:01

She’s living with you rent free?? Cheeky mare! She should be bending over backwards to help out and offering to unpack kitchen stuff rather than being grumpy/a martyr about it! Tell her to shape up or ship out!

Expressedways · 27/06/2019 19:04

She’s not your housemate, she’s a freeloader. The utter cheek!

LittleMissUnreasonable · 27/06/2019 19:04

I've made past posts about her being suspected bipolar and being sister to my best mate. Her parents are loaded and are happy to let this situation continue whilst pandering to her 'woe is my, I'm so stressed' outlook in life. She works a minimum wage job so not much money left over for rent.
I suppose my crime was not being most specific with where I'd hidden the key, which I am aware I am being unreasonable. Just at the end of my tether and feeling like telling her to get to fuck Blush

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DramaRamaLlama · 27/06/2019 19:06

Why is she living with you???

mbosnz · 27/06/2019 19:08

I rather think she's about overstayed her welcome, hasn't she? Time for your fanny lodger to be moving on. . .

CodenameVillanelle · 27/06/2019 19:08

Well tell her then!!! Do you have doormat tattooed on your forehead?

rosemarysalted · 27/06/2019 19:09

Am I understanding this correctly? Your friends sister is living with you rent free, is being bad tempered and unpleasant? And you think you're at fault, OP?
If I've got it right tell her to LEAVE RIGHT NOW!
That's bonkers.

Purpleartichoke · 27/06/2019 19:10

If she is actually a housemate, shouldn’t she have her own key? Even a long term guest would generally have their own key?

LittleMissUnreasonable · 27/06/2019 19:10

I live in a good 'cheap northern city' which is good for work. So when her sister moved out, we thought it would be good to move in as she had been living abroad. Living at home would be out the question as she doesn't drive and there is no bus route in her parents village for work xxx

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pollypenguin01 · 27/06/2019 19:11

I don’t understand why you have a non paying lodger living with you Hmm

I presume there is a massive back story to this?

rosemarysalted · 27/06/2019 19:11

I'm so damn annoyed with her on your behalf. Tell her to piss off.

LittleMissUnreasonable · 27/06/2019 19:11

Purple artichoke, she gave her key to the builders who then hid it in the safe place for her to let herself back in

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Aquamarine1029 · 27/06/2019 19:11

I would toss her shit in some bin bags and throw them to the kerb. Get rid, fgs.

StrongTea · 27/06/2019 19:12

Tell her to leave, sounds nothing but hassle.

katewhinesalot · 27/06/2019 19:12

Ha ha, she has the cheek to moan?

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