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Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

464 replies

Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:51

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

OP posts:
DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 18:05

Ultimately, I do think that if you or your child damages someone else's property, even accidentally, you do have to suck it up, genuinely apologise and try to make it right.

Regardless of the rights and wrongs it definitely wasn't the other mum's fault in any way that her buggy hit juice spilled on it, was it?

Frequency · 15/06/2019 18:05

£1800 for something you sit an incontinent, drooling, snotty human with no sense of money or cleanliness in? And you then use it to push them around the dirty streets and muddy parks in the rain and sun?

Some people have more money than sense.

OP, don't worry about it. She's either a loon who thinks prams are a status symbol or she was having a bad day. I hope your next trip out goes better.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:06

I'm not saying that Op's daughter shouldn't be allowed to drink-just that she should be supervised.

Another ridiculous comment, this was a one off! Mother has two children and she was busy with one. Supervise a drink on the off chance that DD would do this?

@Peachsummer Unless I've missed something the DD only did it once so what's your point about taking the drink from her, it's irrelevant.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:07

@Frequency you also speak total sense, thank fuck sone people do!

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 18:07

anyone spending £1800 are not doing it for the good of their child, they're having it as a status symbol!

So what if they are? Do you walk past an expensive car and scratch it because you deem it to be a status symbol? It shouldn't matter how much someone spends on something, it doesn't mean that you can damage it or interfere with it.

ShittensAndKittens · 15/06/2019 18:07

you don’t allow your child to ruin something because you think it’s over the top. If a buggy is ruined by some juice being spilled on it, then it's clearly not fit for purpose

KinderSurpriseBump · 15/06/2019 18:08

OP you had good intentions to sort out the buggy as soon as your dc was strapped. However the other lady probably thought you weren't going to do anything about it that's why she was annoyed. It was just an accident and a misunderstanding. No need to let this annoy you. I'm sure you've got a lot on your plate at the moment, to worry about this. Just let it go! All the best Flowers

LizzieMacQueen · 15/06/2019 18:10

Actually it's not obvious from your OP if it was accidental or deliberate. Can you clarify OP?

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 18:10

Well if someone spilled blackcurrant juice on a lighter coloured fabric it would stain, so I guess that would ruin it. Doesn't mean it's not fit for purpose. If you don't give the child who sits in the pram blackcurrant it would be fit for your purpose, just not fit for the purpose of a stranger pouring juice into it.

Peachsummer · 15/06/2019 18:10

Peachsummer Unless I've missed something the DD only did it once so what's your point about taking the drink from her, it's irrelevant
The DD had already squirted juice once so the juice should have been taken away to prevent her doing it again. And if she has a habit of squirting juice she shouldn’t be allowed to hold it unsupervised.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:11

@diddl you have no evidence that the DD was playing around with the bottle, it took op by surprise.

You're not the perfect mother and I'm sure your DC let you down sometimes!

Personally had I been the other pushchair owner and seen OP struggling is offer help, say I'll move my pushchair and can I help etc. But then I'm a decent person who doesn't judge mothers whose children are acting like.. children.

diddl · 15/06/2019 18:12

"Sone people in MN @diddl are entrenched in making out that every event is avoidable as long as their as perfect parent as you!"

I'm not a perfect parent-not have I claimed to be'

Just that my kids never played about with drinks so never had the opportunity to spill on other people's stuff.

Hardly revolutionary!

Nonnymum · 15/06/2019 18:12

How about reading the room, noticing another mother was probably struggling slightly and having a bit of empathy?

I agree completely with this.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:13

@Peachsummer

SHE DIDN'T DO IT AGAIN! So what was the point of your comment?

It's about the other mothers reaction to the one off incident? Why add an imaginary issue to the mix?

You know how better to parent than the OP?

Macca84 · 15/06/2019 18:16

Of course YWNBU OP, at all. Cannot believe how weird some folk are about their kid's buggies - which are designed to cope with mess Grin

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:17

Just that my kids never played about with drinks so never had the opportunity to spill on other people's stuff.

My kids NEVER did that, you sound so fucking judgemental! You're one of THOSE mothers are t you. Standing looking down your pointy witch nose "my little Flossie and jimmy" they know better than that.... yuck! We all know the type, most other mothers keep well away.

Frequency · 15/06/2019 18:18

Just that my kids never played about with drinks so never had the opportunity to spill on other people's stuff

Given that children learn by playing I highly doubt the above is true, unless you're still hand-feeding them drinks from sippy cups they will have spilled/squirted/played with a drink. If they haven't yet, then they will in the future. It's what kids do.

Also, OP said her child has SN.

squeekywheel · 15/06/2019 18:22

@LizzieMacQueen

"Actually it's not obvious from your OP if it was accidental or deliberate. Can you clarify OP?"

She's three!! Everything is accidental!

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 18:22

I think there's a difference between squirting them at home, or over your own belongings, and squirting them over someone else's.

Lizzie48 · 15/06/2019 18:24

@DecomposingComposers

The OP said that the bottle was still nearly full, so it was only a few drops. I don't think it was in her OP, though, so it may well have given a misleading impression if you missed that update.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 18:25

I think there's a difference between squirting them at home, or over your own belongings, and squirting them over someone else's.

GrinGrinGrintell a three yes old with SN that..... Jesus MN has some strange people on it!

ichifanny · 15/06/2019 18:30

Does it matter if it was intentional or not or if other people’s kids would do it not , kids can be dicks with Juice and food and messy . The main point is the other mum could have been more understanding to the OP but the OP also need to be aware that kids acting like kids in public with other people’s property presses some people’s buttons and not take it to heart.

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 18:30

boobirdblue

No, maybe a 3 year old doesn't understand that, they don't understand a lot of things, which is why you as the parent need to watch what they are doing. You can't just let them damage property and then shrug it off saying they are only 3.

Lizzie48

Yes, I haven't seen that update. The OP makes it sound like it was quite a lot of drink.

Peachsummer · 15/06/2019 18:31

SHE DIDN'T DO IT AGAIN! So what was the point of your comment?
It’s all very well to say with hindsight “she didn’t do it again”. But at the time of the incident there was no way to know whether she’d do it again or not. So at that point the drink should have been removed to make sure she couldn’t do it again.

You know how better to parent than the OP?
Obviously. I don’t let my child drink juice, certainly not between meals, and if he squirted a bottle I’d take it off him immediately.

TheCatDidSay · 15/06/2019 18:33

Well it would of caused me an issue as my toddler would of refused to sit in her pushchair if it looks let alone is wet. She also refuses to walk after around 5 minutes so I would of been the parent stuck pushing the pushchair while carrying a toddler. She would rather throw herself on the floor and bite and hit her self than sit in a wet pushchair or walk further.

Dirty is fine but wet she will just not cope with. Her shoes cannot get wet the wind cannot blow her hair.

It might seem small but it could of caused a huge issue.