Here or is my friend being awful?

[onefootinthemud]

I have started dating a guy,we get on so well and I really like him.
He is my good friends friend.
She has known him years and socialises in a group with him.
Every time me and him chat when she's around I feel her eyes burning the back of my head.
She's tried to cause trouble between me and him by saying I'm a bunny boiler and that I'm super jealous person (I'm neither)
Anyway on Friday me and her and her friend are going to Scotland for a concert.
Well I thought we were ...
Everything is paid for but she's turned around and said I'm not welcome in her car as I clearly prefer him over her.
I said that she was being ridiculous and I'm sorry she feels like this,I said can we clear the air and sort this out.
She sent me page after page of abusive messages saying I was a awful person and hope it doesn't work between me and him.
Once again I said we have been looking forward to this event for ages,I haven't done anything wrong.
She said I've been giving him all my attention and to go and ask him for a lift.
I've sat and cried all night.
I do all sorts for her.
I've done her shopping,made her tea last week.
Lend her money /clothes etc
Why is she being so awful?
She's never excluded.

She's jealous.

What does your boyfriend say about it all?
Like when she tried to make you out to be jealous?
She is jealous that is the truth. Either she wants to be with him or she is a possessive friend she doesn't want to share him.
How is he getting to the event?

Whether or not your new relationship works out, you've seen a new very unattractive side to her. Please don't try to appease her. She's being totally unreasonable. Please tell her this in a nice way then walk away.
The only possible way this can move forward is if she realises how badly she's acted and comes to you with a massive apology.

She fancied him and she's jealous.

At the same time, though, nobody wants to be a third wheel

This is best left alone. Dknt respond. Forget the Scotland weekend. Avoid her online. Blicknthe abusive messages. This has peaked for her now and she may be channeling her anger at him onto you. U cant win. Let her have her tantrum in her own time.
Not friend material really.

Yep, jealous and not in the least bit subtle about it. Make sure you get any money back you've paid for the trip.

Tell her to give you your money back for the ticket and then she can fuck right off to the far side of fuck

Ditch this witch!

She's never been a third wheel as we have always been out in big groups etc

Sounds like she liked him and now he's with you so she see's it as a betrayal of "girl code" or some such nonsense.

Sounds jealous, either she likes him and doesn’t want anyone to have him or you aren’t spending as much time with her or she thinks you’re not?

Either way she doesn’t sound like a good friend I’d block her and move on but shame about the concert. I have a friend who, when I’m with a boyfriend will say unkind things about him (last one was slimy apparently she met him once for a few minutes) and this time 3 years later I’ve met someone apparently I spend all my time with him and don’t see friends etc. Even though I ask her to do stuff and she’s other plans etc
I can’t win, but I don’t take it anymore I’ll say no sorry you’ve been busy etc I’ve tried to meet up or we did lunch last week. I have 4 kids and am a nurse so am busy too she just is a bit selfish sometimes and lonely so hard to see me with someone I think.
Hope you can sort going to the concert your friend sounds delightful

Unless you're leaving out half the story she sounds insanely jealous.

She wanted to be with him would be my guess.

You’re seeing her true nature. Some so called ‘friends’ hide their real self for years and then eventually they show themselves for what they are.
As others have said, cut all personal contact. If she’s in a social group with you, politely ignore her, continue to meet up with your true friends. I hope it works out with your new BF.

@CripsSandwiches I wish I was,at least then there would be a reason.
I can't get my head around it.
Last weekend we all went (about 12 of us ) to an event and every time I tried to talk to her she was giving me one word answers.
Me and him were dancing and chatting and she hated it.
Stormed off and sent me a text saying
"You were all over him,ridiculous"

It very clearly sounds like she fancies him herself and is now jealous.

She's jealous of you because she's been crushing on this guy. Does the guy know?

What age are use sounds very over the top for a friend to act like this unless you a young teen.

She either fancies you or him, but either way she isn’t coping with your new relationship. How do you want to handle that?

She definitely fancies him.
If two of my friends were getting together I'd be super happy for them. Storming off, being rude and telling him you are a bunny boiler is outrageous behaviour!! Is she 14?
I think you are probably better off without her.

Either she fancies him or she fancies you...

She stormed off because you were dancing with and having a good time with your new boyfriend? She either secretly fancies him or isn't happy you're not at her beck and call anymore.

Perhaps she thinks you have less time for her now you are seeing him?

I haven't said anything to him no,I really don't to put him in a awkward situation but he has picked up on her vibes I know.
We are 31 and he's 40

She probably feels like she is losing two friends and can't handle it. She is being totally unreasonable. I'd screenshot her messages and send them to your bf. I had a 'friend' who told me ex I was bipolar, I am not she just said it out of jealousy as she was friends with him before we got together.

Whoa. She sounds horrible.

Also agree with everyone else; she fancied him and is pissed off that he's with you.

Write her off. She's no friend.

Hope you can either get back some of the money you've paid or else go by yourself and other friends and try to enjoy?