Couples holding hands is really cheesy beyond the teenage years

[HamptonLucy]

I've been watching several episodes of Escape to the Country (please don't judge me too harshly). Almost all the couples clutch each others hands on the sofa and cling on to one another for dear life when they're trundling around the countryside with lovely Alistair, Nicki Chapman or Jules.

Do you think it's a bit cheesy? The Obamas, the Macrons, Harry & Meghan, the Clooneys - all serial offenders.

Early 30s here and me and DH are always holding hands, I don't think we are cheesy!

Held DH's hand until the day he died - together for nearly 50 years. Would love to be holding it now.

Proseccoagain

@Proseccoagain DM and DF were exactly the same and also married almost 50 years until he died. DM is about to go into hospice care and it comforts me to know DM believes she will soon be holding his hand again.

How sad and sour to object to the companiable and affectionate holding of handed

(hands, not handed)

I work with my DH and we actively have to stop ourselves holding hands or going in for a kiss, even after 11 years as colleagues in a relationship.

It's natural, not for show - we don't WANT to make a thing of it, because it isn't professional!

If that makes me juvenile, I'm fine with that. It would be a sad day if I ever stopped wanting to hold his hand. Fuck that noise.

Bump.
I think it's a sign of control and insecurity esp if I man tells you he likes doing this all the time when you havent even met yet.
Or in their opinion a relationship doesnt count if you arent into hugging or holding hands in public.

My partner and I hold hands (late 30's, 2 years together) because we love each other and we like to hold hands...it's quite simple.

If this thread were representative, you would see couples going down the road holding hands all the time. Actually, you really don't. I really don't think that the OP is the exception, rather than the rule as mostpeople on this thread are making out!

I like it and love seeing old couples holding hands, it’s really cute.

I hate hand holding, all that sweat, I've never done it with any boyfriend.

Also when you come to a bollard you have to break apart anyway

I cannot bear couples who can't possibly walk in single file lest they don't clutch on to one another for a nano second. Meaning I'm railroaded into the road - although these days I just bang square into them

I’ve been with my partner now for nearly 25 years, I haven’t held his hand for nearly 24! He shows affection for me in different ways ( bags of jelly tots!)

Are you actually Melania Trump OP? I love a hand-hold. Plus I'm not 100% steady on my feet and DP has anxiety and gets nervous away from home. We don't just do it to be cutesy!

Nope married for 48 years still hold hands - tough if you don't like it

DH and I are both in our late 50’s and always hold hands. Why do you think it’s cheesy? It’s what people who love each other do!

As for the Escape To The Country couples, I believe they are told to hold hands, which is why it looks awkward.

I will never stop holding hands with my DH.

My mum used to always go to hold my hand when crossing the road if we were out and about...this continued until she died at 65. She never held my hand unless we were crossing the road, even though we were both grown women, she was never really affectionate at any other time, but I never really knew if it was for my benefit or hers. I miss my mum holding my hand 😭.

I think like any other PDA context is important.

We hold hands often when on a stroll in the country or sitting at a restaurant at a table for two.

When couples insist on walking side by side on a busy pavement and linking hands taking up unnecessary space it’s inconsiderate. My friend and her partner who do it all through dinner with dp and me whilst chatting to us I find a bit cringy.