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To use the name Alfie for a girl?

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Notverycreative · 20/06/2019 17:50

I really really really love the name, we were actually hoping for a boy so we could uae this. We won't be able to have any more children after this and have just found out are having a girl.
WIBU to call her Alfreda and use the nickname Alfie?

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GreenTulips · 23/06/2019 08:08

However kids can be very cruel and teasing may be an issue

Kids? There’s grown adults on here slating this poor woman’s name choice - wonder where the kids might get it from?

Kokeshi123 · 23/06/2019 08:12

Oh gosh, where to start?

It's really grim to call your daughter a boy's name (would you call a boy Margaret?). It's even worse to use a boy's name because you wanted a boy. Alfie is a silly name anyway, even for a boy. And Alfreda is a whole new dimension of awful.

BertrandRussell · 23/06/2019 08:13

Oh for fuck’s sake. Sometimes it’s as if feminism never happened. On what planet is it OK to call a girl a boy’s name? Particularly if it’s because you were hoping for a boy? What sort of message is that sending! If your favourite name for a girl was Emily would you use it for a boy? No you wouldn’t. So why do it to a girl?

Horsemenoftheaclopalypse · 23/06/2019 08:20

You are so very unreasonable.

Change your own name to awful Alfreda aka alfie if you think it’s so fecking marvellous

Ihatehashtags · 23/06/2019 08:22

Not a girls name sorry

JacquesHammer · 23/06/2019 08:22

I know an Alfie, she’s the same age as me.

Her full name is Althea.

NeverSayFreelance · 23/06/2019 08:26

I commented on the post about someone wanting to make their daughter James and said you're setting them up for a life of "James but she's a girl" - but this thread just reminded me of something.

At school my best friend had a boys name and it was a nightmare for her. Teachers who had made boy-girl seating plans would be angry on discovering she was a girl and they had to change her plans. She accidentally ended up assigned to the boys PE class. Teachers would ask "[Name], is he here?" And she would sheepishly raise her hand. It's not great. She now uses a nickname and hardly anyone calls her her real name.

twattymctwatterson · 23/06/2019 08:35

This thread is such bollocks. Of course op posted on AIBU rather than baby names about how she really wanted a boy so was going to call her DD a boys name. Then doesn't return to the thread 🙄

Bwekfusth · 23/06/2019 08:51

Initially I thought absolutely not, would be like calling a daughter Dave, but Alfreda - yes.

Bwekfusth · 23/06/2019 08:53

Thought I have to say I'm not keen on Alfreda either

C0untDucku1a · 23/06/2019 09:01

If i was to have another girl. Im not. I like winifred, so freddie / fred. Like in Angel.

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