To use the name Alfie for a girl?

[Notverycreative]

I really really really love the name, we were actually hoping for a boy so we could uae this. We won't be able to have any more children after this and have just found out are having a girl.
WIBU to call her Alfreda and use the nickname Alfie?

Lots of boys names used for girls

Freddy
Charlie
Sam
Ronnie
George
Chris

So why not Alfie

Start a trend!!! Someone did!

Alfie is a boys name. And not even a nice name.

I love it for a girl, if I had gone school with a female Alfie I would have thought she was desperately cool.

That said my girls name is traditionally a boys name but the female smelling is much more effeminate and I think its very hit and miss what people make of it.

If you really love it go with it but really own it.

Alfreda is basically Alfredo. You’re naming the child you wished was a boy after pasta and then giving them a male nickname.

Are you sure you should be having children?!

I know of an ALFIA
up to you tho, all names seem to be used for girl or boy these days!

If the baby's a girl, give her up for adoption and try again. Or call her Wereallywantedaboy.

I know an Alfieri which is pretty.

I've known girls called Henri, Nick and Jack (short for the obvious girls' full names). I also knew a girl called Dave (the logic for this was unclear, as she had a completely unrelated name, like Jane). Personally I quite like boys' names for girls. Alfreda's a crap name, though (sorry)!

Alfie is not a nice name. And is dirt common.

Aphra is a great name (Aphra Behn was an early female playwright who wrote great plays) and you could shorten it to Affie?

@GreenTulips

The issue is, that the OP states clearly that she hoped for a boy, and has found out it's a girl, but still wants to give the baby girl a boys name.

No-one names their daughter Charlie, Ronnie, Sam, George, Chris or Freddy.. They are just pen-names/ shortened names. On their birth certificate it would say Charlotte, Veronica, Samantha, Georgina, Christina, and Frederica.

Same with Henri, Nick, and Jack. Their actual names would be Henrietta, Nicola, and Jacqueline...

Calling your daughter something that is categorically a man's name, (from birth,) because you wanted a boy - is wrong, weird, and worrying.

We have a female cat called Alfie and I think it suits her.

I love James for a girl

I think Althea is much nicer than Alfreda if you want a 'full name' and Alfie works as a NN for both, imho.

I have a friend with a daughter called Fred!

Alfie for a girl is bad enough without the backstory. Please learn to be delighted that you’re having a girl!

‘Alfreda’ is way more eyebrow raising than Alfie these days, so if you’re really set on that just call her that.

What about Alfre, like the actress Alfre Woodard? It’s the more modern version of Alfreda and it sounds similar to Alfie.

It would make me kind of sad in a ‘ mum must have wanted a boy and she ended up with me’ instead kind of way if I was Alfie growing up

Along with the poor Thomasinas, Wileminas and (worst of all) Nigellas. I Don't care if it's a flower. It's horrible.

@Palegreenstars

'James' for a girl? WTF?

How about Malcolm or Graham or Colin or Arnold? Lovely names for a girl, all of them!

@bellagood I know 2 female Charlie's with just Charlie on their BC not Charlotte

@Palegreenstars I love James for girls too, I love boys names for girls in general, my son would have been Elliot had he been a girl. But i dislike like alfie as a name. I know an Althea which is a nice alternative.

@bellagood well its good enough for Deedpool's kid lol

Alfie is awful for either a girl or boy.

I hate Alfie for a girl but quite like the idea of a female Fred.

I actually think it’s a really nice name for a girl- reminds me of Freddie and Billie and, one I recently became aware of and fell in love with because of a new character on Casualty, Archie. I grew up around several girls with ‘boys’ names and it never raised as much as an eyebrow amongst our classmates and peers. I think it’s sweet, I’d say go for it!

I also love James for a girl and Elliot. I'd say go for it!

"we were actually hoping for a boy"
So are you going to fess up to your daughter when she asks you 'Mum, why am I called Alfie?'. Because she will ask. She'll get so many people asking her why she's called Alfie, she will want to know too. How will you handle that one? 'Well dear, I prioritised my love for a boy's name over giving you a name that suited you.'

"WIBU to call her Alfreda and use the nickname Alfie?"
Well you might use the nickname, but she'll be lumbered with Alfreda on her birth certificate, passport, school register, every official document ... . I actually know an Alfreda. Nobody calls her Alfie.

Get a grip and consider your daughter. Does she really need to be lumbered by a dated name/boy's nickname combo? Well, does she?

If you must use the name, get a dog. Or a cat. Or a goldfish. But show a little consideration for the daughter you're willing to subject to this name.