Bridesmaid posted a photo of my dress on Facebook

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I know I probably am but just wanted to hear others opinions on whether they would be sad about it or if I just need to get a grip!

Getting married soon and after trying on a lot of different dresses I finally found the one, something I never thought I would due to being very body conscious and anxious. Went back for final fitting at the weekend and took one of my bridesmaids as she wanted to see

After finishing the appointment and getting home I saw that she had posted a photo of me in the dress on Facebook (during the appointment so it had already been on an hour or two when I saw it) and tagged my partner in it saying she bets he couldn’t wait to marry me and how lovely my dress is. When I asked her to remove it her response was ‘it doesn’t matter if he’s seen it he’s a man so he will have forgotten what it looks like in 5 minutes time’. My dad had also seen it as well and it was going to be a surprise for him on the day too

I just don’t know what to do or how to feel! I am so gutted that it now won’t be a surprise to my partner or my dad. She knew how much that meant to me and the only thing I had asked for was that details of how I will look on the day were kept a surprise from my dad and partner. As I paid in instalments the dress is now fully paid for and I don’t have time to get another one and do all the alterations etc. Someone tell me I will stop feeling like this soon!

I’d want assurances that she no longer has that photo before you sack her. If she’s nasty enough to share and tag your fiancé she might well do it again if you sack her.

I have no words!!! 😮 This is major. Unfriend.

Did this really happen? How could anyone be so dumb to do this on purpose n thinks it's OK?

Seriously have your friends/ family not said something to her on Facebook? Or messaged to find out why she was such a bitch?? Because if be expecting full support!

What an absolutely spiteful thing to do. If it wasn’t done out of spite she’s just plain stupid, either way I’d be extremely angry with her!

Wow. I would want nothing more to do with a person who did that.

I bet it was done on purpose. Imagine tagging your DH-to-be!! Would love to know what she says when you sack her...would love to know her defence!

Come on, you KNOW you have to ditch the bitch! She is no friend to you and seeing her face in the wedding photos will constantly remind you of her betrayal instead of the wonderful day you had. Unforgivable behaviour and total lack of consideration when asked to remove fb post. Can't get over what a vile, disgusting, untrustworthy thing it was to do that. Life evolves; so do friendships. When a so called friend essentially says get over it, no one cares, it's time to say goodbye for good. Good luck with everything and please let us MNers know when you have told her, 'this friendship no longer works for me, goodbye'.

Really sorry this has happened to you. I am genuinely staggered that anyone would do this.

I think you know by the reaction here that she is obviously an attention-seeking B—— & it was deliberate. Has she displayed jealous symptoms previously?

You don’t need “friends” like that in your life.

You will have amazing day & it’s important you don’t allow her to be there or have any role in your life going forward.

As others have said, with your hair & make up done in the day, the dress will look different.

And now everyone can see what a horrible person she is.

Best of luck.

Maybe you knw her better why not ask her again does she not think a.brides values matter for her big day . She seems.a person you can live without.

What a horrible thing to do. I would definitely not have her as bridesmaid as she can't be trusted.
You will still look awesome on the day though, don't let such a jealous person spoil it for you.

DEFINITELY sack her from being bridesmaid and uninvite her - no excuse, it was a completely vindictive and ‘bitchy’/mean act! Plus the fact she did not care. If she is there your day and your memories will be about her and your anger/bitterness ... if you can’t completely rise above it, ditch her and say it was totally unkind and out of order. If you can’t ditch her. Can you speak to the shop, has it been fitted and altered? Then change it without telling her?!?!

Sack her! I don't care for weddings but know this is a no no. She cant have meant anything but to be malicious, jealous cow!

You have every right to be furious, get rid of her ASAP! What a horrible, vindictive thing to do. Your dress is your special surprise to be revealed on your wedding day! No way is she daft enough to not know that!

Yes the more I think about this girl will ruin your day and make herself centre of attention - her disloyalty will be on your mind in the rest of the lead up and on the day. You need to definitely nip this in the bud. Is there any reason she’d want to purposely do things so vindictive and mean? Has she shown to be jealous of you?

OMG I would be furious....... That is not fair 😔

Really poor etiquette. Would demote her from bridesmaid, you’re right to be sad and cross.

Bin her off, shes done it on purpose. She is jealous of something or another.

Get rid, what a cow. Im furious for you!

The one dress in your life you are supposed to reveal on the say of your big day, and shes ruined that for you.

As for tagging your partner I would take the ugliest photos of her tou can possibly find and then continue to post one every day to her wall. Reduce to take them down.

Bitches.

That is a terrible thing for her to do!!! Sorry friend,but you are relieved of your bridesmaid duties for being a bitch.

wow, im getting married this weekend and id be livid if someone did this. Just another example of people trying to act like living every bloody detail of their lives (and other peoples) on social media is somehow ‘normal’.
NO this is not normal behaviour from your friend. When i tried on my dress my mum and sister took pics for me to look at afterwards - i then asked them to delete them in case they had the urge to show people. I dont actually care if they thought i was being a bridezilla - its my wish that the dress is a surprise to everyone and they understood and respected that.

She is not a friend.

I’m so shocked your so called friend would do that, unless you live on another planet, that is pure evil to do😡

Purely vicious and vindictive. The fact that she took the picture so sneakily says it all- completely premeditated!

She went out of her way to take a very special moment of your wedding away from you, and in the process away from your father and fiancé.

Do not let her try to undermine your feelings, she knew exactly what she was doing!

And for context I just ran your situation by my 13 year old daughter- her response was that this woman needed to be knocked out!👊

Wow

Bloody hell thats awful!!! What a bitch. She wouldn't be my bridesmaid after that! YANBU!!!!

She knew exactly what she’s doing. Good luck in ditching her.