To think most women hope for a baby girl?

[Rowennaravenclaw]

I know, once the baby is here, we love them and wouldn't change them for anything, whatever their sex.

But before the baby arrives, I think that the majority of women want a daughter. If you google gender disappointment, there seem to be way more hits about wanting a girl than a boy. I think it's probably natural, seeing as we have all been little girls ourselves and so imagine them to be a known quantity, and people tend to be drawn to what is familiar. Of course it changes once the baby arrives and we get to know the special person they are.

So, controversial, but AIBU?

I hoped for a girl with my first, and I don't know why! With second one, I didn't hope for another girl exactly, but that was what I expected. It took a while to get get used to having a son. Lots of my friends wanted boys more though. I agree that this gender disappointment thing online seems to often be centred around people wanting girls, though.

Nope I didn't either so I think you are being reasonable!

Going by this thread, though, it seems most have a preference, just largely other way round!

Yabu i wanted boys.
Im a tom boy.
Girls are at risk of pg, rape etc
Have to give birth
Our family seems to have easy boys and difficult girls.
I have 2 girls and they truly have been difficult.
I think in general toddler girls are harder then possibly switches to boys.

I can't understand why people want girls who then likely feel they need to wear make up (some wont leave the house without it)

But before the baby arrives, I think that the majority of women want a daughter. If you google gender disappointment, there seem to be way more hits about wanting a girl than a boy.

Don't you see the error in that reasoning? It may be the case that most women who are disappointed were hoping for a baby girl. But that doesn't mean that most women hope for a baby girl - only most of those who are disappointed.

In my experience, the vast majority of women may have a slight preference beforehand, but are certainly not disappointed once they have their baby.

I love being the mother of a boy.

I actually wanted 2 of each sex because I only had sisters. It was great to have same sex siblings but I still wanted a brother so in my head 2 of each gender means everyone has a brother and a sister. I always thought if you just want 2 then same sex is easier.

Oh, and don't I think that Googling stuff gives you an accurate vision of anything. Doctors tell patients not to Google their symptoms for very good reasons.

What a load of shite.....clearly no better things to be thinking about if you are bothered if it's a girl or boy.

I think that this thread will continue to attract a majority of parents with boys who will say that YABU. However, I'm tempted to say that YANBU.

I have both girls and boys and didn't have a preference, but over the years, I have heard FAR more 'ooohhh....I'd love a girl' type comments. Insensitive, makes no sense, etc. but there it is.

No - really wanted a boy! Always wanted a son

I genuinely didn't care. I got one of each.

I just really wanted a healthy baby.

I really really didn't care either way.

@Rowennaravenclaw
The problem with your vote is that most who will reply will have sons and won’t admit they wanted a girl even if they did.
I remember my cousin really wanted a girl and during her 2nd pregnancy she cried when she found out it was another boy you’d never know it from her social media posts.

Sorry OP but grow the fuck up. I bet you were a bridezilla (if you’re married!)

I didn’t get to give birth to my babies, I choose 2 adoptive sons. Not for their gender but for their advertised profiles and my immediate feelings that I wanted to be their mum.

Any mother should be grateful that they raise the next generation. Gender is the luck of the draw, not a deal breaker.

I dreamt of being a mum but never ever once did I consider their gender.

No, we were only going to have one child and both me and DH really wanted a boy.
He was fab, so we had another 2, DH decided he'd quite like a DD, while I still wanted a boy. We had 2 further DS's.
We have one nephew and 7 nieces, and I'm still glad I had boys.

I have both girls and boys and didn't have a preference, but over the years, I have heard FAR more 'ooohhh....I'd love a girl' type comments. Insensitive, makes no sense, etc. but there it is.

Yes, but that doesn't mean that MOST WOMEN want a baby girl. It means that MOST WOMEN WHO COMPLAIN wanted a baby girl. It's two completely different things.

I have a boy and am very glad I do for wholly selfish reasons.

I will never have to see him sobbing with period pain, not taken seriously because he's 'just a girl', and all the other sexist bullshit I've had to put up with over the years, and like the saying goes their pain is our pain.

Boys toys are loads better too

I didn't care at all with my first. Did want DS2 to be a boy so he'd be company for DS1 though. Some people were surprised I wanted another boy. I think a lot of people think boy then girl is the ideal.

It's not. Everyone's own family set up is right for them

I wanted a healthy baby. The sex didn’t matter!

Oh, and I don't have children. One of the many reasons is that I would probably love having a boy, but the thought of having a girl - due to reasons having to do with my personal history - fills me with horror.

Have a girl, wanted a girl, pregnant with second, want a girl again 😊🤞

Pretty much everyone who complains about gender disappointment is a boy mum who wanted a girl. So YANBU to think that more women want daughters. They expect to be “friends” and do girly things together.

What absolute rubbish OP