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Next doors pissing parcels WIBU

226 replies

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 20:40

Moved almost 3 months ago, waiting to go back to uni so I’m in maybe 60% of daytime hours. Next door is also a single mum and doesn’t work. I hear her in most of the time I’m in.

In the 3 months I’ve lived here, I’ve had delivery people knock for her packages to be left here between 1-3 times a week. Every week. She never introduced herself, I have seen her a few times over the garden fence and said Hi, tried to initiate chit chat when seeing her on the front but she doesn’t seem to want to talk (completely understand that).

Out of all these parcels she has never come to pick them up, the delivery people always say they will put a note through her door so she knows they’re here. I’ve always waited a day or two then taken them round, usually when there’s a few.

On Thursday I accepted a package for her then another man appeared, they brought a huge really heavy box with a picture of a chest of drawers on! He said he was pretty sure he heard someone in the house but no answer so I took it anyway. It’s far too heavy for me to even move slightly. So it’s been here since thursday and she still hasn’t come round. I put a note through her door this morning asking her to come get it and she put one back through mine (?!) saying she can’t because it will be too heavy and she’s a single mum. I knocked for her again knowing she was in but she didn’t answer. It’s definitely too big and heavy even if I suggested we both try to move it to hers we probably couldn’t. WIBU to call the couriers back and tell them I want to return it?! Would they even do that? I can’t open my front door properly because its so huge, cant move it elsewhere!

OP posts:
Swolleneye · 25/06/2019 21:57

YANBU but stop taking in her parcels!!

MagneticSingularity · 25/06/2019 22:03

I'm saying YABU because you keep taking the parcels in! Why when she's got so much form for not collecting them? You'll probably have to call the company it came from in order to have them send the couriers back. Just say no in future or put a sign on your door saying no deliveries accepted for next door.

Nextphonewontbesamsung · 25/06/2019 22:06

Yes she does sound utterly obnoxious and frankly a bit weird. Put a notice on your door for the couriers saying you don't accept parcels for her house.

Lottle · 25/06/2019 22:15

Put a sign on your door perhaps saying delivery drivers to only knock for parcels addressed for this property.

She's being ridiculous. If she can't lift it she could perhaps move it piece by piece in 5 min?

likeridingabike · 25/06/2019 22:16

The delivery company aren't going to come and pick it up, why would they? it's been delivered and signed for.

I would leave a note saying if she comes at x time on x day you will help her carry to her house in pieces, otherwise you will drag the box out to the kerb and she can collect it from there.

BummyKnocker · 25/06/2019 22:19

Don't open it, you can't interfere with her parcel, she may claim it is damaged or something.

You are too nice, I had a courier try and drop a huge box into me, once I saw the size of it I refused, I wouldn't be able to move in my own hallway!

Skiphoppa · 25/06/2019 22:29

Don’t take the parcels in anymore

What also is concerning is she’s not coming to get them, (I’m not saying she is doing this but just from past experiences which I have read on here) she might be telling the company she hasn’t received the goods as your not giving it to her and asking them for a refund or something. It’s just odd she’s not collecting them from you.

I never take in parcels for neighbors as they claim you have broken it, kept it or all sorts it’s just easier to be harsh and only accept your own parcels. Then you don’t have to take on problems like your facing which I have read on here before too

TitsInAbsentia · 25/06/2019 22:31

Just refuse deliveries, the driver will have to attempt another day. She'll soon start being in when she has to wait extra days for her stuff.

likeridingabike · 25/06/2019 22:32

Trouble is the OP has accepted it and it's blocking her hallway, the neighbour must want it, unless she's going to try to claim it hasn't been delivered. I would offer to help get it over to her and then never take anything in for her ever again.

homeishere · 25/06/2019 22:34

Don’t open the box/leave it outside or anything like that. You’ve signed for it and therefore it’s now your legal responsibility.

Deliver it to her and make this the last one you take in. Tell her, politely (seeing as you still have to live next door) that you won’t be accepting any more deliveries for her, and then don’t. But don’t expect her to take yours in either.

Knitwit99 · 25/06/2019 22:35

Doesn't she want it? Maybe she is waiting for a carpet to be fitted and is storing it at your house. CF.

Open it, take all the drawers out and move it piece by piece to right outside her front door, ring her bell and run away.

Thursday452poh · 25/06/2019 22:36

I’ve declined parcels before my neighbours as they don’t get them and we have to take them. Just say no sorry to the couriers, you don’t need an excuse or reason as you are not obliged to take it!
Just say nooooooooo

ButtonMoonLoon · 25/06/2019 22:36

Don’t separate it down, phone them tomorrow and ask them to come and collect it. I wouldn’t take any further responsibility for the aodding thing- don’t accept any more deliveries for her. Once she experiences the inconvenience of having to go to the sorting office to reorganise a delivery then hopefully you won’t be bothered by so many parcels

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 25/06/2019 22:36

I'd put a note saying she can unpack it and take it piece by piece otherwise you're going to send it back

jessicawessica · 25/06/2019 22:38

YANBU.
Keep the drawers (I would)Grin

MuddlingMackem · 25/06/2019 22:39

YHBVU to continue to take in parcels for her given her lack of collecting of them.

If you do put it outside her house and leave it, take a photo of it where you've put it, phone the courier company to let them know what you've done (take a note of the parcel number so they know which one you're talking about) and offer to email the photo to them. Just in case she tries to claim that she never received the parcel.

MuddlingMackem · 25/06/2019 22:40

And for those saying get the couriers to come back and collect it - they won't. They've done their job, they aren't going to come back and do more unpaid.

Swiftier · 25/06/2019 22:42

Our neighbours were doing this. I work from home some days and my DH works shifts so often around during the day. Almost daily parcels for the NDN were being delivered - they were at work, why not get stuff delivered to work? Or if you can’t do that pay extra for evening or weekend delivery. I get it occasional stuff is fine but when it’s several every single week it’s really annoying. Especially when DH is trying to sleep and the delivery wakes him up. They also didn’t collect the parcels and so after a while we just stopped bothering to drop them round. Eventually they realised they would have to collect them and instead of knocking and talking to us, left a note through the door asking us to put the parcels on their doorstep. We did that for what we had at that time and then stopped taking any deliveries, just refusing them. We never get bothered by delivery guys now Wink So no, YANBU and you just need to get rid of what you currently have and stop accepting anything else for her.

DNAwrangler · 25/06/2019 22:42

So what's her plan then?! Pay money for a heavy box to sit in her neighbour's hallway? The mind boggles..

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 22:43

@Knitwit99 and run away

Haha!!!

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BumandChips · 25/06/2019 22:45

Too heavy for her, but not for you? Hmm she’s a CF!

notsohippychick · 25/06/2019 22:47

I take parcels in all the time as I work from home. And I don’t mind doing it but this is above and beyond anything I would accept!

Cheeky mare. No more! And why on earth doesn’t she ever answer her door?!!!

IWantMyHatBack · 25/06/2019 22:54

I'd carry on taking in parcels and just keep them. She'll soon get the message Grin

IWantMyHatBack · 25/06/2019 22:55

Or put a note through her door saying you'll stick it on Facebook marketplace if she doesn't come and get it Grin

JemSynergy · 25/06/2019 22:57

Just say no! I don't understand why people find this so difficult. Once you say it a few times the drivers stop knocking as they know not to bother.