Couples holding hands is really cheesy beyond the teenage years

[HamptonLucy]

I've been watching several episodes of Escape to the Country (please don't judge me too harshly). Almost all the couples clutch each others hands on the sofa and cling on to one another for dear life when they're trundling around the countryside with lovely Alistair, Nicki Chapman or Jules.

Do you think it's a bit cheesy? The Obamas, the Macrons, Harry & Meghan, the Clooneys - all serial offenders.

OP you sound like a shrivelled old prune. Life is for embracing, and loved ones are a part of that.

My grandparents were all repressed emotionally from their churchy, disapproving, judgemental upbringings. It was so sad. I thought we'd left that attitude behind, but no, seems it's alive and well in you!

I’ve seen elderly couples walking up to church holding hands, @LittleAndOften from super conservative church backgrounds! So not all repressed They were actually one of the first couples that came to mind when I saw this thread - I hope DH and I still hold hands when we’re pushing 90. I think it’s lovely.

God, no. I’m in my early forties and have been with DH since our early twenties and we love to hold hands and even—gasp!—kiss in public.

I think it's really nice to see an elderly couple holding hands. For me we've always held hands which is great for me now as I've recently suffered a brain haemorrhage which has affected the vision in my right eye so feel safer holding my DH hand.

I'm long term single and have no objection to couples holding hands. It's sweet.

God knows - we could all do with a bit of sweetness. My 14yo holds my hand sometimes- is that cringy?

I've just been out with my DH to our local, booked a babysitter for our 2 girls. We had a lovely walk there and back, and yes, shock horror, we held hands! If that was cheesy, so what?? It was lovely and we don't do it nearly enough!! 🤣

Been married for 38yrs still hold hands in public it just seems so natural so I don't see any need to stop now. Do you feel its cheesy for young couples to hold hands OP or is it just us old fuddy duddies that can't, because I demand equality and no ageism please.

I'm with you 100% OP. Holding hands with a man in public infantilizes strong women.

I have been with my partner for 22 years and cant remember the last time we held hands walking along! Its just not something we do!

Notice how in the pic of Macron, he has his hand in the dominant "on top" position. So not only cheesy and cringeworthy but also perpetuating deeply conditioned stereotypes about who is in charge in the heterosexual patriarchy

Does anyone find that Titania McGrath persona funny? It's so heavy handed and lacking any kind of wit.

Almost 19 out of 20 posters disagree with you@HamptonLucyNearly 200 votes so far. And you only opened the thread 20 minutes ago!
What does THAT tell you.... ???

That there are lots of cheesy people on this thread

And, sadly, a lot of women have internalized the misogyny they are surrounded by and bought into the myth that they need a man to cling on to (for support) and prove this to other women.

It is perpetuating patriarchal oppression.

While I'm not a hand holder myself, don't dislike it, just don't do it, I noticed straight away in Australia, it's definitely a thing. Many if not most couples hold hands going for walk (also a thing here).

That's interesting, hand holding being more of a thing in other countries.

I enjoy perpetuating patriarchal oppression by holding hands with my husband sometimes.

After 20 years together the only time we get to hold hands is walking into the supermarket on the rare occasion we don't have the kids with us. All other times we have a kids hand in ours.
I think it's nice.

Love a bit of hand holding, PDA and being dip-kisses in the supermarket. I’m a sucker for romance though!

Notice how in the pic of Macron, he has his hand in the dominant "on top" position. So not only cheesy and cringeworthy but also perpetuating deeply conditioned stereotypes about who is in charge in the heterosexual patriarchy

My DH has his hand in the dominant 'on top' position when we hold hands. Because he's nearly a foot taller than me, so obviously his hand will be on top of mine. Otherwise, it would be just a little bit uncomfortable.

The saddest thing in the world is the person who wants judge and set parameters on how others express their love for eachother in such subtle ways and harmless ways. It hurts nobody and is rather lovely to see. You don't sound very nice.

I enjoy perpetuating patriarchal oppression by holding hands with my husband sometimes

Which is why there is still so much work for radical intersectionalist feminism to do.

I think the fact you think that perhaps shows some inferiority complex of your own?

People who write . So unnecessary. Do you think it's a bit cheesy?

My DH has his hand in the dominant 'on top' position when we hold hands. Because he's nearly a foot taller than me

So not only are you visually assaulting others but you are also broadcasting to other women that you are willfully putting yourself in danger - by being with a person who is physically much bigger and stronger than you.

@TitaniaMcGrath yikes I think you've misunderstood feminsm entirely. Your prescriptive notions which pertain to know exactly what other women feel about their relationships with men is embarassing. How could you know? All you know is how is makes you feel and for some reason you feel bad and you make priggish and supercillious judegements based on things you don't know. Back to the books.

@winniestone37 I don't think she's being serious 😁