Bridesmaid posted a photo of my dress on Facebook

[Titsntats]

I know I probably am but just wanted to hear others opinions on whether they would be sad about it or if I just need to get a grip!

Getting married soon and after trying on a lot of different dresses I finally found the one, something I never thought I would due to being very body conscious and anxious. Went back for final fitting at the weekend and took one of my bridesmaids as she wanted to see

After finishing the appointment and getting home I saw that she had posted a photo of me in the dress on Facebook (during the appointment so it had already been on an hour or two when I saw it) and tagged my partner in it saying she bets he couldn’t wait to marry me and how lovely my dress is. When I asked her to remove it her response was ‘it doesn’t matter if he’s seen it he’s a man so he will have forgotten what it looks like in 5 minutes time’. My dad had also seen it as well and it was going to be a surprise for him on the day too

I just don’t know what to do or how to feel! I am so gutted that it now won’t be a surprise to my partner or my dad. She knew how much that meant to me and the only thing I had asked for was that details of how I will look on the day were kept a surprise from my dad and partner. As I paid in instalments the dress is now fully paid for and I don’t have time to get another one and do all the alterations etc. Someone tell me I will stop feeling like this soon!

OMG This is all over the biggest morning chat show on TV here in Ireland

I'm a man and even I know this is despicable behaviour!
She can't be trusted and is not your friend.

Holy shitballs! This is nuts! ummm definitely wasn’t expecting this kind of response, I was prepared to be told I was being dramatic and to just get over myself (although some have said that )

So Op- have you told the bm? X

Handy dumping progress OP?

*any

I hope one if these lazy arsed journos has at least offered to buy a new wedding dress for you or new accessories for using your story. But probably not 🙄

I've just heard my local radio talking about it 😲😲

Titsntats

Practice your sad face and name a price for the sun to pay for an exclusive interview.

OMG - what an absolute bitch.
I cannot believe anyone would think this was OK.
I hope she does see the article and realise it's about her.
That's a horrible thing to do to someone.
I really hope you tell her to get to fuck.

Hopefully some bright spark at a paper will run a wedding fashion follow-up with a new dress for the OP!

I guess the sacking part is effectively achieved now, but you'll still have to talk to her, OP.

What a bitchy thing to do. Absolute betrayal, I couldn't go back from this, she has crossed a line. I hope you've sacked her off!! And I hope one of the papers / news channels who have got a free story out of this has messaged you offering to get you a new dress!

Ok I haven't read the whole thread but SHE TAGGED YOUR PARTNER?

Seriously don't let that woman anywhere near your wedding. She is not a friend.

I wonder whether the 'journalists' who run this as news ever have to do anything to check whether OPs are the real deal. What to stop them posting threads that they know full well will spark a reaction to save themselves from doing any actual work?
Or is quoting MN as a source enough?
It's mad really.

It's what stops me posting threads on here.

I am a woman who abhors bridezilla-ery, hates being the centre of attention, being a bride in a big fancy dress is my idea of hell. I don't judge others, it is just a million miles away from my sort of thing. To each their own, if you like nice weddings or massive pink frilly dresses and 94 bridesmaids or whatever, fill your boots, have a wonderful day, I hope it all goes beautifully and you are warmed forever by the memory.

Think of that as a disclaimer - I am basically, a bloke in female form.

Even I think the bridesmaid has been an arsehole. Tell her she can come to the wedding only if she wears a cow onesie and explains to everyone why.

Fromage - Tell her she can come to the wedding only if she wears a cow onesie and explains to everyone why.

LOVE this! Best idea ever

What else is she capable of on the day. Could she try to Ruin YOUR day

OMG I am so sorry this has happened to you. EVERYONE KNOWS the brides dress is THE big reveal on the day for both the father of the bride and especially the groom. I am afraid your ‘friend’ has done this not from a good place. She is clearly no friend and full of jealousy and I would guess an attention seeker. I would definitely exclude her from your wedding, you can’t risk such a loose canon with such dishonourable intentions spoiling your day. You must however ensure your husband to be and family block her first and she react and probably repost the picture. Good luck and have a fabulous wedding.

Has she seen anything yet OP?

No one in their right mind would share pic of bride in her dress and tag groom to be before the wedding, trying to ponder why someone would do that. So my musings led me to a hopefully unlikely over-interpretation of the situation, but could she be having an affair with fiancé and this was the ultimate passive-aggressive pointed message to him about upcoming nuptials?

What a nasty bitch.

I'd tag her in the FB post OP. Get it over and done, and at least every comment is on your side not hers

I'd be absolutely furious. Especially the fact that she tagged your husband-to-be.
But don't worry, you'll look SO different on the day with your hair, makeup, jewellery, veil etc. Unrecognisable to a quick phone photo taken while you tried just the dress on. You'll be a complete surprise to everyone on the day one you're all put together - even yourself!

Dear "friend"

As is probably obvious from the varying articles in the media and the subsequent discussion on daytime television about your shit behavior, you're fired as my bridesmaid and can consider yourself uninvited to my nuptials.

And just in case you think I'm overreacting, here's a link to my original question to Mumsnet, that makes it very clear that I'm very much not overreacting.

Peace ✌️