To think most women hope for a baby girl?

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I know, once the baby is here, we love them and wouldn't change them for anything, whatever their sex.

But before the baby arrives, I think that the majority of women want a daughter. If you google gender disappointment, there seem to be way more hits about wanting a girl than a boy. I think it's probably natural, seeing as we have all been little girls ourselves and so imagine them to be a known quantity, and people tend to be drawn to what is familiar. Of course it changes once the baby arrives and we get to know the special person they are.

So, controversial, but AIBU?

@DistanceCall That’s a very good point. I do see what you mean.
Maybe the majority have no preference at all, but in the small number who do have a preference, there’s a tendancy towards wanting a girl.

It’s clear this has really struck a nerve for some people. I don’t mean to offend anyone, I don’t have any children myself, so not coming at it from any angle. Just remarking on what I have observed and seeing if others think similarly.
I do admit it’s not the most scientific of investigations

How do you explain that some men just hate women

Why would that even be a topic of conversation with them?
I mean some women hate men, I'm not about to start telling my boys that some women hate men.
Take people as you find them, that's what I do.

During my first pregnancy I really hoped for a boy, I ended up with twins, boy and girl. Couldn’t have been more delighted :D but my initial longing was for a boy - no particular reason I can think of, except to say I had always hoped I could name one of my children after my grandfather who raised me from birth until I turned 15 when he passed away.

I was hoping for a boy on both of mine, and got two boys. I was in the camp of I really didn’t mind as long as they were healthy.

But that little bit of me was looking forward to having boys.

Just to clarify thought I never said all women want girls or have gender disappointment with boys, just that most women want girls at least initially?

that makes no sense at all? no - i'm a woman and i didnt give a shiny shit what sex my child was/is at any point in my pg or beyond - dont put your views on me

To be completely honest, yes. And I got my perfect baby girl. Not going to lie, she’s my dream come true.

Maybe it’s because I don’t have a good relationship with my Mum.

I’m very girly. I love pink, I love shopping etc. but I honestly don’t care if DD doesn’t like all that stuff. My Mum always said she wanted a tomboy, and then got me... I just want her to be herself and to be happy.

I secretly wanted a boy, and was relieved and ecstatic when he was! But now, the second I'm hoping for a girl.

I always wanted all boys

I had zero preference and just hoped I had a healthy baby that was born alive, I have a boy and am a bit of a ladette in some ways, we love football, etc but I guess if I had a girl we would have done girly things, I will not have any more babies but if I did, I think a boy would suit me! 💙

I really wanted boys as I had a bit of a complicated relationship with my DM. Once I had my 2 boys, I did have a hankering for a girl, but I wasn't able to have any more. I don't miss not having a girl.

I always wanted a boy. Luckily I got two!

No, I'll be TTC soon and although I'll be happy just to have a healthy baby, if I had a preference I'd have a boy.

I've seen so many of these threads over the years on MN and this one is following the same trajectory.

How do you keep them safe when such a high percentage gets sexually assaulted

You educate the ones perpetrating the assaults. Boys, usually. I'm a mother of boys - this statistic should worry me as much as a mother of girls.

How do you explain the facts of life when media tells them that they can be a boy by just wishing it

And vice versa, obviously.

How do you explain that some men just hate women

See comment above about educating boys who grow into men.

How do you keep their reputation safe when every drunken mistake gets plastered over instagram

This isn't just girls either.

I strongly dislike the way these threads always hit a low point of chucking around dodgy statistics and inevitable 'Christ I'd HATE a girl!' type-comments.

We all love our children. Let's not sink to that kind of crap.

I wanted a boy with my first but definitely a girl second time. Luckily I got my way both times!

(Although obviously would have been fine with a girl & healthy was the number one wish. But if I could have chosen a boy I would have, both times & it worked out that way anyway)

What a load of tosh. I wanted a healthy baby, both times, end of. Absolutely no preference for a girl. And if most disappointed people are ‘disappointed’ with a boy why is the baby girls who are murdered and not boys in so many countries?

I honestly had no preference at all.

Well said @NeckPainChairSearch, I feel the same on all your points and also the reputation safe one is both girls and boys.
I'd hate to be a kid in the age of social media and glad I had my teen years before all this crap was invented!

I was convinced I would have a girl ... for years before pregnancy.

13 week scan I knew it was a boy as the outline of his face was just like his dad ... it was amazing to see.

It took a little adjustment but I wasn’t disappointed.... of course I was right ( about the image ) and my little 7 month baby boy is just amazing , I always think if we didn’t have sex that day and fall pregnant I would have a totally different child and I would never have know this amazing little baby, so glad fate handed me such a healthy happy bubba x x

Yes really wanted a girl

I have many friends who felt the same

Yes, I really wanted a girl, but only for my second pregnancy and only after I got a boy first. Absolutely ridiculous statement.

if most disappointed people are ‘disappointed’ with a boy why is the baby girls who are murdered and not boys in so many countries

There complex, religious, socio-economic reasons etc across the globe. However, the OP is - I assume - talking about trends and opinions closer to home.

I didn't either. Wanted a boy and got one :-)

No, I really wanted a boy. It would have been nice to have a girl second time round though.

I definitely wanted a boy rather than a girl.