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To be cross about visitors not liking my dog

444 replies

calamityJayne1 · 14/06/2019 19:03

I have a Labrador who is the daftest dog you’d ever meet.

Due to my work children and parents visit my house. They know I have a dog who is harmless yet people still make comments like why is he barking and I don’t like dogs and physically wincing if he comes near them.

This is only on arrival and I put the dog in a different room for the duration of their visit, but I am getting really tired of anti dog people making comments and someone even asked me to ensure the dog was locked in a different room on arrival!

Given the fact that new people are informed I have a dog and he’s playful and barks I don’t understand people’s reactions. I understand not everyone likes dogs but why can’t people stop act like snowflakes and move on?

AIBU to feel totally fed up and only invite dog friendly people to my house?

OP posts:
sadeyedladyofthelowlands63 · 15/06/2019 07:32

There are dogs everywhere, you can’t avoid them.

Of course you can! I successfully manage to avoid dogs every day!

Aberforthsgoat · 15/06/2019 08:34

Love it when the op doesn’t get the answer they want so accuses everyone else of being totally unreasonable and flounces.

Etino · 15/06/2019 08:37

If you’re working from home and can afford to sack off clients, knock yourself out.

TheRedBarrows · 15/06/2019 08:47

“Due to my work children and parents visit my house. “

So these are clients or customers?

YABVU. They keep mentioning it because they want the transaction, whatever it is, to take place without your ‘daft’ dog barking at them.

However you can’t accept any view other than that these people are ‘snowflakes’, dog haters, people who ABU for not telling you in advance that they are scared of dogs and anyone who has posted the same is ‘ridiculous’ and ‘having a go’ at dog owners.

YABVU and a GF to boot.

OneStepSideways · 15/06/2019 08:49

I think it's very rude and unprofessional to let your dog bark at visitors/clients and bounce around them.

I'm a HCP and always insist the dog is shut away for a home visit.
I'm not going to take the risk that your excitable dog won't get overexcited and start nipping or jumping up.

Also, many people dislike dogs near them if they don't find them scary. Dogs are smelly, invade your space and get hair on you!

mycatismeowican · 15/06/2019 08:51

Barking dogs are annoying and intimidating. Plus ds was almost attacked by one a few years back( fat cow owner!) not everybody likes dogs op. He may be nice now but what if he loses patience ( kid pulls his tail maybe) and suddenly snaps?

OnlineAlienator · 15/06/2019 08:54

Yabu. I like dogs, i have dogs. But, they can be smelly, intimidating twats and getting raked by the claws of an enthusiastic one or shoved over isnt fun! Also...people JUST DONT like them. Theres pkenty if animals i dont particularly like, for no real reason other than preference.

It was my decision to get my dogs and i got them for me. I do not tolerate them barking at or jumping on people and generally just put them away for visitors unless asked to get them out. Good manners imo.

TheGoogleMum · 15/06/2019 09:06

I hate being barked at, it sounds very aggressive and scary to me. I am easily intimidated by dogs. I would happily not be invited around your house!

wonkylegs · 15/06/2019 09:20

I can get on with dogs and I have friends dogs I like but that relationship takes time.
I am nervous when meeting dogs for the first time as I was bitten by one as a child and a cousin ended up with horrific injuries (requiring surgery) when a friends dog who was usually friendly turned on her.
I guess I would wince when meeting your dog for the first time as frankly I don't know it but I do know the potential for harm.

StillCoughingandLaughing · 15/06/2019 11:16

Why would anyone care or comment about the potential lack of income?

Because it’s a post about someone having clients visit her at home and them all complaining about one issue. Why WOULDN’T people be posting about how it might affect her income?

thebloodycatwontstopmeowing · 15/06/2019 11:52

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cava14una · 15/06/2019 11:56

Try having a cage of Fancy Rats Shock

I had dogs all my life and have only recently decided that my health doesn't allow any more. When I had them I would always put them in another room if people weren't keen on dogs.

I have cats now and always ask if people visiting are ok with them and will shut them out of the room is necessary

SarcasticFringehead · 15/06/2019 12:20

Oh dear, OP has not come back. On the off chance they are still reading, please watch some of this YouYuber's videos - you don't have to agree, and you aren't expected to stop liking your dog(s), but I hope it goes some way to helping explain why many of us don't like dogs, or dog culture. www.youtube.com/channel/UCWQNwKv6ExM62Go1lPSrd_A/videos

sickmumma · 15/06/2019 17:15

We have a dog and I always tell her to go to the kitchen when visitors come, if they like dogs they then will go to her! Not because she barks but she's a husky and leaves trails of fur! I wouldn't be happy at a dog barking at me or licking me etc! Dog is fine in the kitchen/garden

DeniseRoyal · 15/06/2019 17:37

Sorry OP, but if my dog barked at visitors coming into my house, i would put him away. And i say this as a huge dog lover!

RCN1 · 15/06/2019 17:45

This snowflake doesn't like being jumped on by huge dogs whose owners say 'he's showing how much he loves you' or having to share sofas with old farty dogs that growl at you but are clearly beloved members of your DH's family, but yours sounds fine.

yyz112 · 15/06/2019 17:51

Your home is also your dogs home, if visitors don't like that tell them not to visit.

TheInvestigator · 15/06/2019 17:57

@yyz112

They aren't visitors. They are clients paying for a service. It is not a personal relationship and a drop in for a cup of tea. It's a professional relationship and these people are paying. During those times, OP is "at work". It is not her home at those times. It is her workplace and she brings people into it. You cannot treat professional acquaintances in the same way as you treat friends. Having your dog jump and bark at them is not OK.

angelfacecuti75 · 15/06/2019 17:59

To you your dog's your baby , a family member and (deservedly so ) ypu put him on a pedestal.
To others if he's jumpy or they don't know much re dogs he's a slobbery , large , loud barking animal who sniffs and licks his own bits woth death breath and the barking and jumping may be seen as aggressive if they dunno much re dogs.
Love is blind , but I'm sure he's utterly gorgeous , nutty crazy and nicer than the visitors themselves.

angelfacecuti75 · 15/06/2019 18:01

Ps it's ofte more scary if you've been bitten by a dog at any point, (just playing devil's advocate).

angelfacecuti75 · 15/06/2019 18:02

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angelfacecuti75 · 15/06/2019 18:02

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loveya · 15/06/2019 18:05

Yes Yabu, I love dog and I have a dog (had another but was just put to sleep the other day :’( ) however if I walk into someone’s home and know nothing about the dog and how the dog behaves I don’t like it barking and jumping up at me either..

I think if you know you’ll have clients over for work you should probably just put him in a different room before the client even arrives, assuming you know what time they come over...

My brother had an incident with a dog when he was a 8 (he’s 33 now) and has been terrified of dogs ever since, he lives in my home country but once we move there and we take our dog and I know he’s coming over I’ll put the dog in a different room while my brother is visiting, I’ll make sure I know roughly what time so I can make sure the dog won’t be in the room when my brother arrives it’s called common courtesy.. I love our dog but not everyone does and I know this.

RomanyQueen · 15/06/2019 18:09

YABU I can't stand pets, especially Cats and Dogs. Never wish them any harm but don't like them.
I don't care how soft you think yours is, I still wouldn't like it.

viccat · 15/06/2019 18:15

I grew up with dogs and generally love all animals but I find other people's dogs barking really stressful. It just feels so full on to be greeted by a barking dog, especially an excitable one that's blocking the way or jumping up at me.

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