Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

[Millymollymandybestie]

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

Peachsummer what the duck is your point?
That if a child does something naughty with an item then the item should be removed to prevent the behaviour being repeated. If your child hit me with a stick I’d expect you to take the stick away. If your child squirted my buggy with a bottle I’d expect you to take the bottle away. Etc.

Also those ducks in my post should be fucks ...

fucking autocorrect!

OP please know that saying "I would of immediately turned into superwoman and grown an extra set of arms, whisked the buggy away to be professionally cleaned and then had the handle inlaid with diamonds as way of apology for the awful travesty! But of course it never would of occurred for me as my little darling is only allowed to drink filtered water flown in from the springs of purity in pretentiousville and they may only drink it whilst sat in a waterproofed room especially designed to contain such awful messes!" is what people say when their even slight inconvenience trumps another person struggling everytime, those people are empathy lacking selfish wankers.

@Peachsummer she was dealing with her other child, she moved her daughter away and job done....I would hate to parent like you.

Can I ask how many children you have and the age gap?

Lizzie48

It was the OP who said she was going to dry the seat and who then said that she intended to clear up the mess. Both of those statements suggest that the seat was wet and that it was more than a few drops.

Maybe she was exaggerating, but if she was, she can't really blame other posters for taking her at her word and basing their replies on what she wrote in the OP.

Maybe it was only a few drops. But the mum saying that she saw the dd pour drink over the buggy and the op saying she intended to clear up the mess that sounds like more than a few drops.

So, if it was a small puddle of juice, then yes, I could imagine it staining the fabric

The OP says the drink was squirted from a sports bottle, not poured from one with an open top. And the bottle was still nearly full.

No matter what the truth of the matter is, who goes over to a mother who is struggling to insert a toddler into a buggy to add to their burden?

As an aside, the idea that anyone would buy a buggy in a colour that might show up stains and hope to keep it pristine when the people being carried in it are wearing nappies is quite baffling.

You can't go wrong with a black buggy, folks.

But the fact that you're arguing the point so much suggests that you don't like being shown that you got it wrong, and that you just wanted the chance to have a really big go at the OP. She said it was only a little juice in her title if you look carefully.

She possibly didn't know how much it was initially when she discovered what was happening. Then she took the bottle away from her DD and saw that it was nearly full so not as bad as she had at first feared?

Peachsummer she was dealing with her other child, she moved her daughter away and job done
Job done in terms of the child being too far away to squirt the buggy again. But absolutely zero consequences for the child, who now thinks she can be naughty with no repercussions. At the very least the bottle should have been taken away and she should have been told “you can’t have it if I can’t trust you to behave with it”.

anyone spending £1800 are not doing it for the good of their child, they're having it as a status symbol!

😂 I love MN, everything is so black and white. I must just be posing rather than practical. I wanted a double pram/pushchair for my twins that was side by side so they could see each other when they were a bit bigger. I wanted the option of forward and inward facing. Easy to manoeuvre and fold whilst juggling twins and another DD with ASD. That one fit the criteria. Yes we paid for the colour frame and fabric we wanted and so fucking what, we wanted the nicest one. I don’t drive a shit car, is that purely because of status or because we work hard and that’s our standard of living? Shall I just sell that and downgrade to suit everyone else? 🙄 and yes I take it places, no i don’t leave it out in the rain, why would I? I don’t kick it through mud and keep the fabrics clean and wash the wheels off if they’re dirty. Same as I would with my car (and yes, you probably think my car is obscene too) haters goin hate, like I give a fuck!

@Peachsummer Job done in terms of the child being too far away to squirt the buggy again. But absolutely zero consequences for the child, who now thinks she can be naughty with no repercussions. At the very least the bottle should have been taken away and she should have been told “you can’t have it if I can’t trust you to behave with it”.

Fuck off telling others how to parent, you sound a vile nasty parent! No juice, no this, no that!

How many children do you have?

@Peachsummer the OP's DD is developmentally delayed, so wouldn't have understood? That's something that's been made very clear from the start.

I wouldn't worry about it OP. Stuff happens. I know a few parents in my family who always felt they are supermum - their kids never misbehave etc. They set excellent boundaries and their child never steps a foot out of line in public. In both cases they had poor relationships with their kids in adulthood (in one case it started during the teenage years where their "firm boundaries" didn't work anymore as their kid had no respect for them).

In reality occasionally kids do things they shouldn't - especially when they're 3 and have GDD. Ignore the idiots who usually know nothing about child development and have had an empathy bypass. Not even worth giving them the time of day.

Are people so fucking entitled that they don’t need to acknowledge stuff anymore? Are people so incapable of reprimanding children that they are suggesting this woman was outrageous for saying something to OP?

Jesus Christ. OP, you didn’t do anything wrong. But neither did this woman. Obviously if someone sees a child squirting sticky juice at their buggy it’s not unreasonable for them to be a bit “wtf are you going to sort this out” if you don’t seem to be. How is that hard to understand? You probably feel a bit embarrassed but that’s ok. These things happen.

Posters suggesting 1.8k for a buggy (most of the big brand buggies, the most popular, are all over 1k) is outrageous and somehow that means someone deserves to have their buggy damaged sound like horrible jealous and bitter people.

Lizzie48

And the title and the OP don't match.

The OP also wasn't posting in real time, as it happened, so by the time of writing the OP she knew the extent of the problem.

And no, I'm not desperate to prove anything. I just hate the attitude of "I'll do what I like and you must suck it up" that is coming over on here.

Why does it matter if people have nice things or expensive things? Why are people making it sound like that means they deserve their things being spoilt by others?

Why not just apologise profusely and offer to rectify whatever has happened? Why try to justify it and blame the person on the receiving end for not being understanding enough?

But it was always just a little juice. Why are you refusing to accept this? There's also nothing to suggest that this OP didn't care about the mess, she was planning to clean it up.

I've seen you on other threads trying to make the OP as guilty as possible rather than just accepting what they actually say.

*@Peachsummer she was dealing with her other child, she moved her daughter away and job done....I would hate to parent like you.

Can I ask how many children you have and the age gap

And how many of them have SN because I'm thinking this particular poster has not got a clue.

Peachsummer the OP's DD is developmentally delayed, so wouldn't have understood?
Even more reason to remove the bottle instead of just verbally telling her not to repeat the behaviour.

How many children do you have?
Do you really think I’m going to discuss my family with someone who’s rude and confrontational, uses the F word towards me and says I’m vile and nasty for politely expressing my opinion? You really need to address your attitude before criticising anyone else.

I've explained several times why the OP reads as if it was more than just a few spots of juice.

Where you there to know that the OP isn't accurate?

No, obviously, but neither were you. You freely admit you didn't see the 14:28 post; you have seen it now and refuse to admit that you could possibly be wrong.

Sports juice bottles are quite small, so if the bottle was nearly full it couldn't have been much juice that spilt.

I'm just wondering how strong people make their kids juice that it stains. Even blackcurrant barely has any colour if you use the concentrated ones.

And £1800 for a pushchair blows my mind... My car didn't even cost that much.

I read it, too, I think you've chosen to interpret it that way because you want to believe she was U, so you could criticise her and don't like being proved wrong.

Even more reason to remove the bottle instead of just verbally telling her not to repeat

She did t repeat the behaviour so no need, your child may need more intervention clearly this child once removed knew that it was inappropriate and stopped. Have you considered that your child lacks being able to just be told no and had to have things actually removed before bad behaviour stops. I found that if mine were told no and moved away that were able to understand that what they were doing was wrong f? Not sure why your child can't respond to a simple move away and stop doing that. You might want to work on that?

Do you really think I’m going to discuss my family with someone who’s rude and confrontational, uses the F word towards me and says I’m vile and nasty for politely expressing my opinion? You really need to address your attitude before criticising anyone else.

Did d t think you would, so I'll presume PFB and I'm such a prefect mother, I do everything the book tells me.

I'm not saying my opinion on the OP is right.

Some of it doesn't make sense if it was only a few spots but whatever.

I just think that if you are in the wrong then the best course of action is to genuinely apologise and then offer to remedy the situation, not blame the innocent party for not reacting in the manner that you would like and certainly not, as posters here have, blame them for owning expensive things.

My issue is more with the attitudes of other posters dismissing and minimising, rather than the OP.

@Peachsummer

Honestly you really sound both a bit ignorant and a bit nasty (I'm not sure in what proportion). You have no idea about OP's DD: her development or temperament. Maybe if she removed the bottle she would have had a meltdown and the whole situation would have become worse. She stopped her DD from getting more juice on someone else's buggy. That was what she needed to do. As for the juice that already got on - well it's a buggy in a busy park. It's unfortunate but it happens. You should expect that when you decide how much money you're going to spend on a buggy.

I read it, too, I think you've chosen to interpret it that way because you want to believe she was U, so you could criticise her and don't like being proved wrong.

Ok.