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Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:51

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

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boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:34

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Lizzie48 · 15/06/2019 18:35

@DecomposingComposers

The update was at 14:28. Though why you couldn't have looked it up for yourself I don't know. She says the bottle was almost full after the incident.

Do you believe her now??

gamerchick · 15/06/2019 18:36

Obviously. I don’t let my child drink juice, certainly not between meals, and if he squirted a bottle I’d take it off him immediately.

Obviously Grin

Man you can almost hear the clutching of pearls and lemon lips from here Grin

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:36

@TheCatDidSay fairly unusual situation and presumably not the situation here, as I'm sure OP would've mentioned it as the other mother would've said something?

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 15/06/2019 18:37

People can be so precious! You apologised and there is nothing more that can do. These things happen, I'm sure her own child will prove that point before too long.....

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 18:39

boobirdblue

I am going by what was written in the OP. Maybe it was hyperbole. Maybe it was only a few drops. But the mum saying that she saw the dd pour drink over the buggy and the op saying she intended to clear up the mess that sounds like more than a few drops.

So, if it was a small puddle of juice, then yes, I could imagine it staining the fabric.

You're also ignoring other posters saying that it would have caused them an issue because their child would have refused to sit in the wet pram. Should they also just suck it up too?

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:39

Obviously. I don’t let my child drink juice, certainly not between meals, and if he squirted a bottle I’d take it off him immediately

Grinobviously this makes you the best mother in the world ever....I mean what sort of stupid bitch gives their child juice in-between meals. Totally should not be allowed to parent a child they've no idea what they're doing.

Aaarrgghh · 15/06/2019 18:40

I probably would have tried to clean it immediately. The longer it is left the more soaked in it becomes. I don’t like the comment about treating pushchairs as precious, ours is and it’s a vital part of getting our daughter around. She has a special needs pushchair and needs to be in it and if it was wet and made more so by it soaking in it would be an inconvenience to me. And a possible health issue given my daughters health needs. I think the woman who’s pushchair got wet did over react because even if I’m annoyed I would remain calm until I understood exactly what happened, once I found out that the op was going to attend to the mess after securing her son I’d still be annoyed but I’d understand. For what it’s worth, my daughter is almost four and has developmental delay, she is obsessed with hair, she is very quick and if someone near has long hair she can usually grab it or at it before I’ve realised the situation, however I make it very clear she is in the wrong and not to do it, then apologise to the person immediately. I’ve never had an issue or a bad reaction from people and I feel it’s because I address the situation immediately. A lot of disabilities are hidden and I don’t expect people to know that my child has them. For what it’s worth, I don’t think op did anything wrong, it was a case of misunderstanding, assumptions and probably a last straw for the parent that day. Sometimes we can come across rude when we should remain calm, I’ve come across that way myself.

BlueMoon1103 · 15/06/2019 18:40

To everyone flaming me for my comment about ruining other peoples’ things, my DS has a white spotty insert in his pram and I’d a stranger’s kid spilled sticky stain likely juice all over it I’d be peeved, not saying I’d handle it the way that woman did but she had every right to be annoyed! Yes it’s a risk having something that could be ‘ruined’ but it is the owners choice and I wouldn’t not buy something I intend to take care of in case someone else’s child spills a drink on it...

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:40

@DecomposingComposers updated you've not read, try reading it?

TheCatDidSay · 15/06/2019 18:40

I wouldn’t of told the mum about my child’s issues as it wouldn’t of made a difference to the fact I was now going to have a terrible time getting my own toddler home due to what hers has done.

Lots of children have sensory issues too so not extremely rare.

Lizzie48 · 15/06/2019 18:41

Didn't you see my post, @DecomposingComposers about the 14:28 update? It couldn't have been much if the bottle was nearly full? Why are you still arguing the point? Do you know better than the OP?

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:41

You're also ignoring other posters saying that it would have caused them an issue because their child would have refused to sit in the wet pram. Should they also just suck it up too?

Not ignoring it, please read my posts .... FFS!

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 18:43

Lizzie48

I'm not disbelieving anyone. It's just difficult to ascertain how much is a little. Was the seat wet? Had it stained?

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:45

*@DecomposingComposers *
am going by what was written in the OP. Maybe it was hyperbole. Maybe it was only a few drops.

The clue is in the title, a little? You e surely read the title? If you think OP is lying why even bother answering g?

Peachsummer · 15/06/2019 18:46

Peachsummer the post is not about what didn't happen it's about what did happen.... try keeping to that?
If your DC’s dad let them run in front of a bus would it be ok because they hadn’t got squashed? Or would you be angry because they could have? AT THE TIME there was no guarantee that the DD wouldn’t squirt the buggy again. So the other mum was quite rightly annoyed watching the kid still standing there holding the bottle and able to squirt again.

Puddingmama2017 · 15/06/2019 18:46

There are a lot of parents here who could use their children causing a giant poonami in their pushchairs to realise that a bit of juice is no big deal.

OP, your child could have squirted juice over my actual child sitting in the buggy and I still wouldn’t have batted an eyelid.

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 18:48

And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made.

This is from the OP. That doesn't sound like a few drops. Why did the OP need to dry the other buggy if it was just a few drops?

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:48

@Peachsummer what the duck is your point???? OP asked if the other mother was being unreasonable, she didn't ask if she should give juice between leaks, if you OBVIOUSLY DO NOT, which is fucking weird anyway. She asked about a situation!

No one gives a duck how you parent your child, thank god!

Peachsummer · 15/06/2019 18:49

obviously this makes you the best mother in the world ever....I mean what sort of stupid bitch gives their child juice in-between meals
I totally agree. Sugar between meals is bad for your teeth.

gamerchick · 15/06/2019 18:50

peachsummer you seem to be taking this really personally. Have you had buggy wars in the past yourself with liquids to be able to compare it with being hit by a bus? Hmm

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:50

This is from the OP. That doesn't sound like a few drops. Why did the OP need to dry the other buggy if it was just a few drops?

Because she's a good decent person that would take the time even though it's only a few drops?

Why assume that she's lax?

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:51

@gamerchick I'm think @Peachsummer is horrified at the child having juice between meals OBVIOUSLY!

Lizzie48 · 15/06/2019 18:51

Don't you think that maybe the other mum was using hyperbole? It was the other mum suggesting that it was a lot of juice, the OP never said that. We don't even know that the seat was wet as a result,

You're just desperate to make the OP as much in the wrong as possible so you can slate her.

LillyBud · 15/06/2019 18:51

@boobirdblue I'm sorry but I had no idea what you were talking about, but apparently you're wrong, as google says I'm an authoritative parent Smile which means I set boundaries and rules but let my child also be independent. I don't let them run riot and ignore their behaviour, especially when it directly affects others in a negative way.

I have had my own child refuse to go into the pram, but like literally every single other parent I know I just fold them in half and let them have a paddy. I don't pander to them and spend half an hour trying to softly softly ask them to sit nicely in a pram for mummy while their big sister ruins other people's property.