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Next doors pissing parcels WIBU

226 replies

Lovelost01 · 25/06/2019 20:40

Moved almost 3 months ago, waiting to go back to uni so I’m in maybe 60% of daytime hours. Next door is also a single mum and doesn’t work. I hear her in most of the time I’m in.

In the 3 months I’ve lived here, I’ve had delivery people knock for her packages to be left here between 1-3 times a week. Every week. She never introduced herself, I have seen her a few times over the garden fence and said Hi, tried to initiate chit chat when seeing her on the front but she doesn’t seem to want to talk (completely understand that).

Out of all these parcels she has never come to pick them up, the delivery people always say they will put a note through her door so she knows they’re here. I’ve always waited a day or two then taken them round, usually when there’s a few.

On Thursday I accepted a package for her then another man appeared, they brought a huge really heavy box with a picture of a chest of drawers on! He said he was pretty sure he heard someone in the house but no answer so I took it anyway. It’s far too heavy for me to even move slightly. So it’s been here since thursday and she still hasn’t come round. I put a note through her door this morning asking her to come get it and she put one back through mine (?!) saying she can’t because it will be too heavy and she’s a single mum. I knocked for her again knowing she was in but she didn’t answer. It’s definitely too big and heavy even if I suggested we both try to move it to hers we probably couldn’t. WIBU to call the couriers back and tell them I want to return it?! Would they even do that? I can’t open my front door properly because its so huge, cant move it elsewhere!

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HumptyNumptyNooNoo · 25/06/2019 20:53

Maybe she has anxiety about strangers ? ( although she should stop ordering stuff then !) sorry that you are going through this -maybe put a note on your door saying you only accept deliveries for your own address .

sockatoe · 25/06/2019 20:53

Why would you do that? Stop taking the parcels!!!

Akire · 25/06/2019 20:53

Id open the box and post it piece
at time over the fence. Stick up a sign saying I DO NOT take in parcels for number 27

Hairyheadphones · 25/06/2019 20:53

Send it back and stick a note on your door stating that you don’t accept parcels for neighbours. She’s so cheeky!

SpanglyPop · 25/06/2019 20:54

Better plan - keep the chest of drawers - build them and use them in your house. When eventually one day she might come to get them deny all knowledge.

RavenLG · 25/06/2019 20:56

Send note back "If you don't remove your parcel from my house by xxx date then I will be advertising them as free to first available person to collect on facebook"
Cheeky bitch. Don't accept any more parcels.

ChesterDrawsDoesntExist · 25/06/2019 20:56

Contact the company who sent them and tell them that she is refusing collection, won't come to the door to you and they should organise a courier to pick them back up. They should be made aware she isn't cooperating to get them and will likely demand a replacement set as you have hers.

Take no more parcels in for her of course.

Passthecherrycoke · 25/06/2019 20:56

The couriers aren’t going to collect it unless you pay them.

I would put another note through her door to say if they’re not collected in 24 hours you’re going to leave it outside her door

You might just have to open the box and separate it into the smaller components

Queenoftheashes · 25/06/2019 20:57

Wtaf! What a freak! I think I’d just put it out the front and let her know it’s outside for her to arrange collection. Wtf does she think you’re going to do with it? Arrange some men to heave it over?

tenlittlecygnets · 25/06/2019 20:59

She is insane. Never take in another parcel for her.

AnthonyCrowley · 25/06/2019 21:00

Yes, open the box and frisbee each individual bit at her front door.

1CantPickAName · 25/06/2019 21:00

I’d send her a note to say that your dad and brother will bring it to her door on xxx date (there’s no point causing any anamosity unnecessarily if you can help her out a bit), but do put in the note that you too are a single parent and how did she expect you to deliver it to her when you know she was in when the delivery driver delivered it, and you will not be accepting anymore deliveries for her. Get your dad and brother to leave it on her doorstep if she doesn’t answer.

Perhaps if she had been a bit friendlier you might have helped her to put it together!

SpanglyPop · 25/06/2019 21:02

@1CantPickAName

Don't be a doormat or tell the OP to be such a doormat.

5greenflowers · 25/06/2019 21:04

She's so rude!

Dutchesss · 25/06/2019 21:06

Keep her note, call the couriers and for goodness sake refuse all parcels from now on.

Hairyheadphones · 25/06/2019 21:08

Actually I’d knock again and tell her to take the furniture piece by piece.

Yugi · 25/06/2019 21:11

Send a note saying you are leaving it in the street and then leave it outside.

BlueSkiesLies · 25/06/2019 21:15

don't accept any more parcels for her

also get a mate to help you move it outside her front door and tell her its outside

JamOnTheCarpet · 25/06/2019 21:15

Is it flat pack, or already built?

I'd open the box and put all the pieces on her doorstep if it's not one big heavy piece. Yes, it's a lot of effort, but you want rid of it.

Definitely stick a sign on/near the door to say you won't take parcels for neighbours.

Cherrysoup · 25/06/2019 21:15

Actually I’d knock again and tell her to take the furniture piece by piece.

Exactly. She comes round, undoes packaging, takes drawers one by one if necessary.

Gusthetheatrecat · 25/06/2019 21:16

Just FYI a heavy chest of drawers is quite easy to move if you take the drawers out and move them one at a time. The empty frame is then much lighter and you can often pick it up by yourself (I've done this a few times and am by no means strong).
So you could leave the pieces outside her place - preferably open to the elements to make a point!

BlueSkiesLies · 25/06/2019 21:16

Actually I’d knock again and tell her to take the furniture piece by piece.

Good plan!

This is how I got my 4x PAX wardrobes upstairs to my attic bedroom by myself a few years ago. Opened the cardboard outside and moved them piece by piece.

Meyoumeanmeh · 25/06/2019 21:17

Actually I’d knock again and tell her to take the furniture piece by piece.

If she declines then tell her you will arrange for it to be collected and returned and then stick a note on your door saying NOT TAKING PARCELS FOR NUMBER X or just refuse every single time someone knocks.
I would actually be tempted to answer the door to a courier then walk next door and knock and see if she answers.

I wonder if she suffers from agoraphobia and anxiety and can’t get her deliveries any other way?- still not your problem though.

Pinkyyy · 25/06/2019 21:17

I'd have to send her a snotty note to be honest, she's a huge CF.

Beautiful3 · 25/06/2019 21:20

I'd post her a note to say what time you and your dad will be bringing it round, as you are struggling to open/close your front door because of it. If she ignores you then leave it outside her house.