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Next doors pissing parcels WIBU

226 replies

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 20:40

Moved almost 3 months ago, waiting to go back to uni so I’m in maybe 60% of daytime hours. Next door is also a single mum and doesn’t work. I hear her in most of the time I’m in.

In the 3 months I’ve lived here, I’ve had delivery people knock for her packages to be left here between 1-3 times a week. Every week. She never introduced herself, I have seen her a few times over the garden fence and said Hi, tried to initiate chit chat when seeing her on the front but she doesn’t seem to want to talk (completely understand that).

Out of all these parcels she has never come to pick them up, the delivery people always say they will put a note through her door so she knows they’re here. I’ve always waited a day or two then taken them round, usually when there’s a few.

On Thursday I accepted a package for her then another man appeared, they brought a huge really heavy box with a picture of a chest of drawers on! He said he was pretty sure he heard someone in the house but no answer so I took it anyway. It’s far too heavy for me to even move slightly. So it’s been here since thursday and she still hasn’t come round. I put a note through her door this morning asking her to come get it and she put one back through mine (?!) saying she can’t because it will be too heavy and she’s a single mum. I knocked for her again knowing she was in but she didn’t answer. It’s definitely too big and heavy even if I suggested we both try to move it to hers we probably couldn’t. WIBU to call the couriers back and tell them I want to return it?! Would they even do that? I can’t open my front door properly because its so huge, cant move it elsewhere!

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Itwouldtakemuchmorethanthis · 25/06/2019 21:24

Open it. Walk it round in bits and drop it on her doormat.

Raspberrytruffle · 25/06/2019 21:25

Shes taking the piss and is also a cf of the highest! First I'd start refusing all parcels for the lazy mare, secondly put a final not saying if she does not get the draws removed within 24 hours they will a) get turfed out in to the street or b) they will get advertised as for free on Facebook

Runbitchrun · 25/06/2019 21:25

I’d let her know she has until _ time to come and remove it from your property, then it’ll be put on a selling site. And DON’T take in anything else for this CF.

PeoniesarePink · 25/06/2019 21:25

Put a sign on your door PARCELS FOR THIS ADDRESS ONLY

Problem solved.

We had to the same with our NDN, she works from home and has commercial stuff delivered that filled my hallway for 2 days last time before she could be arsed to get it. Never again.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 25/06/2019 21:25

Tell her if she doesn't collect by (pick a date) you will consider it a gift and will kept.

Or charge her £5/day storage fee, or something.

And as others have suggested - never,NEVER take in anything for her again.

You are a good neighbour, but she doesn't deserve you.

bellabasset · 25/06/2019 21:27

I'm with spangly pop, keep it and use it.

topcat2014 · 25/06/2019 21:29

Small envelopes, the odd box of shoes, I can see why that happens.

Chest of Drawers - no, once that started heading up my path it would be going straight back to the van.

INeedAFlerken · 25/06/2019 21:29

Knock on her door again and tell her you're pushing it out the front of your house. She can sort it out or let it be nicked, her choice. ANd never take in parcels for her again.

Sparklesocks · 25/06/2019 21:29

I would go round and tell her you need the space so unless she collects it by X time/Y day you will be arranging for the couriers to collect. And then refuse to sign for anything for her going forward.

Sportsnight · 25/06/2019 21:31

She sounds like she might struggle with social interaction, however, that’s not your look out, and she’s daft to keep ordering stuff online if she can’t even open the door to a postman!

Grumpelstilskin · 25/06/2019 21:33

Drag it outside your door and leave it. It will probably be gone soon.... Wink

ticking · 25/06/2019 21:34

ah now, 1st one i've disagreed with the majority!!

I think that as you have taken it in, you are now responsible for it. I think you have to now deal with it.

But learn the lesson - take no more parcels!!

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 21:37

I didn’t even think about opening it to separate the pieces! I will separate it down and notify Grin her that it’s much less heavy and give her another 2 days to come get it otherwise i’ll take all your advice and will leave it on her garden. I don’t want to cause a huge fuss after 3 months of living here but will make a sign for inside my window stating my addresses parcels only. I feel like that’s as aggressive as I can be

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Akire · 25/06/2019 21:39

Will the company bother? She’s paid for it and it’s been delivered, hardly their fault to pay for collection and issue a refund on goods.

Soontobe60 · 25/06/2019 21:40

Noooo! Don't do that. Don't open it at all. If it's damaged you could be held liable!
Just leave her a note tonight telling her that you have arranged for it to be collected by the courier tomorrow afternoon. She needs to come and get it!

EmmaLouisLou · 25/06/2019 21:41

She’s a cf! Put a note through her door (as that seems to be the way she communicates) saying you’re also a single mum, it’s her set of drawers if she no longer wants it you’ll stick it on a selling site on ‘date’. She can take it piece by piece if it’s too heavy in one go.

Don’t accept any more parcels for her. Our NDN used to do this, never came to collect. I work from home and must have been the only person that opened the door during the day on our street so I was ending up with 7-8 parcels a day for different neighbours. It interrupted my work so much that I stopped accepting any. Drove me mad.

Giraffey1 · 25/06/2019 21:42

You are not a parcel depot. Do NOT take in any more parcels. It’s beyond me why you have taken them in, especially the last one.
Get your dad or whoever to deposit the last one outside CF neighbour’s house and leave her a note to that is what you have done, and that you won’t take any more deliveries for her.

Notnownotneverever · 25/06/2019 21:44

It’s cheeky on her part, yes, but I never understand why people get in these situations by accepting more than the first couple of parcels. Just refuse. Especially when the delivery is a chest of drawers...just refuse at that point. She probably puts your address on the ‘comments/additional info’ part of the delivery info when she orders stuff. Just say stop accepting the parcels. And return the chest of drawers.

Sparklfairy · 25/06/2019 21:44

In my flats the couriers just ring all the bells in the hope that someone is in. I took one in for NDN once and then knocked on her door myself - she was in but didn't get out as quick as me. Driver didn't leave a card.

Today my bell rang, went down and NDN was already on the stairs taking her parcel in. That's when she told me they just ring all the bells and never leave cards!

minisoksmakehardwork · 25/06/2019 21:46

Is there any info about the company it came from?

Tbh I'd be ringing them if there was and letting them know that you signed for them as you were asked by courier, who couldn't raise an answer. Let them know the neighbour is refusing to come and collect them. They might say it's not their problem. You might find she's changed her mind and has claimed non-delivery and been refunded while the parcel clogs up your hall.

LadyRannaldini · 25/06/2019 21:46

Our neighbour had a notice on her door Parecels accepted only for this address. She had the grace to look very sheepish when she had to come and collect one from here.

Honeyroar · 25/06/2019 21:49

Don't go to any trouble separating it into bits. Put a note through her door saying she needs to organise someone to come and pick it up in the next 24 hours or you will leave it in your garden at her own risk. Tell her you do not have the room or patience to accept, store or deliver her parcels, that you've had them cluttering your flat for X days already without any effort from her to collect them.

I wouldn't worry a jot about upsetting her - she's not remotely concerned about being neighbourly towards you.. She doesn't sound like the type of neighbour you'll end up friends with!

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 25/06/2019 21:49

Do the delivery drivers come to your door or does she put on the Delivery Note to leave at number 47?

As for notes ? Sod that !
I'd press the bell till the battery ran out !

LadyFidgetAndHerHandbag · 25/06/2019 21:50

I would reply to her note saying that you will help her move it piece by piece if she comes by whatever date you decide. After that you will sell it on or give it to charity.
Then like others have said you need to stop taking parcels in for her. I used to work from home and got parcels for several people, one neighbour even put "please leave with flat 3" in the delivery instructions. I liked the neighbour and the parcels were small so I let it go but in your situation I'd put your foot down.

Yabbers · 25/06/2019 21:56

You shouldn’t have taken it in.
I’ve stopped taking parcels for my neighbour as they never came to get them. It’s easy enough to say no.