To be annoyed at family members printing my pics?

[DemelzaPoldark]

This has been annoying me for a while. Am I right to be annoyed?

My DM is over invested in, almost obsessed with my two DC. This is irritating as she frequently oversteps boundaries but DM and DC have good relationship.

Last year family holiday (me, DH and DC) I took lots of pics which I shared on social media to a limited audience of close family. I did this so that DM didn't have to worry or constantly phone to check up, could see kids were happy etc.

On return from holiday DM asked for printed copies of the photos. I said I might get round to it at some point. She kept asking and I kept putting her off. I felt she was being intrusive- my kids, my holiday, my photos. I didn't actually say no, but it was clear she wasn't getting the photos.
Fast forward to Christmas, Dsis presents DM with an album of my holiday, and other, photos which she had lifted from FB. She also presented me with one of my photos, blown up to 8x10 size in a frame (not a photo I really like). She hadn't asked permission. Obviously DM had been complaining that I wasn't providing what she wanted so Dsis decided to remedy the situation.

I do realise that by posting photos on social media you are leaving yourself open to this, but I had been careful to only share with trusted family members. Kids are teens who are firmly against their images being generally shared.

I have now made all my photos private to only me and have blocked DM and Dsis from FB. AIBI?

I think it was very kind and a great present idea of your SIL to print the photos in a grandmother boasting book. And how nice was she to get a photo framed for you. If it’s on FB then I’m afraid it is public.

Preggosaurus you are as odd as the OP. I hope I never have to jump through these sorts of hoops if I ever have grandchildren.

Sorry your sister not your sister in law, so your kids aunty and your mumsdaughter. You are odd OP.

What strange reactions to a perfectly normal request..

I await the massive back story/drip feed.

@SoupDragon

I’d think it mega odd if my sister did that with photos of my kids to my mum

Would you have refused to print some for her yourself though?

Depends, 3 or 4 maybe but not loads (but then my mother doesn’t like actual physical photos because she doesn’t like her mantle clogged with frames) I’d just be like if my sister gave her an album of MY kids. That’s strange. I wouldn’t give my mum an album of my sisters kids.

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I think you're probably just a bit embarrassed that you didn't do it yourself. Your sister has shown you up a bit hasn't she?

But blocking them all is a massive overreaction. What will you say when they ask why? Without sounding like a right tit I mean.

I often choose photographs from people's FB pages, that they've shared willingly, to crate personalised photo cards - mainly for the children/teens I know rather than adults. Lots of people I know do this. Not yet had anyone think it was weird, odd, or creepy to use the digital images they've already chosen themselves to share with people.

I wish my dad would even ask for a picture of me and my daughter!

I've even nabbed a photo off my friends FB to make in to a photo slate, as well as the same for my auntie for Chirstmas gifts, they loved them (they are even up in their houses)! I didn't ask them, guess that makes me creepy 🤷‍♀️

Why don't you like your Mum OP? What do you mean by overinvested in your children? What "boundaries" is she crossing and have you made them clear? On the surface of this I feel sorry for her. Some posters say there must be more to it? Is there, or are you just behaving like an adolescent?

I feel worried now - my sister is quite camera shy but puts some nice photos of herself with friends on her FB so I just save them onto my phone & print them off, I put them in my photo albums with all the other family photos.
I think she may kill me when she finds out....

I just love how you think MN is mean but when you're being a complete bitch over nothing it's perfectly acceptable.

Your mum does sound horrendous, I mean what sort of grandparent has the audacity to love their grandchildren and family? It's madness. Oh and to top it off she wanted pictures of them so printed some, someone seriously needs to log this with the police.

Get a fucking grip.

I for one doubt there really is much of a backstory here considering how precious you're being over such a non-issue and that by your own admission your mother cares for her grandchildren. You just sound like a controlling person who seriously needs to address their issues.

I can't believe you've blocked them on FB for this. That's just bizarre.

Bonkers

I think you're probably just a bit embarrassed that you didn't do it yourself. Your sister has shown you up a bit hasn't she

Oh my god 😂😂😂 embarrassed that she has better things to do/a busy life?

How has her sister shown her up? By being an absolute invasive creep? Why doesn’t the grandma take pictures herself when she has the kids??

My GPS always print out pictures of dd (their great dd) never thought it was odd or creepy. And they've never asked. It's nice as they are a super old fashioned values family and I fell pregnant young, out of wedlock and the relationship ended before the 12 week pg mark.

You're response is a little weird. Agree with pp that it can't be a privacy issue with the dcs as you put the pictures on fb in the first place.

There's that word creep again. It is unwarranted and mean spirited.

I had this aswell only it was a handful of pictures from my wedding day of my daughter. My SIL quickly saved the pictures, printed and they where in her living room without asking!! I was shocked but realised it was on me for posting my daughters pictures, but then again I wouldn't take anyone elses pictures and print them off.

YABVU. Why didnt you print then for your DM? My mum isn't on social media i just print off all our pics for her- why not? My dad and mum love their GCs of course they want pics to lool at, show friends etc.

You are a loon!

You sound mean and hard work.

Of course I'm sure you have a back story, but that isn't what you posted here. We can only go on what you said, and most people think YANVU.

Naturally, you will take no notice and think you're in the right.

Sorry but I think YABU. I'd just be happy that my mum loved my kids so much that she wanted a photo album. I don't see what the harm was here? And if I were your mum or sister I would feel really hurt that you blocked me. They are just taking an interest in your life there doesn't seem to be any malice in their actions.

YANVU = YANBU obv

So Grandma is only allowed to look at photos of her Grandkid on a computer (oh...she's not even allowed to do that, now). She''s not allowed to actually have them around her house.
That's just nuts.

Grandparents have had framed photos of their grandkids on their walls/mantlepieces since photos have existed. And of course many grandparents aren't that bothered (or able) to sit in front of a computer to see their grandchildren.
She asked for some hard copies, OP couldn't be bothered to do anything about it (but didnt say no), and sister did a nice thing for her mum by making her a book.

Now they're both banned from even seeing photos online. This is one of the weirdest most unreasonable AIBUs I've seen in this place. please, please unblock them OP. Surely by now you can see you've over-reacted?