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Bridesmaid posted a photo of my dress on Facebook

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Titsntats · 15/06/2019 07:21

I know I probably am but just wanted to hear others opinions on whether they would be sad about it or if I just need to get a grip!

Getting married soon and after trying on a lot of different dresses I finally found the one, something I never thought I would due to being very body conscious and anxious. Went back for final fitting at the weekend and took one of my bridesmaids as she wanted to see

After finishing the appointment and getting home I saw that she had posted a photo of me in the dress on Facebook (during the appointment so it had already been on an hour or two when I saw it) and tagged my partner in it saying she bets he couldn’t wait to marry me and how lovely my dress is. When I asked her to remove it her response was ‘it doesn’t matter if he’s seen it he’s a man so he will have forgotten what it looks like in 5 minutes time’. My dad had also seen it as well and it was going to be a surprise for him on the day too

I just don’t know what to do or how to feel! I am so gutted that it now won’t be a surprise to my partner or my dad. She knew how much that meant to me and the only thing I had asked for was that details of how I will look on the day were kept a surprise from my dad and partner. As I paid in instalments the dress is now fully paid for and I don’t have time to get another one and do all the alterations etc. Someone tell me I will stop feeling like this soon!

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Hollywolly1 · 11/10/2019 15:41

I do not believe anyone on this earth man,woman or even a child would agree what your friend did was okay.It's not okay at all,a complete invasion of your plans,I wonder had she this already in her mind before she went.Please do not let it spoil your wedding in any wayFlowers

Hollywolly1 · 11/10/2019 15:42

I meant it's not okay at allGrin

MintyMabel · 11/10/2019 15:55

@Titsntats I never said you did.

One could ask why you bothered to "update" at all

But if you must, then people will see the title, read the OP and respond, which then leads so many people to reply with snarky "RTFT, read the update" blah blah blah.

Wedontneedanotherusername · 11/10/2019 15:56

Congratulations op - hope you had an amazing day x

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 11/10/2019 16:02

Oh thank you for updating Titsnats, glad you had a lovely wedding and very glad that bitchy exBM didn't come along.

I'm sure she's feeling very hard done by, but it's all her own bloody fault for that nasty piece of spite she enacted on you back in June.

Good riddance to her, honestly!

(ALso, can we see the dress now please?)

IncrediblySadToo · 11/10/2019 16:09

One could ask why you bothered to "update" at all

One could ask why you’re so intent on displaying such a bitchy attitude!

If you use the settings and set it to highlight OP posts on a thread, you’ll be able to read the op’s Posts


Highlighting OP posts makes them stand out. HCL posted directly under the OP’s update, you didn’t.

I just think that on a chat forum people should take the time to see what the OP has said and at least skim through the last few posts before just responding to the opening post. It’s akin to barging into a room and shouting IMO.

hellsbellsmelons · 11/10/2019 16:13

Congratulations OP.
Wedding days do just fly by.
I'm glad you had a good day.
Wine to your future!!!!

DrVonPatak · 11/10/2019 16:14

Uninvite her completely and go nc, you don't need that kind of toxicity in your life. What a first class bitch!

EmmiJay · 11/10/2019 16:31

I bet MintyMabel is the friend!

menopause59 · 11/10/2019 16:44

What an absolute bitch!!!

FarTooMuchWashing · 11/10/2019 16:51

Thanks for the update OP. I pleased you had a lovely day and that your silly ex-BM didn’t show her face.
Congratulations 💐

User1336468 · 11/10/2019 16:57

Oh good grief, don't be such a princess. It's just a bloody dress - the only person that interested in it is you.

If he has seen it, he really won't care. He already knows what colour it is anyway, so it won't be that much of a surprise.

MintyMabel · 11/10/2019 17:11

One could ask why you’re so intent on displaying such a bitchy attitude!

Nice use of misogynistic language there.

If you use the settings and set it to highlight OP posts on a thread, you’ll be able to read the op’s Post

Wow, thanks for that tutorial on how to use a website I’ve been using for over ten years.🙄 How on earth have I managed without you?

Notodontidae · 11/10/2019 17:32

People seem to have become so addicted to FB, all reasoning goes out the window. I doubt that it was vindictive, she got caught up in the euphoria of the wedding had something to shout about in her totally boring lifestyle. People post when they're off on holiday, totally mindless idiots spouting off about going to Devon for a coulple of weeks, and every criminal mind lapping it up. Get over it, you will look great, and everything will be fine. Enjoy

Titsntats · 11/10/2019 17:48

FFS 🙄 honestly can’t win with some of the twats on here can you! People moan if you don’t update and moan when you do!

@ User1336468 it may be ‘just a bloody dress to you’ but it was important to me and she knew that. And yes funnily enough he does know what it looks like as the wedding has already happened now which you would know had you bothered to read my latest post rather than just eagerly jumping on me to call me princess 🤷🏻‍♀️

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HappyHarlot · 11/10/2019 18:06

OP, please can we see the dress now the wedding is over?

OhMyDarling · 11/10/2019 18:11

Also want to see the dress!!

Aridane · 11/10/2019 18:12

Wow. Didn't see this thread first time round but was delighted to see your friend's shitty behaviour was called out in a ,ass circulation newspaper and on television.

Aridane · 11/10/2019 18:13

Mass circulation, not ass circulation!

CinnamonMentos · 11/10/2019 18:21

Thanks for the update op. I was wondering if she would be there or not. In your shoes, I would have been fuming as well. Congrats on the wedding

RainbowsAndGlitterAndUnicorns · 11/10/2019 18:32

I remember your thread OP. I hope you enjoyed your day? She should be ashamed of what she did

Sunflower20 · 11/10/2019 18:43

Wow what a bitch!!! For me that would be friendship over, nevermind being a bridesmaid. It shows a complete lack of respect towards you.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 11/10/2019 18:47

Thank you for the update OP.

What a bitch she is.

lynzpynz · 11/10/2019 18:48

Congratulations Mrs OP! Hope you had a wonderful wedding day and sure you looked beautiful in your dress regardless of who saw it and when!

Glad you got rid of toxic bridesmaid from the wedding and your life, my only regret would be that I never got to tell her myself and she came out with this pish:

"suit myself and that she no longer feels wanted at my wedding so won't be providing her bridesmaid services"

Before I called her out on her shitty post! You're well shot of someone who does something that spiteful, there's no mistaking her intent from what you've said (I did read the entire post - wish there was a way to view an OPs updates only rather than sifting through all the pages?!). Whatever she's going through doesn't give her the right to lash out at a friend like that - bye bye nasty - karmas been served on a gold platter Grin

cushioncovers · 11/10/2019 18:54

Glad your WD went ok op. Your ex friend was a bitch for doing that. How spiteful. Thanks for the update.

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