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To be cross about visitors not liking my dog

444 replies

calamityJayne1 · 14/06/2019 19:03

I have a Labrador who is the daftest dog you’d ever meet.

Due to my work children and parents visit my house. They know I have a dog who is harmless yet people still make comments like why is he barking and I don’t like dogs and physically wincing if he comes near them.

This is only on arrival and I put the dog in a different room for the duration of their visit, but I am getting really tired of anti dog people making comments and someone even asked me to ensure the dog was locked in a different room on arrival!

Given the fact that new people are informed I have a dog and he’s playful and barks I don’t understand people’s reactions. I understand not everyone likes dogs but why can’t people stop act like snowflakes and move on?

AIBU to feel totally fed up and only invite dog friendly people to my house?

OP posts:
Munkeemummee · 15/06/2019 00:30

“gosh, he’s never bitten anyone before”... don’t want my kid to be the exception thanks.

user1473878824 · 15/06/2019 00:36

It must be nice just breezing through life being a wanker.

Walkingdeadfangirl · 15/06/2019 00:41

I have a dog and he’s playful and barks
Says every dog owner ever, just before their dog bites you!

FFS just keep your slobbering, jumping, barking animal away from people. PLEASE

StoneofDestiny · 15/06/2019 00:58

FFS just keep your slobbering, jumping, barking animal away from people. PLEASE

DaftHannah · 15/06/2019 01:00

One of the worst experiences I have had in my recent working life of other people's dogs is as follows.

Dark winter evening. Working as part of community nursing team. Rang client who had requested help with care for elderly relative. Agreed to visit the same evening in the dark, ostensibly to provide hands on care support and bring necessary equipment.

Arrived on doorstep, with said equipment carried from car boot set on doorstep beside me. Lone worker, advised in advance of visit, no safety issues.

Rang doorbell, heard dog barking and stood well back. Door opened and large dog, still barking launched itself at me and put it's paws on my chest. I screamed loudly, as not expecting this and ran back to the car with dog in hot pursuit. It was a rural village with no street lighting.

In car with central locking applied, sat and waited for dog to be taken inside and secured safely, but this did not happen. Dog barked and jumped up at car windows, with owner watching and doing nothing to restrain large pet dog.

Rang landline from mobile and spoke to patient's daughter. Explained that the jumping dog was an impediment to attempting to enter the property, but perfectly willing to enter and provide services requested if dog could be put in a room with the door secured. Discussion continued with daughter insisting that they needed the dog for protection when strangers arriving at property after dark.

Explained politely that I simply could not enter the property unless the dog was safely in another room with the door shut, as not willing to be jumped on by dog. Also explained we could send someone the following morning if they were concerned about having HCP in the house after dark. No, they wanted a visit, needed care support, but did not want to put the dog in another room "for their own safety".

Eventually after some discussion dog was eventually shut in the kitchen and I took the equipment in and provided the care required for the elderly lady. The daughter was extremely put out that I would not allow the dog to be present.

After this, I always ring to check if there are dogs present and respectfully request that dogs are put in another room before even getting out of the car, when doing late evening visits.

Gilead · 15/06/2019 01:26

Wow! Rude, patronising and so very sure you are in the right.
You’re not, and no I’m not scared of dogs. I also have the manners to pop mine in the kitchen when I get visitors.

jarviscockerslover · 15/06/2019 01:28

I don't like dogs either and would physically wince if a dog came near me!! I also can't bear to touch a dog .. it's not personal I'm just not a dog person

TheSandman · 15/06/2019 02:38

To some people dogs are terrifying. I'm one of them. To you your dog is being friendly and jumping up and greeting people. To me it would seem it was trying to attack me and rip my face off.

I don't hate dogs. In the abstract. Just like I don't hate tigers, leopards, wolverines, or any number of large predators - but when the things jump up at you and some simpering 'owner' is saying "It's all right he's just being friendly!" I just want to KILL the dog. Seriously Flight and Fight Response - kill the fucker. It's horrible. I hate it. I'm a gentle person most of the time but having big loud stupid things with teeth coming at your face? No. It's not on. And whining about it calling people people 'snowflakes' for a perfectly reasonable response to your ill-disciplined domesticated wolf is pathetic.

fargo123 · 15/06/2019 03:52

YABU

You're not in the slightest bit professional if you allow your barking dog to greet visitors/clients.

If multitudes of people are 'moaning'/complaining or reacting badly to your dog, then it's 100% obvious that the problem is you and your dog, not the visitors.

TwoPupsAndaHamster · 15/06/2019 04:02

Whenever I have visitors I put my dogs in another room. They don't bark or jump (they do, however, stake their place on the sofa) but I am well aware that the only person who loves my dogs is me. I don't expect anyone else to love them.

I hate other people's dogs, mainly because their owners are ineffectual and so their dogs are out of control. I see this every, single day....

Don't blame the dog if its unsociable. Blame the owner

Birdie6 · 15/06/2019 04:06

If your work involves people coming to your house, I think it's most unprofessional of you to have a dog there barking at them . Presumably you wouldn't expect to walk into a doctor or dentist and have a barking dog running at you - so why do you have a dog in your workplace at home .

HennyPennyHorror · 15/06/2019 04:11

My dog is put outside when visitors arrive. He's massive and overly friendly....two traits which alarm non-dog-lovers....and even dog-lovers who don't know him.

I'd never let someone in with my dog present.

babyyoucanwarmmyhouse · 15/06/2019 04:11

I love my small, quiet little dog. I would still be uncomfortable around a big barking dog when going to someone's home.
I can answer the door to complete strangers and my dog will stand still next to me without a sound. Because I trained him. Do that.

ChristmasArmadillo · 15/06/2019 04:55

I made alternative arrangements for my actual children when working with people in my home so I fail to see how it’s so impossible to keep your dog away.

I hate dogs. I’m not afraid of them, I just loathe them. But I loathe even more the type of person who says “oh but look she’s so friendly, haha she likes you!” and lets the creature jump all over me when I’ve already visibly stepped away and said I don’t care for them.

If you can afford to lose clients over it, by all means carry on, but your attitude is quite unreasonable.

GrotchCoblin · 15/06/2019 05:05

I don't like your dog and I haven't even met it.

BlueWonder · 15/06/2019 05:15

My DD is scared of dogs, no rational reason for this ( she says it is their unpredictability and the way they jump around,, bark and snap their teeth when excited). Having to visit a house with a dog would cause her a lot of tension and if the dog was allowed to be 'playful' near her, then fear, quickly escalating to terror. If people respect her fear, shut the dog away before she arrives and later introduce it slowly, she is better. Otherwise she would choose to avoid the situation/house. You say you are providing a service where people have to visit you in the home, I think YABVU and are showing a lack of empathy that would make me doubt your professionalism. Sorry if that is not the view you were seeking.

ittakes2 · 15/06/2019 05:34

I am actually wondering if you are being serious or this is a joke. If you are being serious YABVU being someone who offers a service to adults and children in your home but can not respect that other people might not see your dog in the same way you do.

ittakes2 · 15/06/2019 05:36

Can I just add that when looking into autism - children being frightened of dogs barking loudly is one of the things specialists take into consideration during assessments. Loud sudden noise - unpredictable behaviour.

Totur · 15/06/2019 05:39

Dogs are like farts and kids - you can just about stand your own.

Nobody wants to be accosted by a lumbering untrained dog.

I'm allergic to them and I might have tights on (which they rip), nice clothes on, which they drool on and put their muddy paws on and then their hairs which I'm allergic to.

Shut the thing away.

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 15/06/2019 05:43

Your "playful and barks" is to a stranger "menacing and angry". Train him not to be so loud.

StoppinBy · 15/06/2019 05:58

If you are inviting people to your house in a business sense then YABU to expect them to be ok with your dog, presumably these people are paying you...... so make them comfortable.

Bixter · 15/06/2019 06:20

I'd just keep the dog in another room, why do visitors need to see or even like it? I have two dogs, but I don't like all or any other dogs.

Piglet89 · 15/06/2019 06:51

All, I’m not sure why people are continuing to comment. The OP posted in AIBU, was told almost universally that she was, then immediately argued she isn’t (complete with passive aggressive laughing emoji). She’s long gone.

I don’t know why she bothered in the first place.

luckylavender · 15/06/2019 07:14

@MattMagnolia - of course you can avoid dogs. What a weird thing to say.

Bixter · 15/06/2019 07:21

@Piglet89 because some of us can't be arsed to read every post.