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No sign of DH and DD - AIBU to feel really really worried?

317 replies

crazychemist · 19/06/2019 19:43

Starting to feel a bit panicky - AIBU?

DH picks DD (2.5) up from nursery on Wednesdays, usually at about 5.30. The nursery closes at 6.30. Sometimes he takes her to visit his grandmother before they come home.

She just called to ask if she can see them later in the week as he didn’t drop by today. So if they aren’t there, where are they??? The nursery closed over an hour ago.

AIBU to start to panic? DH doesn’t carry a mobile phone, and I can’t phone his work/the nursery to find out what time he picked up as both are now closed. If he hadn’t picked her up, they’d have been phoning me, right?

OP posts:
cindersrella · 19/06/2019 20:24

I am glad they are back. I have a headache for you I think... What a relief 😅

Sugaronjam · 19/06/2019 20:24

Glad they're back safe.

needsleepzzz · 19/06/2019 20:24

Shop! Ffs

Xiaoxiong · 19/06/2019 20:24

Fingers crossed for you. I'm relaxed about stuff like this but hours late with no way to get in contact is very worrying. There are almost no phone boxes left anymore and I'd be dubious about letting any stranger use my mobile, even if they had a child with them.

The other day a teenage girl rushed up to me in a panic saying she needed to use my phone to call her mum. Her English was poor and I must admit I was suspicious that she kept asking to dial the number herself on my phone so asked her to dictate her mum's number to me. As I was dialling she kept trying to take the phone and I had decided she was trying to mug me - when her mum pulled up in a car and ran out and hugged her and thanked me so much for helping her daughter and they both burst into tears BlushBlushBlush I didn't have the heart to tell her I thought her daughter was trying to steal my phone!!

GruciusMalfoy · 19/06/2019 20:24

So pleased to see they're home OK now. He definitely needs to keep a phone handy from now on.

ohbabybabyy · 19/06/2019 20:25

Oh what relief that must of been! Only just seen update!

TinklyLittleLaugh · 19/06/2019 20:25

Yep, I can see why your parents aren’t keen on him.

Inconsiderate manchild.

Floralnomad · 19/06/2019 20:25

I’d be absolutely furious , it shows a complete disregard for your feelings .

Bearbehind · 19/06/2019 20:25

Glad they’re back but that story doesn’t make sense - food and a run around at a service station doesn’t take that long.

NeckPainChairSearch · 19/06/2019 20:25

Thank goodness they're okay OP. Well done for staying calm now.

You sound as though you'll handle it well once DD is in bed.

Quartz2208 · 19/06/2019 20:25

So glad they are back

But really he didnt think you would be worried my god no wonder your parents have the view they have

He NEEDS a phone to be able to drop you a quick text to tell you that

Sorry he was a thoughtless bastard

Okeycokey1 · 19/06/2019 20:26

Hope they arrive back soon. If he doesn't have a mobile though, a breakdown could easily take this long. By the time he got to a phone box, waited for recovery etc.

AnonymousP · 19/06/2019 20:27

Thank God! Soooo relieved. Make sure the silly bugger has a phone in the car from now on!

coconuttelegraph · 19/06/2019 20:27

I'm glad they are back but really, he thought you wouldn't be worried?

Am I the only person who thinks that's quite insulting, he's suggesting you don't care that they didn't turn and who goes to a service station for tea in those circumstances?

Tbh he sounds a little odd

cheeseislife8 · 19/06/2019 20:27

So glad they're home safe OP. I'd be utterly losing my shit when she goes to bed!

Xiaoxiong · 19/06/2019 20:28

Oh x post. I'm so glad they're home but I have to say I am with your parents on this, they sound like perhaps they have the measure of him...

And I don't understand how he was at a service station feeding, changing and playing with a toddler for 2 hours!! That seems really odd.

Happinessbegins · 19/06/2019 20:28

He brought a 2 year old home from nursery at 8pm? That’s ridiculous.

LannieDuck · 19/06/2019 20:29

So pleased it's all turned out ok. I would have been in such a panic.

DobbyTheHouseElk · 19/06/2019 20:29

Are you happy with the explanation OP?

bigtoes · 19/06/2019 20:29

What is his reason for not having a fucking phone?!
I know I know, we coped fine in the 80s but FFS move with the times. Even if it's a brick phone he keeps in the car. It's so selfish I'm so cross for you !

Echobelly · 19/06/2019 20:29

I would be v annoyed at him... trouble is we're often not good at seeing things the way other people see them.

My DH is rubbish at keeping track of time and I wonder if yours just thought it was so quick that you wouldn't notice.

Have some Wine

Nofunkingworriesmate · 19/06/2019 20:30

2/3 hours for a toddler to have wee, food run about ? No way where has he really been!?? interrogate little one in the morning

Who the fuck doesn’t have a phone?

WeeDangerousSpike · 19/06/2019 20:32

Thank god! So relieved!

Seriously though wtf?! Do you not usually have tea together - why would he have dinner out without you?? Bizarre behaviour.

Bunnybigears · 19/06/2019 20:32

It sounds silly but I'm really not sure I could be in a relationship with someone who wont carry a phone. Very very selfish in my opinion and slightly controlling in that he can do what he wants and you just have to wait around and panic.

WhiskersPete · 19/06/2019 20:32

Glad she's OK OP. I would be tearing him a new one!

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