To not offer my bedroom to guests?

[Tigger0902]

Hi all,
I’m a newbie first of all so hello!
My OH moved into my apartment around 7 months ago. He has some close friends who we go out to dinner etc with and we stay at their house sometimes. They have a 3 bed house, I have a 2 bed flat. They stayed at mine a little over a year ago and I set them up in the spare room. I should add it’s a double room, I have a day bed and trundle in there so plenty of space.
On Tuesday I got a text from my OH saying he had invited them over this weekend and asked if we should offer our room. I replied and said NO to which he said “I already have”. I’ve made it clear I’m not happy about a) him doing this without talking to me about it and b) other people sleeping in my room or my bed.

Am I being unreasonable? I bought a 2 bed so I could have guests stay....in the spare room! And to make things worse, they’re not even the type to say “are you sure you don’t us staying in your room?”

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So they arrived a little after 6, and put their case in the hallway. We decided to take the dogs out and she asked “shall I put the case in the room?” I said “yeah sure”. She headed straight for my room (they’ve been before so know where the rooms are). I said “oh no, the spare room is this one” pointing to the spare room. She replied “OH said we could stay in the main bedroom”. I pretended this was news to me and said “that would be weird! Who gives up their own bedroom to sleep in their own spare room” and fake laughed. She wasn’t amused but oh well 🙃

Look at her - “main bedroom”!!

Whaaaat? How could anyone think sleeping in their hosts room was reasonable. I cant believe she said they'd been told they could have your room - how rude. You handled it well though

Brilliant! Love it. You dealt with that perfectly. Kudos.

Well done op!! What a cf she is and a weirdo to boot.

Good for you- you handled it perfectly!

Fabulous

that would be weird! Who gives up their own bedroom to sleep in their own spare room” and fake laughed

brilliant!

Best answer you could have given.

I cannot believe anyone would be that cheeky to say that OH said we could stay in the main bedroom to the owner of the place!

Good response!

Excellent response lass!

Just out of interest, what time do you serve breakfast? I like my orange juice freshly squeezed and my croissants warm with butter (no judgement) and raspberry jam on the side. No coffee, just a small tea no milk.

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Did she have the audacity to bring it up later in the evening?

What a cheeky cow
I definitely wouldn't want to or expect to sleep in someone else's bed

My Mil is about the fussiest woman in the world when it comes to bedrooms, the bed's never big enough, it's not arranged right, the light isn't bright enough to do her make up, the birds outside are too loud etc. but even she wouldn't accept our offer of using our bedroom when she stayed with us. Unless there was a clear reason why they would need your room (e.g. elderly relatives who need a good bed or ensuite bathroom or large family with small kids who wake in the night and need to be together) then you'd have to be incredibly cheeky to even hint at it.

Well done! I wouldn’t let anyone give up their room for me!

Hopefully they won't want to stay again 😂

Do yourself a favour and stick your OH in with them.

Maybe they'll all get the message then.

You are amazing!! Would have loved to have seen her face! What a cf!

when they arrive, act like you haven't a clue they expected to sleep anywhere but the guest room, which is where guests sleep so why would your partner have even made the offer.

this works best if you let the topic lie now so you can convincingly insist you do not recall it and anyway, you've put clean linens on the bed(s) in the guest room because the guests were coming and you haven't changed the sheets in your room because you weren't expecting guests to sleep in there, because you have a guest room.

basically, say guest room as many times as you can as you helpfully carry their luggage into the guest room.

"the main bedroom”
What a strange term to use, surely you'd say "your room", your CF guest doesn't even acknowledge that it's your own room!

Excellent, you handled it brilliantly.

It has genuinely never occurred to me that guests would feel uncomfortable being given my bedroom.
I clear it of personal stuff (I'm talking photos etc...there's nothing untoward for them to find!) and everything is fresh, crisp and clean.

The alternative is the horrible hard sofabed, or the single bed in my daughter's old room. Neither of which seem appropriate or kind to guests.

Bravo, OP!

Ok.