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Daughter squirted a little juice over another buggy

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Millymollymandybestie · 15/06/2019 12:51

So I have just been to the park with my dd 3 and ds 20 months. Getting ready to leave and trying to put my buggy refusing ds in the buggy and he’s really struggling.

Dd has global development delay and suspected asd. I had her on her reigns looped over the buggy while I was sorting my son out. She was drinking a drink from a sports bottle and while I was turned away she squirted the empty buggy next to me. I said dd don’t do that and continued to get ds in buggy but moved dd away. And was going to dry the other buggy when they were both secure.

The owner of the buggy came over said to me - you just watched you daughter squirt that all over my buggy. I said I am sorry and I was trying to get ds in the buggy when she did it, and that moved dd out of way and dealing with dd before I Could sort out what mess she made. She said that wasn’t good enough. I said I’ve apologised and not much more I can do.

The way she was with me she was so rude- her mannerisms and tone. You could see I had tried to deal with the situation and you can tell my dd isn’t your average 3 year old. If it was me I would have just said don’t worry that’s what kids do ?

Stuff like this is one of the reasons dh hates taking the kids out.

Sorry rant over. It may seem like a silly little thing but I just don’t think there is any need to be rude

OP posts:
mathanxiety · 15/06/2019 19:24

My buggy cost nearly £1800 and I keep it immaculate.

That takes the biscuit.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 19:24

Honestly you really sound both a bit ignorant and a bit nasty (I'm not sure in what proportion).

@Peachsummer this is so bloody true!

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 19:25

My buggy cost nearly £1800 and I keep it immaculate.

GrinGrinGrinGrinGrin

Sirzy · 15/06/2019 19:25

There is a lot of ignorance on this thread about autism and developmental delays.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 19:29

My buggy cost nearly £1800 and I keep it immaculate.*
*


Mine cost less than a quarter and I let my child get in muddy after jumping in puddles, eat ice cream in it and drop it, chew it, drink juice and spill it (as they all do!)

But then my parenting was about the child and not the immaculate buggy....

gamerchick · 15/06/2019 19:31

To be fair, that Buggy sounds like the dogs bollocks though.

NCbilliontimes · 15/06/2019 19:34

It’s only a bugaboo, just the best one for twins. A single silver cross is a grand and they’re a bastard to fold flat

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 19:35

What adult ever said, my DM was amazing she bought me a rolls Royce buggy and kept it immaculate? I wasn't allowed to mess it up an all, it was great.

Or

I remember jumping in puddles, eating ice cream and dripping it everywhere, playing in the rain, dropping stuff etc and my mum was always so not stressed.

Stealthymcstealth · 15/06/2019 19:38

Maybe the woman also had a very expensive buggy and that is why she was less than sympathetic or understanding. That is a sad thought though if it were the case, that a status symbol is more important than having a little understanding for a Mum struggling.

Helix1244 · 15/06/2019 19:38

Im not sure the gdd/asd is particularly relevant to what happened.
Kids do stuff like squirt drinks. The kid may have done it intentionally to annoy or not.
I think i would also have carried on strapping in as if you dont they wont let you try again. But would have taken the drink away. As an action -> consequence. (Plus mine wouldn't necessarily have stopped). And would have said how the poor child might get wet or sticky and we have to apologise.
I dont think i necessarily would just start wiping with a wet wipe, making it wetter/could further damage the fabric.
But be considering how i could prevent this in future. Maybe parking pushchair further from others, or different non squirty bottle if they would switch. But obviously if it's an accident then there would be no worries.

My dc did once run off in a park
Where there were picnics/gazebos etc and grabbed a child's juice carton and drank and squirted it on their coolbox. The people didnt return so we couldnt apologise.

NCbilliontimes · 15/06/2019 19:40

My kids do get messy? I can clean up afterwards. What I was saying was, if someone let their child squirt juice in my pushchair I’d be pissed off. What I didn’t say was I spent all this money and don’t let my kids sit in the pushchair, I just use it as an overpriced accessory to piss the other mums off. It’s a standard fucking pushchair that I keep clean. Do all you parents leave your kids strapped in there eating? Fucks sake.

boobirdblue · 15/06/2019 19:47

My kids do get messy? I can clean up afterwards. What I was saying was, if someone let their child squirt juice in my pushchair I’d be pissed off. What I didn’t say was I spent all this money and don’t let my kids sit in the pushchair, I just use it as an overpriced accessory to piss the other mums off. It’s a standard fucking pushchair that I keep clean. Do all you parents leave your kids strapped in there eating? Fucks sake.

No. It always but sometimes, sometimes after running in the park and mud and rain they need a rest, sometimes they drink in it, sometimes they eat in eat.

I don't base it on keeping it immaculate I base it on my child's needs at that time.

For example if the needed a drink I would t necessarily stop take them out to have a drink, I'd say yeah that's fine have a drink and carry on back home etc.

It's not about keeping the buggy immaculate it's about the child's needs.

So please don't make out like my kids didn't get out of the buggy, I've already said about mud, rain etc.

Goldmandra · 15/06/2019 19:48

There is a lot of ignorance on this thread about autism and developmental delays.

There's also an awful lot of people deliberately twisting things to give them an excuse to lay into the OP for kicks.

mathanxiety · 15/06/2019 19:48

Bugaboo fabric parts can all be spot cleaned or put in the washing machine. That is what makes them so handy for people who are ferrying around messy, incontinent little people.

Goldmandra · 15/06/2019 19:50

THE OP DIDN'T LET HER CHILD SQUIRT THE JUICE.

SHE STOPPED HER AS SOON AS SHE REALISED IT WAS HAPPENING AND ADDRESSED IT IN A DEVELOPMENTALLY APPROPRIATE WAY.

Thought the capitals might help the hard of understanding 😁

Stealthymcstealth · 15/06/2019 19:51

My son ate in his pushchair a lot because quite often it was the safest option when there were no high chairs available and I didn't restrict what he ate in it, I just cleaned it after.

This thread reminds me of when I saw woman at a country park who was beside herself because her expensive wellies got muddy! It's a very odd thing when an items main purpose is forgotten in the name of vanity/status.

Also I am not directing that comment at the PP with the expensive buggy, it sounds as though that was more of a practical purchase.

TheVanguardSix · 15/06/2019 19:52

Totally losing the point of this thread but I've been googling buggies and I can't even find an £1800 single or double buggy. Is it gilded?

Sirzy · 15/06/2019 19:52

I often did leave ds sat in his pushchair eating when he was younger, due to what we now now is muscle tone issues he couldn’t manage to sit in most cafe/restaurant high chairs so it was the obvious solution.

There is a difference between keeping it clean which most people do and as you said earlier and has been picked up on “keeping it immaculate” pushchairs aren’t designed to be immaculate they are designed to be practical! (As yours sounds like it is for your needs)

hazeyjane · 15/06/2019 19:52

Fucking hell. This thread is bringing me out in hives. Arseholes everywhere.

Ok hope you get a chance to have a nice big glass of wine tonight.Wine

crispysausagerolls · 15/06/2019 19:53

NCbilliontimes

Stop justifying your choice. People are jealous and bitter and unpleasant. 🤷🏻‍♀️ If they can’t have nice things, you can’t either and they have to find a way that you are inferior to them to compensate. In this case they are attacking your parenting (although they don’t know you)

HouseName · 15/06/2019 19:53

Mine cost less than a quarter and I let my child get in muddy after jumping in puddles, eat ice cream in it and drop it, chew it, drink juice and spill it (as they all do!)

But then my parenting was about the child and not the immaculate buggy....

Gosh, how fantastic. I must have been a terrible mother for giving mine the ice cream sitting on a bench and wiping their hands before putting them back in the buggy.

CrohnicallyEarly · 15/06/2019 19:53

A little bit of juice ruining a pram?

DecomposingComposers · 15/06/2019 19:54

It's like cars isn't it? I've been in some that are like skips on wheels - empty food wrappers strewn about, food squished into the seats. We don't allow eating or drinking in our car because we like to keep it nice. Doesn't mean that no one is allowed to get in the car or that our children were banned from it, just that we wanted to keep it nice because we keep our cars for a long time.

mathanxiety · 15/06/2019 19:54

Do all you parents leave your kids strapped in there eating?

Why not?
They are sitting up, they are safe, they can be shaded from the sun by the hood, they are able to eat and drink without spilling food or drink on other people or running off, so the caregiver can also eat and drink while perhaps seated on a bench beside them or attend to other children who needed help eating without needing eyes in the back of his or her head. Or attend to dishing out and clearing up for other children, putting on more sunscreen, wiping snotty noses, and lots more of the stuff that occupies people when they are out with small children..

A buggy that is so costly would surely be a comfortable place to sit.

SleepingStandingUp · 15/06/2019 19:54

I'm not saying that Op's daughter shouldn't be allowed to drink-just that she should be supervised so she's only allowed to drink from the bottle if her Mum has eyes in her? So Mum stops what she does and stares at her whilst she drinks?

If you were close enough to your DD to pull her away... I’m not surprised the mum was annoyed... no consequences she was moved away so she couldnt do it again. What's actually wrong with that?? She didn't need to be punished by not being allowed a drink, she needed moving away.