To feel envious of people that can afford holidays?

[Ella1980]

I'm a full-time TA and my fiancé works in social care ft. Just feel so sad that we can't afford to take the kids away. Ex earns £105k+ pa so at least they'll get a holiday with him. Anybody else in a similar position? It just feels so unfair but I feel selfish for feeling jealous of not getting a break with the family 😢

How much do you earn and what hours?

Actually OP should be entitled to holidays. She's doing an important, difficult job and getting paid shitty wages. TAs, care workers etc should all be paid much more than they are at present.

There is no such thing as can't afford

Christ almighty. Listen to yourself.

Ok don't put pressure on yourself :) if you can afford a weekend away or a couple of days fine -but if not look round & see whats available locally or a bus trip/coach ride away that you could do in a day trip -if you have a car - great -you can spread your wings a little further - are there any canals nearby or rivers? sometime you can hire a small boat for a few hours (type with outboard motors) take/make a picnic with the dc (making cakes to take or sausage rolls) go to museums that are children friendly (& cheap or free) parks or forests for walk with bats & balls - go to castles - work out what you can afford to pay for & what you can do for free - your dc will remember those times that you spend on them & will enjoy it as much as the money your partner throws at them. :)

I work 8-4 Monday to Friday as a TA with high level SEN children.

Last year was pur first holiday in ten years and the kids' first by getting a loan from the credit union. Before that we used to stay in my mum's and go for long hikes or to the beach during the day, we'd take sandwiches and crisps and fizzy drinks or wed stay in my sisters house. The other day my eldest overheard me say last year was our first holiday and he asked why I'd lied, he said we'd gone on a holiday every year. Kids do not notice!! I know you want a holiday and telling you you'll have as good fun at home means nothing because I've so been there. Hope you get to get somewhere somehow in the next few years

I get 15per hour I'm in the north west. I love it.

But how much do you earn?
Just thinking that there are probably other jobs out there you could do in those hours and earn more.

Have a look at penniestopounds on Instagram - she has a weekly email plan to help you earn an extra £1k before start of summer holls. I’ve done bits of it and have made an easy £400 so far in the last month. We can’t afford a holiday either, but it’s kept me afloat!

I couldn't afford a holiday either OP but I was not prepared to accept that as final. I sell bits and bobs on eBay (stuff I buy from car boots, get from freecycle etc) and save every single penny that I make from that which = annual holiday.
It's really not impossible.

Can you get a weekend/ evening job, or your other half, a holiday fund, £9.50 Sun holiday?

@Snappedandfarted2019 I'd still struggle on that as partner is low earner.

Teaching jobs are very difficult to get in the current climate. A teacher with experience has no chance against one with none. Bizarre but that’s budgets. Part-time? Well, hens teeth springs to mind.

SEN holiday care is probably the best idea here for you. Why not look into that?

Also, LSA really isnt a good option for people who actually need a wage to survive, rather than a top-up wage. Retraining in the evening, or getting some experience in a different field while your children are with your DH is also a good idea.

I went to the local college a couple of years ago desperate to leave teaching and due to all the post grad quals and experience and the fact i was a paying customer I was told I could enter all the programmes at a high level, HR, Procurement....

You need to look for a better paid career. It is not too late.

I am not envious of lazing on the beach, you can have days out with picnics, a change of scenery

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My gosh! You haven't added anything of any value to the ops thread.
Your posts come across as very boastful/smug/unpleasant.

I'm sure your lives are hard but implying that you deserve it more than others is a bit shit.
Other people live very hard lives too, the difference being that most people aren't able to get those hardships funded by the government.

op, I get it.
It's ok to feel a bit shit about this stuff. I do at times.
I'm a lp (ds father dead). I can't afford holidays either. It's hard because ds is now noticing his friends going on lovely holidays and he desperately wants to go somewhere on a plane like his mates.

It is what it is unfortunately. I try to remember all the good stuff too, to balance it out.

Should it be all down to me or could I ask fiance to get another job too?

I’m on universal credit and my partner works and we’ve been on holiday this year granted it was nothing fancy just a week in my Aunty and uncles caravan in wales and we have 2 days booked in Blackpool in August because that’s all we can afford. Last year we got 2 holidays but that was also only to Blackpool I wish we could afford something more but there is never any money before our Blackpool holiday last year I hadn’t been on holiday in 3 years.

I work 8-4 Monday to Friday as a TA with high level SEN children.

Probably be less stressful to work as a teacher in a prep school. You could get a job if you sent out a letter to every private school you could commute to. You'd have smaller classes, they'd value your experience. It's not impossible to get a part time teaching job as you've said below; I've fluttered between full and part time for years in different schools.

So sorry you are unhappy, I feel for you we haven't been away for 10 years and it's hard listening to colleagues who go abroad between 2 and 4 times every year. It's so simple for people to say "save a tenner here and there" if it was that easy we'd all be doing it. I hope your circumstances do change for the better.

What about some private tutoring? That pays well per hour and you can choose when to work, like arranging it for the weeks you don’t have your dc.

We do go on holiday and low income.
We don't drink ,smoke or go out anywhere that costs much.
I tend to trawl online hours,and hours until I am mad and vow never to do again. ( but I do) . We went earlier this year , destination was decided by flight costs. Ok then suit cases cost more than the seats, and we had to leave here at 3am. Chose an aparthotel mainly based on cost and location. It was very reasonable.
I suppose to us holiday is priority, we enjoy it even we just sit and take it all in .
About 10 years ago a professional was giving dh stick about us going and him on 3 times our income did not. My dh pointed out that during their chat the professional smoked 2 cigarettes .I know this is not the case with most .
I think everyone should be able to get an annual holiday.

About £9 ph.

Get you're dp to get another job OP cant be all be down to you

@Ella1980 have you looked at matched betting? You can ear a few hundred a month doing it and could do it in the time the kids aren't with you. Check out oddsmonkey for a tutorial!

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wow. We both work, DD gets high rate care DLA and we don't get nowhere near as much incl wages/DLA and tax credits. we even have to decide if we heat or eat in the winter. no luxuries whatsoever. we have to keep two cars in the road to get to work (we live rurally) etc. don't get respite for DD (she is 11). I am on ADs from the stress of either working or caring, no break whatsoever.

not being mean (I know what caring is like) but that isnt right. I got benefits advice about me giving up work and claiming CA but it would reduce our income further and we really would be able to survive unless we rely on foodbanks