Bridesmaid posted a photo of my dress on Facebook

[Titsntats]

I know I probably am but just wanted to hear others opinions on whether they would be sad about it or if I just need to get a grip!

Getting married soon and after trying on a lot of different dresses I finally found the one, something I never thought I would due to being very body conscious and anxious. Went back for final fitting at the weekend and took one of my bridesmaids as she wanted to see

After finishing the appointment and getting home I saw that she had posted a photo of me in the dress on Facebook (during the appointment so it had already been on an hour or two when I saw it) and tagged my partner in it saying she bets he couldn’t wait to marry me and how lovely my dress is. When I asked her to remove it her response was ‘it doesn’t matter if he’s seen it he’s a man so he will have forgotten what it looks like in 5 minutes time’. My dad had also seen it as well and it was going to be a surprise for him on the day too

I just don’t know what to do or how to feel! I am so gutted that it now won’t be a surprise to my partner or my dad. She knew how much that meant to me and the only thing I had asked for was that details of how I will look on the day were kept a surprise from my dad and partner. As I paid in instalments the dress is now fully paid for and I don’t have time to get another one and do all the alterations etc. Someone tell me I will stop feeling like this soon!

Hope you had an amazing day.

For those who said its not important etc. its not the fact she posted it, it's down to the fact she betrayed her friend. I'm sure I read OP told her that she wants to keep it private plus it is common knowledge that the groom DOES NOT see the dress until the bride is walking down the aisle! At least that is how I look at it.

On another note, OP can we see the dress now?

Congratulations and I hope you still enjoyed your day as much as you deserved.

That is BEYOND unreasonable. She was completely out of order and you have every right to be upset.

Or, OP could have simply started a new thread with this earth shattering “update”.

Nobody is going to go back and read 31 pages of this stuff.

Open thread. See it has nearly 800 replies. Check date. Scroll to last page. It's not hard.

Congratulations OP.

So glad your day was all you wanted , one day ( sooner than you think !) you will be telling your granddaughter but by then it will be a funny story! Sending every good wish for you and DH life together x

There's no point in opening a new thread for an update. Most people reading the new thread won't know what the OP is on about, and want links to the original thread anyway.

Congrats OP.

I was hoping you'd show us a pic

I too thought it was another thread about a different bride.

So glad you enjoyed your day.

Nobody is going to go back and read 31 pages of this stuff

No but surely common sense would say theres a good chance that in 31 pages things might have moved on.

Please post a pic OP

Thanks for updating! And CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

got us all thrown out of the venue for repeatedly touching a bouncer

Am I very wrong for wishing I had witnessed this?

Especially as it was apparently so bad it led to Hen Parties being banned at the establishment?

I followed your thread and am glad to read that your wedding day went well.

Congratulations Op .

Good update! I like it when an OP comes back to update. Although not good about your friend.

Congratulations, I remember your thread, so glad you had a fantastic day. Sorry to hear about what happened with the friend though.

Thanks for coming back and good on you for fronting it out! Most ops get their threads removed.

And I was about to post "Not another one!"

Thanks for the update, although YABVVVU not to show the final dress.

Glad it went well and you were happy on the day.

Glad the day was good – many congrats and best wishes for the future.

I always think, from a lot of the threads I see online about bride/bridesmaid fallout, that one has to remember that not everyone is in on wedding lore and a lot of fallout stems from people assuming that everyone knows X or Y when they just don’t necessarily.

I see a lot of brides/BMs upset because the bride was expecting the BM/s to accompany her to every appointment, do lots of legwork, arrange the hen but then never actually communicated it to them, and the BM thought that she just had to turn up in a nice dress and look less good than the bride (that’s certainly what I thought before I got married and read forums about it!). So the bride got shirty when BM didn’t drop everything to choose table favours with her etc etc

I totally get being really gutted about sending out a pic of the dress (I would have been for sure) but I think ex friend assumed she was doing something nice and didn’t have any concept (and this will be increasingly common in social media days) that Some Things We Do Not Share around weddings. Obviously that horse bolted the stable some time ago, but I think this is a reminder to anyone getting married to tell everyone, especially younger people who’ve grown up with social media, that they are not to share any wedding details without your permission.

@Echobelly on the way to the appointment we actually had a conversation discussing the fact I didn’t want anyone to know any details re the dress or anything about it. She knew full well that it was the only thing she shouldn’t do yet she still went and did it. It wasn’t about her not knowing, or thinking she was doing something nice 🤷🏻‍♀️

To those who think I should have read the thread - well, yes, probably I should. But I didn't notice the date, and i didn't even get to the bottom the first page to see how many responses there'd been.

It popped up on my threads thingy at the side, and I assumed it was new, and when I read the opening post my natural sense of justice compelled me to send a knee-jerk reply!

On the other hand, many people who had read the thread when it was posted have expressed delight at the update, so maybe it was All Part Of God's Ineffable Plan.

didn’t have any concept (and this will be increasingly common in social media days) that Some Things We Do Not Share around weddings. Obviously that horse bolted the stable some time ago, but I think this is a reminder to anyone getting married to tell everyone, especially younger people who’ve grown up with social media, that they are not to share any wedding details without your permission

I agree. Not everyone knows these things.

Glad you came back to update OP!

I think ex friend assumed she was doing something nice and didn’t have any concept (and this will be increasingly common in social media days) that Some Things We Do Not Share around weddings.

Yeah right.

OP, glad you had a good day! You’re better off without people like her in your life. Thanks for the update.

I gasped when reading the OP because it goes so beyond shitty.
DH asked what could be that shocking and when I read it to him he also gasped.
She isn't a real friend.
(Normal) People don't need to specifically be told not to be a bitch.

Congratulations!

(Btw... I would consider her blocking you on SM as a bonus 😉)

Be glad the spiteful cow wasn't at your wedding. Sounds bliss!

Hope you had a wonderful day!

@Titsntats

Off you fuck to waste time somewhere else then @HiccupHaddock3* *

That was very efficiently executed! I applaud.