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New kitchen, annoyed house mate ...

162 replies

LittleMissUnreasonable · 27/06/2019 18:50

So basically I had a new kitchen fitted a few weeks ago, which managed to over run to whilst I was on holiday for 3 nights. My housemate was in for the last day of the kitchen management. We had already been 2 weeks without a kitchen and were coping with a fridge and microwave set up in the living room which was less than ideal. I could see she was getting irate at it all. The builders left the key in a safe place when they left which I told her about but not specifics (eg I said it was in the shed rather than in the shed under the paint can). It has slipped my mind to mention the specifics because I was driving , which I know I was being totally unreasonable for. I got an angry phone call whilst away demanding where the key is as she couldn't get in. I was very apologetic, told her and said I was sorry as she had been searching for it for 15 mins. Now she's been calling her sister, parents and partner saying how unreasonable I was, how she's sick of the kitchen etc. I told her to leave everything for me when I get back and she was a martyr and decided to unpack things into kitchen cupboards then moan about it. I have specifically said I would do this when home.
This is housemate is not paying rent and hasn't done since living here months ago (friend of a friend). Would I be unreasonable to tell her if she doesn't like living rent free in my house and moans to all and sundry about an error I made, she can sod off and get her own digs?

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EL8888 · 29/06/2019 20:42

@IHateUncleJamie very good point. She would only escalate if she paid rent. Already she is very entitled. Plus why live with someone who is such a pain in the arse and you have been landed with

category12 · 30/06/2019 08:30

If you still want her out, then use her new job - "oh that's fantastic news, you can finally move out into your own place. And obviously I'll be sad to lose you, but I'm so looking forward to getting my space back at the same time, it'll be great for both of us. Let's celebrate!"

ThanosSavedMe · 30/06/2019 08:38

She needs to go. As others have said, she is not your responsibility

Do not even think of letting her stay even if she pays rent now., she’ll be even more entitled than she already is.

fedup21 · 30/06/2019 08:41

talk about throwing a curve ball into things!

Do you suffer from assertiveness issues? I don’t think this a problem at all. Just ask her to leave.

PepsiLola · 30/06/2019 10:00

I don't think you need to think about her job status at all. You need to just tell her this isn't working and she can go find someone else to not pay rent to

Nanny0gg · 30/06/2019 10:09

although I got a text from her saying she is now on the waiting list for a full time better paid job she interviewed for the other week...talk about throwing a curve ball into things!

So? she can then afford to pay proper rent somewhere else.

Happynow001 · 30/06/2019 10:53

I got a text from her saying she is now on the waiting list for a full time better paid job she interviewed for the other week...talk about throwing a curve ball into things!
This ^ doesn't change anything though. Just tell her that you'd now like to live on your own for a while and that you are giving her 4 weeks) notice (kindly, as I don't think you need to) to find other accommodation.

She will try and change your mind, plead financial hardship, etc but she is not your responsibility. If necessary she can contact her family fur help - you have more than done your bit.

"^ be out - not an open ended situation where she'll have an excuse every week as to why she can't move yet."
And this ^^

GabsAlot · 30/06/2019 14:09

A waiiting list for a job? so could be 2 maybe 3 years before it comes avilable

Regardless she still takes the piss

SandAndSea · 30/06/2019 16:56

"Can we have a chat soon about our living arrangements? I know you haven't been too happy recently and I've realised that I'd like to go back to living on my own too, so I think that could work well for both of us. How much notice do you think is reasonable? Shall we say 2 weeks? Let's chat properly tonight."

SeraphinaDombegh · 04/07/2019 22:47

Have you spoken to her yet OP? Please keep in mind that you are under no obligation whatsoever to her. None.

TightPants · 04/07/2019 23:49

Yes, update please OP!
Did you have the chat?

missnevermind · 05/07/2019 00:30

If you would like her to stay, let her know that the rent is £250 per month and that started on the first of this month. If she cannot / will not stay for that then she is already 4 days into her notice.
Maybe add that rent owed at very good value mate’s rates is £250 x 9
And you are happy to be paid in instalments.
Not that you will expect to see it but as a visual that these things are a lot of money just to be giving away.

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