I am a cow

[Iamnotagoddess]

DH comes home every weekend and goes away for extended periods.

This means our relationship takes a lot of effort. The last 4 weeks he has come home unwell with a cold he can’t shake, blocked ears and a hacking cough (admitted he has started smoking again which has annoyed me) and really really grumpy and unpleasant with it.

Has arrived home on a Thursday and immediately taken to bed.

He hasn’t been off work or been to the GP which is what I am told to do when unwell.

Tonight he has rocked up with a migraine and phoned me during the journey to tell me he had thrown up, then had a go because I was unsympathetic (I am not the most sympathetic person with illness anyway).

He has come home and gone to bed again.

We are going to a once in a lifetime concert this weekend.

AIBU to feel totally fucked off the 4th or 5th weekend in a row he’s unwell, again and have absolutely no (even pretend) sympathy.

I know I am but ARGH!!!

With forces drug testing?? Unlikely. One negative test and you're out the next day. No one with 27years service would risk their gratuity and pension.

I think he should go for a blood test if he has been ill for this length of time. I'm guessing he has been persevering with his illness while at work trying to avoid showing weakness and vulnerability for some reason. So when he is at home he is having to take to his bed. No one chooses to be ill so please show him sympathy and look after him. I know it is frustrating for you as you don't see him much. If it is a simple illness and he recovers soon, then hopefully he will be get back to his old self again. If it is something more serious, then he needs your love and support. However it is obviously not good that he is smoking again and he does need to take responsibility and see his doctor

Cocaine 😂😂😂