To use the name Alfie for a girl?

[Notverycreative]

I really really really love the name, we were actually hoping for a boy so we could uae this. We won't be able to have any more children after this and have just found out are having a girl.
WIBU to call her Alfreda and use the nickname Alfie?

Sorry, I don't like Alfie for a girl or a boy. How about Aoife for a similar but less common name?

@Notverycreative

No. Don't do it. Alfie for a girl is dreadful. And Alfreda for her 'full name?' Really?!

The fact you said you were hoping for a boy, and you are having a girl and giving her a boy's name disturbs me a bit. Why are you insistent on giving a girl a boy's name?

@Whyrmengreattiltheygottabgreat, I knew a Henri, short for Henrietta, also during my student days. :)

No, call her something else. She's a person in her own right - not a 'non-son'

I think you should get some counselling actually to help you get over your 'gender' disappointment.

I felt disappointed that dd2 was a girl when i had the scan but i now love her more than anything and feel quite ashamed that i was ever so stupid.

No, don't do it. It would be a crying shame for the child.

It's no 7 in cats' names, I saw a list recently

Why would you want to make life difficult for her? People have enough to deal with in life without their parents saddling them with a silly name as well!

@MuddlingMackem mines really was just Henry! She was American and apparently it was from an archaic Southern tradition of naming babies after their father, regardless of sex.

I think it's nice tbh. one of my DDs has a stereotypically male name (although it's more popular in the US for girls than it is here). Alfreda is a horrible name though, sorry

It would make me kind of sad in a ‘ mum must have wanted a boy and she ended up with me’ instead kind of way if I was Alfie growing up

What's it all about OP?
Elfie (Elfriede/a) better. Alfreda sounds like pasta sauce.

No, it smacks of we didn’t want you we wanted a boy. Please don’t do that to her. How about Aphia as an alternative?

I see Alphredo. Yum.

But no, you can't do this.

Every time she meets someone new and tells them her name in the future
Them “That’s an unusual name!”
Alfie “Yes, mum wanted a boy”

I love Alfie for a girl but not Alfreda. Just call her Alfie? Or shorten a different name? (Don't know what!)

I like Alfie for a girl

Silly

Call her Francesca? Then shorten to Alfie

Agree with Sansa that Elfie would make a good feminine alternative. Short for ... Elfine, Elphaba? (like the misunderstood witch in 'Wicked').

You can't really use Alfie, it is just so popular for boys right now.

Yabu

There's a female Alfie on radio X who works on the Chris moyles show, wonder if that's short for anything.

Oh don’t, I have a “boys” name and have spent my life listening to stupid comments about it being a boys name. Being put in the boys dorm on school trips etc. It’s very frustrating

Go Frankie instead.

Elfie is much better.

Add an S to the name so it sounds like Selfie. She'll be taking a lot of Selfies probably so why not?