Couples holding hands is really cheesy beyond the teenage years

[HamptonLucy]

I've been watching several episodes of Escape to the Country (please don't judge me too harshly). Almost all the couples clutch each others hands on the sofa and cling on to one another for dear life when they're trundling around the countryside with lovely Alistair, Nicki Chapman or Jules.

Do you think it's a bit cheesy? The Obamas, the Macrons, Harry & Meghan, the Clooneys - all serial offenders.

@TitaniaMcGrath you are by no stretch of the imagination a radical feminist. Or any kind of feminist.The woefully angry way in which you are patronising women here and declaring they don't gave a right to their own feelings is one of the finest emulations of misogyny I think I've seen in a long time. You are a bona fida phoney.

winnie, it's a parody thing. A leaden one.

@MamaLazarou Oh!!!! Doh. I didn't get that Having a good chuckle now.

I like the sound of these dominant on top positions

@Quintella Oh cringe I totally didn't get it!!! Bahhhh ha ha ha. Leaving my posts up to amuse others. Sorry to the poster I ranted at. X

It actually melted my heart
See this is the kind of thing we have all internalised without even knowing the full impact of being immersed in the patriarchy, sentimentality and head-tilted pinkification awwness of female conditioning from the first seconds of our lives.

It did not actually melt your heart. That is physically impossible!!! It could have (should have) made you vomit, scream, rage etc etc. But if it had actually melted your heart you wouldn't be on MN now!

You’d hate me and my husband, OP- we often wake up to discover we’ve been holding hands in our sleep.

DP and I do this too!

I like the sound of these dominant on top positions

Please please put down "Fifty Shades of Grey" and read something that might get you woke

Titania, at least try and be amusing.

Oh dear single? You would want to chuck cold water over us. Been together 12 years and according to dd me and my stud muffin Dh are always kissing in public, carrying on like tickling, dh put me over his shoulder in the butchers and carried me and my bag of shopping outside to the car ! We treat every day like it's our last holding hands and tell each other multiple times daily how much we love each other. Ah mAkes you sick OP

Studmuffin

Please don’t ever ever say that in public again

always kissing in public, carrying on like tickling, dh put me over his shoulder in the butchers and carried me and my bag of shopping outside to the car

I'd rather live nextdoor to Fred and Rose West.

Totally agree with you OP. I hate affection in any form myself and I hate to see others being affectionate. Makes me want to barf.

@Quintella, it’s performance coupling. The stage before and after performance parenting

and after tickling one another in the butcher shop they go home and stare at the walls in steely silence!

it’s performance coupling. The stage before and after performance parenting

You've nailed it I think.
The interesting thing is the internalised pressure that makes some women feel this is good or worthy of visually assaulting others with.

@Raspberrytruffle
dh put me over his shoulder in the butchers and carried me and my bag of shopping outside to the car

So for any onlookers this was a stronger, bigger Male physically assaulting and potentially kidnapping a woman. If I had seen this I would have called the police.

I hope Raspberrytruffle is joking.

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Please please put down "Fifty Shades of Grey" and read something that might get you woke'

 what would you suggest @TitaniaMcGrath

Wow some posters are so serious about this. Weirdly so.
Today me and husband were doing the gardening. Husband walked over to me asked if I wanted to see what he'd been doing, I said yes and as we were walking he held his hand out for me to hold. There we were, walking in our garden together holding hands and no one can see us. We just like doing it. Shock horror..

I'd rather live nextdoor to Fred and Rose West

😂

Interesting thread to start posting on titaniamcgrath. Welcome to mumsnet.

Notice how in the pic of Macron, he has his hand in the dominant "on top" position. So not only cheesy and cringeworthy but also perpetuating deeply conditioned stereotypes about who is in charge in the heterosexual patriarchy

I don’t think Bridgette Macron is a great example of some weak submissive woman 😂 seeing as how she groomed Emmanuel Macron as a 15 year old in her late thirties and he ended up staying with his groomer.

We hold hands for a while, but then I get hot and want my hand back. I love it for a short while.

I think putting my hands down DH's trousers to hold his bum would be very comforting. I wouldn't do it in public, but I can see the appeal of it. Comfortable.

The examples the OP gives do not seem to be those I see- usually it is people whom you feel seem very grateful to be in a relationship, either perhaps because they found love when unexpected, or as they would not be deemed attractive by many others.