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Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:51

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 20:30

^e. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.
^

This is in my op why do people think I was doing nothing or going to do nothing ??

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squeekywheel · 15/06/2019 20:31

I've noticed that some people just read what they want and argue batshit bollocks accordingly. I think some of them need a shag or at least a good wank, tbh.

My buggy actually cost £1750. I still wouldn't have reacted like that woman, or some of the batshit people on here.

Today, I gave my son not only juice but an ICE CREAM between meals today. WHILE SITTING IN HIS BUGGY!!!!

Shock
squeekywheel · 15/06/2019 20:32

Because they failed primary school reading comprehension, obviously.

Sirzy · 15/06/2019 20:38

Ds chews the straps of any seat he is in so no chance of keeping anything pristine!

chocolatemademefat · 15/06/2019 20:38

I had my son at soft play and he emptied a fruit shoot into another mum’s shoes. 😣. I apologised but she was really angry. I offered her a coffee but nothing was going to calm her down. She’d left the shoes beside the sofa we were sitting at while she followed her children around soft play. I ended up taking my sons home because I couldn’t take her constant scowls.

Shit happens with kids. You’ll look back one day and laugh!

magicfarawaytrees · 15/06/2019 20:48

Yeah but you don’t know the background there. For all you know they might have been one of the few pairs of shoes she possesses. Or they may have been a rare treat to purchase. No one would admit that to you but a coffee won’t solve a situation such as that. She may own thousands of shoes but just be very precious about them.

On here (I’m not just referring to this thread by the way) there seems to be a lot of people who expect people to understand their needs (my child has additional needs/ I was stressed/ etc etc) but seem devoid of understanding that people might react in a shit way to shit moments because they are having a shit time of it too.

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 20:48

magicfarawaytree Bobbi would like response that read my posts not read what they want and then make up the rest

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Biancadelrioisback · 15/06/2019 20:49

I've read this thread. My jaw has literally dropped.

(some of) You lot are fucking batshit. The woman was fucking batshit. OP, you did nothing wrong.

My favourite post if the over dramatisation where the lady had to cancel her doctors appointment because a few drops of juice got on her pram.

OP, did the juice even land on the seat?

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 20:52

chocolatemademefat

What did you expect the woman's reaction would be? How did you think a cup of coffee was going to make that situation right?

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 20:52

biancia it was caught the bottom where the feet /legs go

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 20:53

So like the fabric bit there that was black and aqua

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Goldmandra · 15/06/2019 20:56

I do think however that if it had been my child, I would have stopped whatever I was doing and go and apologise straight away and help her clean the buggy,

You would have stopped putting the 20 month old in the buggy, put him down to run free where he could access a pond just so you could clean up a few teaspoons of juice from a buggy more quickly Shock

That is quite frankly terrifying!

Your need to work on your priorities.

magicfarawaytrees · 15/06/2019 20:57

OP, for some reason the other lady has reacted really badly to this situation. We only hear your side of the story remember, people do fill in the gaps or question your interpretation of things if it sounds a bit odd. They might be totally off the mark though, you were there so only you know.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 20:59

*Well, my 2 didn't get doubly incontinent in their pram, didn't spill drink or food in it, didn't make it messy or dirty. We just cleaned them up before they got in the pram and they didn't eat in there.

If you parented differently then that's great. It's your choice*

Yep again my parenting was about te child not the blood buggy.

Goldmandra · 15/06/2019 20:59

people do fill in the gaps or question your interpretation of things if it sounds a bit odd.

The OP's account has been clear, logical and consistent throughout.

It's the other posts that have been odd (to say the least).

Goldmandra · 15/06/2019 21:01

Loving the babies that were never incontinent in their pram!

Did you not use it until they were out of nappies then?

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 21:02

OP why have you posted in the first place then if you are so adamant you were completely correct? Do you only want positive responses?

Because that's what AIBU is all about?

BigRedLondonBus · 15/06/2019 21:02

chocolatemademefat

Sorry but did you expect her to not be annoyed?! You make it sound like it was her fault for leAving her shoes on the floor. In my local soft play that’s completely normal behaviour seems like you weren’t watching your child enough.

magicfarawaytrees · 15/06/2019 21:05

Not really boobirdblue, aibu- the clue is in the title that there may be an element of doubt in the correctness of one’s own reasonable behavior surely? Otherwise it’d just be a declarative statement.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 21:06

*Loving the babies that were never incontinent in their pram!

Did you not use it until they were out of nappies then?*

No they well so well parented and trained that they were told this cost us £1800 and I want it kept immaculate. Having been told that they were so well patented they just did t shit or wee whilst in the park in nappies or pants. I

My SC are so angry they only had £400 pranks and didn't have to think about what they were doing, didn't have to be cleaned up before getting in their buggy.

They're angry with me everyday, they wished they'd had more expensive and immaculate prams.. said no child ever.

Pixie2015 · 15/06/2019 21:07

Don’t get upset just ignore it - kids will be kids and mischief happens - try to think of it as a funny story to tell her when she is 18y some people need to chill out and realise how difficult it can be at times - I also believe in karma so think her little one will do something worse - don’t let it stop you from doing anything

SleepingStandingUp · 15/06/2019 21:08

who now thinks she can be naughty with no repercussions she wasn't naughty, she squeezed it and something happened. Her mom moved her and told her off. That's what happens when young children have accidents.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 21:10

@BigRedLondonBus most of us are saying op is not BU, just a few odd and restrictive and materialistic about buggy parents saying she is.

Sone of which have luckily left the thread to jet wash the buggy and teach their children not to drink juice between meals obviously!

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 21:15

Apologies @BigRedLondonBus I tagged you incorrectly, it should've been @magicfarawaytrees

magicfarawaytrees · 15/06/2019 21:20

Well I’m another ‘odd’ one then Grin