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To put up and shut up with the transphobia on here?

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thetonsillolith · 08/06/2019 17:18

I am fully supportive of the LGBTQ community and don't feel it is my position to question or undermine those who believe they were born in the wrong body.

And yet i see literally hundreds of intolerant posts on here and say nothing. Probably because I'm worried about being shouted down.

This is part of the problem isn't it? I should speak up.

Does anybody else feel like this or is it just me?

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sackrifice · 08/06/2019 22:14

Always down to looks, isn't it?

Well, you are the one saying it is 'something else' that you cannot define, what else is there as it isn't the biology as you said?

JanMeyer · 08/06/2019 22:14

Her past to her future, her misery to her happiness, her depression and self harm to a neurotypical future, a better place in her own mind which is hurting no one.

Hold on, since when were trans people non-neurotypical?
Do you know what neurotypical means? It refers to people who are well for lack of a better word normal, that is people who aren't autistic, or who don't have another developmental disorder like ADHD.
You can't transition to being NT, and being mentally ill doesn't make a person non-NT either.
Neurotypical is a word coined by the autistic and neuro-diverse community, seriously is there nothing trans people and their supporters won't try and appropriate?
It's ironic though, that you claim a person can transition to a "neurotypical future" given that there was actually a trans organisation that claimed transitioning can cure autism.

IvanaPee · 08/06/2019 22:14

@LimeKiwi did I miss the post where you explain what you mean by “anything else”? Because I’m genuinely really interested to hear what that is.

Shequakes · 08/06/2019 22:15

sackrifice you are correct. However I do believe most transwomen arent out to hurt or fetishise anyone.

But as I said the transmovemnt is very damaging to women.

Absolutepowercorrupts · 08/06/2019 22:15

LimeKiwi
You have said several time on this thread that trans women are and have always been women. So why do they need to transition?

LimeKiwi · 08/06/2019 22:15

If you read what I put, I haven't said it isn't biology at all.
I said that's just part of it.

ghostyslovesheets · 08/06/2019 22:15

Grassy you and me both - all 5ft 1" of me - I'm sure I'm supposed to by Gwendolyn Christie

Shequakes · 08/06/2019 22:16

Always down to looks, isn't it?

And with transwomen, it's down to what exactly?

ghostyslovesheets · 08/06/2019 22:16

be even!

KittensinaBlender · 08/06/2019 22:16

...transitioning from the past to the future

Formally known as the passage of time. Fairly sure it doesn't count as an essential quality of gender transition, what with it affecting... well everything. Hmm

DtPeabodysLoosePants · 08/06/2019 22:17

Argh, stop feeding the "mn is so full of transphobia" posters goady fucker trolls. It only encourages them.

IvanaPee · 08/06/2019 22:17

If you read what I put, I haven't said it isn't biology at all.
I said that's just part of it.

Confused

What’s the other part?

ChiefClerkDrumknott · 08/06/2019 22:17

If all you ever accept is biology and won't entertain the idea of anything else then you're at stalemate I suppose

I guess I’m at stalemate because I cannot fathom what else there is Confused I am a woman because of my biology. I have no other sense of what it is to be a woman. What ‘anything else’ is there?

No I don't care that some don't pass but I wonder how many times you've shared a "women" only space with a transwoman and not known.

Rarely, I suspect

QueenofPain · 08/06/2019 22:17

Completely agree. I got a comment deleted the other day for literally using the word TERF, but using the phrase “man in a dress” is totally okay.

IvanaPee · 08/06/2019 22:19

Well TERF is hate speech, innit? 🤷🏻‍♀️

I mean I’ve never seen it used as anything but a derogatory comment.

ChiefClerkDrumknott · 08/06/2019 22:19

If you read what I put, I haven't said it isn't biology at all.
I said that's just part of it.

Such as...

Butchyrestingface · 08/06/2019 22:19

What’s the other part?

The feelz.

Jarnsaxa · 08/06/2019 22:20

Queen of pain what's wrong with being a man in a dress?
It's the Mann in the ladies I'm bothered about.

LimeKiwi · 08/06/2019 22:21

So why do they need to transition

Because their body doesn't match?

QueenofPain · 08/06/2019 22:21

@ivanapee Hang on, isn’t it just an accurate description? How is “man in a dress” with regards trans women not hate speech though?

Butchyrestingface · 08/06/2019 22:21

I mean I’ve never seen it used as anything but a derogatory comment

Well, it’s an exonym, innit.

IvanaPee · 08/06/2019 22:21

Then I would suggest hanging on to your penis, cranking Shania Twain and getting on with your life!

If that means wearing typically feminine clothes and wearing make-up, have at it!

Just don’t try to erode women’s rights in the meantime. Don’t try to make lesbians have sex with you. And don’t defend rapists who pretend to be women for access to more women!

Butchyrestingface · 08/06/2019 22:22

Because their body doesn't match?

Match WHAT?

Jarnsaxa · 08/06/2019 22:22

Because their body doesn't match what limekiwi?

KittensinaBlender · 08/06/2019 22:22

Because their body doesn't match?

Match what, exactly?

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