Couples holding hands is really cheesy beyond the teenage years

[HamptonLucy]

I've been watching several episodes of Escape to the Country (please don't judge me too harshly). Almost all the couples clutch each others hands on the sofa and cling on to one another for dear life when they're trundling around the countryside with lovely Alistair, Nicki Chapman or Jules.

Do you think it's a bit cheesy? The Obamas, the Macrons, Harry & Meghan, the Clooneys - all serial offenders.

I couldn’t care less if you portray it as a teenager act, (we all at times want to relive our teenage years )

Personally I think it’s lovely, it’s a simple act of love and tenderness. A quality that most marriages need.

Don't hold your partners hand then
Simple

YABU except regarding Escape To The Country. Its like the producers find weird floppy people who need to hang on to one another to stay upright. They still hold hands when negotiating the tiny twisting low ceilinged steps into the kitchen (which is invariably bigger than my house yet decried as being too small. Too small for what??)

I love holding hands with DH, we regularly walk to and from places this way and I hope our future children grow up seeing this as a positive demonstration of physical touch in a relationship. I'm not one for kissing and canoodling in public but holding hands is fine by me. YABU

@HamptonLucy

Of course YABU. And kind of rude.

I personally don't like holding hands and it makes my hands sweaty, and I find it quite restrictive to be honest. I like to walk close to DH, but walking along holding hands is not something I enjoy. I find it awkward, and a bit uncomfortable.

However, if other people want to do it, I have no issue with it at all.

I think it's sweet.

I saw a couple last week who were at LEAST 90, and they were walking along holding hands. Sooooooooo cute.

Me and dp are in our 30/40’s and we always do- be weird not too Xx

I think it's really nice to hold hands with someone regardless of age. Love holding my boyfriend's hand.

I'm wondering if you are making a distinction between TV shows and real life though? On TV shows I guess couples may be encouraged to act more loved up than normal. So would ott affection for TV be cheesy? Perhaps 🤔 I'm not sure

You’d hate me and my husband, OP- we often wake up to discover we’ve been holding hands in our sleep.

Yabu. It's what works for them.

Me and dp rarely hold hands in public.

We do cuddle in the sofa but not all the time. Sometimes we both sit at either end of it. Not fallen out of anything but like our own space.

We rarely even cuddle up in bed. Sometimes on a weekend morning if we are dozing in bed.

However, if someone wants to always hold hands or always cuddle up. Fair play to them.

No cringe from me, even though it's not for me personally

I saw an elderly couple (I would guess 80+) walking along holding hands the other day. I thought it was so cute and lovely that they still hold hands after, presumably, being together a long time.

For a moment I thought you must have seen DH and me this morning, holding hands at the local shops. We're in our sixties

DH and I always hold hands and I can't see any reason why, if you start holding hands, you would ever stop at any age.
I also love to see pensioners holding hands.

DH and I have always held hands and always will. If it's cold and we're out he'll often cuddle me up inside his coat, or he'll drop a quick kiss on top of my head. Couldn't care less if it's cheesy, we're very happy.

I wish DH and I could hold hands more but when we go out together one of us is generally pushing the pushchair :(

My hand would have to be cold and attached to my dead body before I'd hold my dh hand in public, bleurgh. I really am not a fan of grown people out in public clinging on to each other

I think it’s really nice, I’d like to be able to do it in public.

My DH has abnormally warm hands and mine get very cold.

So we are teenagers in the winter as I can't get enough of him and his hot hands and in the summer we stand a very respectable distance apart whilst I drown in a pool of my own sweat.

Is that Ok?

Eh? This is a bizarre thread! Of course it's normal for couples to hold hands! DH and I do it all the time, my DParents have been married 40 years and they're always holding hands.

It's fine if you're not naturally tactile but don't knock those who are.

I couldn't give a shit if anyone thinks it's cheesy. I'm in my mid 30s, have (soon to be) 4 kids with my partner and we hold hands when we can, which with the kids isn't very often, but we do when we can. We even sit holding hands watching tv and have fallen asleep like it.

Two Heads of State holding hands with their spouses whilst on official business - cheesy

My grandparents - married 77 years and held hands where ever they went x

You've still not told us what your approved methods of affection are?

I enjoy holding my husband’s hand and love seeing other couples do the same. It’s not as if we are fondling each other in public.

DH and I always do. His parents still do and they're in their 80s. I think it's lovely.

My ex who was a lot younger than me, used to insist on holding hands and whilst I thought it was super romantic and flattering , I was hyper aware of what passers-by were thinking.
It was the only time I loved the rain as I would have to use an umbrella which I used to accidentally poke him with , so he wouldn't know I was embarrassed I was.