Couples holding hands is really cheesy beyond the teenage years

[HamptonLucy]

I've been watching several episodes of Escape to the Country (please don't judge me too harshly). Almost all the couples clutch each others hands on the sofa and cling on to one another for dear life when they're trundling around the countryside with lovely Alistair, Nicki Chapman or Jules.

Do you think it's a bit cheesy? The Obamas, the Macrons, Harry & Meghan, the Clooneys - all serial offenders.

I'm the least romantic person you could come across but I hold hands with DH and think nothing of it if I see other couples doing so.

Strange objection, OP.

Some people like holding hands, some don't. I like holding DH's hand even though we're in our 50s, but I wouldn't judge anyone else for not doing so.

I also wouldn't expect to be judged for it, and don't give a toss if someone else doesn't like it or thinks it's cheesy, it's really none of their business.

We always hold hands my hubby is 48 im just 50 if i dont reach for his hand when we are out he thinks im in a mood lol , i bove seeing pensioners holding hands just to see that love and affection still there warms my heart. My fave part of my DH is his hands

Oh dear you would hate dp and me. We hold hands all the time.

Always end up holding my DP hand in public just feels natural.
My grandparents would always hold hands when they were out sadly GF passed away a year ago and I’m sure GM would love to hold his hand one more time instead of worrying about certain people ‘thinking it’s cheesy’

I agree with you, OP. Usually just teens or those on a date/pulling. With regards to the TV programme, I suspect that the couples are told to hold hands. In others' company, it can be seen as rude/poor etiquette to hold hands.

I know what you mean, OP, about not patronising elderly hand holding couples with the 'awwww, aren't they adorable' type comments as though they're miniature daschunds. They've probably had more sex than anyone under 50 has had hot dinners. And hopefully are still having. I like to see older couples holding hands as it gives you hope that relationships can continue to flourish over the decades. Of course some of these hand holdy elders might be recent hookups in the first flush of filth!

Nope.
I think each to their own.

One person might hold someone's hand to show affection, another person might find it "cheesy" like you do.

I personally like it. I'm not one to.judge how other people do it don't show their affection

Ybu

Genuinely, have no idea why you would even give a shit. What a weird thing to think about.

Makes me happy that me & DP still hold hands. Not all the time, but often. I’d be more worried about our relationship if we didn’t. It’s. Nice way of showing affection and solidarity.

My favourite thing in the world is seeing elderly couples hold hands. I rarely get to hold hands with DH because all of the tiny hands that need to be held when out and about but when we are on our own we do.

I would love to hold hands, my husband won't, I'm jealous of people who hold hands!

I love holding DH's hand.

You sound a bit bitter Op.

I don't think I've ever noticed if another couple are holding hands or not before

We are in our late 20s and have been together 12 years, we still hold hands all the time. Never gave it a second thought, it also prevents DH from bum squeezing which I hate in public.

Holding hands is a great PDA which is actually not cringe or performance coupling! Tbh I think on tv they probs encourage it, or guests are not natural on the show so maybe hand holding keeps them calm.

I like hand holding and arm linking

DH and I still hold hands. We have a 4 year old so and are like ships in the night so on the rare occasion we are out alone it’s nice. Reminds me we are still a couple!

Us too @TalkinAboutManetManet! And we're 50!

You sound a bit bitter Op

It can be a bit sickly... ( ducks and hides), linking arms is better.I shun physical touch though.
( not really )

“Clutch”, “...for dear life”...I think you may be looking at life through a very different, and somewhat sadder lens, than many others. Why would you not want to be physically close to the person you love in public....? What is “cheesy” about complicit affection? “Serial offenders”....Really? What exactly is the transgression, the crime, you allude to? Funnily enough for some of us real joy exists through a glance from/at, or touch from, our partner. Even after many years. Holding hands is a transmission of all we have gone though, and stand for, together.

You’re judging people for holding hands, yet you watch bollocks like Escape To The Country?
THIS!!!

I still hold my dh’s hand - been married now for nearly 26 years.

I'm sitting on the sofa holding DH's hand. We hold hands when we're falling asleep, I love his hands, so why not?

I've been with dh 20 years we still hold hands.