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Next doors pissing parcels WIBU

226 replies

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 20:40

Moved almost 3 months ago, waiting to go back to uni so I’m in maybe 60% of daytime hours. Next door is also a single mum and doesn’t work. I hear her in most of the time I’m in.

In the 3 months I’ve lived here, I’ve had delivery people knock for her packages to be left here between 1-3 times a week. Every week. She never introduced herself, I have seen her a few times over the garden fence and said Hi, tried to initiate chit chat when seeing her on the front but she doesn’t seem to want to talk (completely understand that).

Out of all these parcels she has never come to pick them up, the delivery people always say they will put a note through her door so she knows they’re here. I’ve always waited a day or two then taken them round, usually when there’s a few.

On Thursday I accepted a package for her then another man appeared, they brought a huge really heavy box with a picture of a chest of drawers on! He said he was pretty sure he heard someone in the house but no answer so I took it anyway. It’s far too heavy for me to even move slightly. So it’s been here since thursday and she still hasn’t come round. I put a note through her door this morning asking her to come get it and she put one back through mine (?!) saying she can’t because it will be too heavy and she’s a single mum. I knocked for her again knowing she was in but she didn’t answer. It’s definitely too big and heavy even if I suggested we both try to move it to hers we probably couldn’t. WIBU to call the couriers back and tell them I want to return it?! Would they even do that? I can’t open my front door properly because its so huge, cant move it elsewhere!

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wineandroses1 · 25/06/2019 20:42

Definitely arrange for it to be returned and don’t take any further packages for her. What a CF she is.

Mixingitall · 25/06/2019 20:43

Your neighbour is cheeky! Stop taking her parcels in. Why should you deliver them??

Sproutsandall · 25/06/2019 20:43

You're a single mum too? In that case, I would put a note through her door telling her you are and giving her 24 hours before you call the delivery people back.

iamruth · 25/06/2019 20:43

Absolute send it back and refuse all parcels in the future. She’s a right cf

MyOtherProfile · 25/06/2019 20:43

Slide it out of your door into the front garden and send her a note saying it's outside now waiting for her.

RitmoRatmo · 25/06/2019 20:44

She’s taking the absolute piss. I had a neighbour who was doing similar (although not to the same extent). I ended up dragging the final parcel out of my house and leaving it on pavement outside her house, open to the elements. Not my parcel, not my responsibility.

I suggest you get someone to help you drag it outside, leave it in street, and next time don’t accept any further parcels in her behalf.

MissConductUS · 25/06/2019 20:44

YANBU. Call the courier to have them pick it up.

If you can't get rid of it that way you may have to find a way to move it. If it's a chest of drawers it will be much lighter if you pull the drawers out and move them separately.

ElizaPancakes · 25/06/2019 20:44

God she sounds obnoxious.

If you can, arrange for it to be returned and don’t accept any post for her ever again. Or maybe one small thing and just never take it round.

Can’t believe the cheek of her expecting to basically use your hallway as a storage area!

gamerchick · 25/06/2019 20:44

Tell her you're returning it and you won't be accepting any more parcels for her.

Littlemisslists · 25/06/2019 20:45

Why haven’t you put a stop to this after the first couple of times?

DingDongDenny · 25/06/2019 20:45

Send her a note saying if she doesn't arrange for it to be collected tomorrow it's going back and you aren't taking any more parcels in for her

Kanga83 · 25/06/2019 20:45

Stop taking in any parcels! I never ever do it for my neighbours, courier man arrives 'nope sorry' and close door before they try shove it in your hand

Hellshotforgoodreason · 25/06/2019 20:45

Wow! How rude is she! I would leave her a note saying that it her responsibility and she has till ( ..whatever day you decide) to arrange to have it moved or you will be calling the courier/company to have it collected . And i would never sign for anything for her again.

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 20:46

Yes I’m on my own with DS too, I was going to suggest I ask my dad and brother to come move it to hers but she didn’t even answer the door knowing it was me and I had her chest of drawers!

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SpotlessMind · 25/06/2019 20:46

She is being ridiculously cheeky, what was she ever going to do with her heavy chest of drawers?! I’d persist trying to get her to answer the door but leave a note if not. Tell her to collect or arrange a courier, otherwise you will call a charity next week and get them to collect it and take it away for free. Ludicrous. And don’t accept any more parcels for her.

CatFaceCats · 25/06/2019 20:47

If you saw what it was, why on earth did you take it?!

NEtoN10 · 25/06/2019 20:48

You don't have to take parcels in for a neighbour. The courier wants to log a "successful first attempt" by giving it to you he does that. Just say no and they will either re-try or send it back to the retailer. I would just leave the chest of drawers outside her house!

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 20:49

The delivery man knocked on my door and said she didnt answer can we leave a package with you. I said yeah and signed it then the man went to his van, came back with another man carrying that. I was in the middle of changing DS and felt awkward that I’d already said yes and signed for it so didn’t say anything before they left

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XXVaginaAndAUterus · 25/06/2019 20:49

CFers can only get away with it of you let them. For goodness sake stop accepting deliveries of parcels for her.

thecatsthecats · 25/06/2019 20:50

You considered roping in your relatives before you considered telling her to fuck off?

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 25/06/2019 20:50

Yabu for continuing to take them in. Yabu for dropping them round.

People treat you the way you let them.

HappyHammy · 25/06/2019 20:51

Put a note on your door saying no deliveries for next door. Get some help moving the drawers and leave it in her garden. Stop taking in parcels and never sign for anything that's not yours. Cheeky cow.

DartmoorDoughnut · 25/06/2019 20:52

Tell her to come and collect it or you’ll move it outside and leave it there. CF!

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 20:52

I’ve left some parcels for over a week before and she hasn’t bothered to come get them. I can see I was BU for not saying no once I saw what it was tbh! I need to be more assertive

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SpanglyPop · 25/06/2019 20:52

Wtf why did you take it in?! You need to get lairy mate - go and knock and if you know shes in dont give her the benefit of a note. Shout through the letter box that the couriers are collecting it tomorrow to take it back to the company it came from. Then run back into your house and dont answer the door when she comes knocking! Give her a taste of her own medicine and from now on dont take any parcels in or put a note on your door "not accepting parcels for number X please do not knock"