To think we should consider a 2 bedroom rather than 3 bedroom?

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So briefly-
DP has 2 children from previous marriage. I have 1. I'm due with our first in a few months.
I'd love a 3 bed which would be ideal but our finances are always tight, we'll have a newborn to consider financially as well and ideally want to save for a mortgage.
I feel like we need to open options to a 2 bed as I feel like the only one who requires a bedroom is my 1DC as they live there permanently. His stay 1 night a week, come for tea another night and the newborn won't need its own.
I completely understand it's ideal to have a 3 bed and understand emotionally why it'd be easier for his DC to have a room but if it makes things easier in the long run? AIBU?

As long as the 3 DC have the largest bedroom with 2 sets of bunk beds in it, it could work. Temporarily.

I don't think the difference between 12 and 18 months is worth throwing thousands of pounds away on. Either the DC are too young to care or old enough to understand.

I think it depends on the house. I have a large 2 bedroom house, 2 DC, 3 DSC and am currently pregnant with number 6.

The three girls share a double room, they are aged 14, 11 and 8. My daughter has the room to herself for the rest of the week. Also the eldest doesn't often stay overnight as she's with friends etc, so it's just the younger two. They have a bunk bed with a trundle bed underneath.

The bigger bedroom is split into two, me and DP are on one side (with new baby once they are born) and our toddler (18 months) has the other side, it's small but he only has a bed, some drawers and a few soft toys in there, plus he only sleeps in there ATM.

Our living room has a large IKEA room divider with a sofa bed for DSS who is 12. The divider provides alot of storage for his bedding, games etc and he loves having his own space downstairs where he can play the PS4 without disturbing anyone.

We also have a garden room- they all love it and are forever asking for sleepovers out there, it's got electrical outlets etc so I'm pretty certain we will eventually lose a teen to the garden too!

It might not sound ideal but it's working for us for now. Everyone has a space to sleep without it feeling too crowded. Lots of storage solutions help here. Hopefully we will soon be in a position to extend and create more bedroom space and an extra bathroom wouldn't go a miss either tbh, but for now it's fine, I love our home.

So what happens when the baby is 6 months old and needs it's own bedroom?
What makes you think a 6 month old baby needs it's own bedroom?
It's not like they're going to be having sleepovers, or doing homework in there, is it?

If the 3 existing children are all under 7 and of the same sex why can't they share the second bedroom? Or better yet, give them the first and you, your dp and baby take the second.

Ok so you will be renting this new house?

In that case it does seem to make more sense to rent a 2 bed temporarily in order to save more for a mortgage...how long will it take you to save for a mortgage on a 3bed house? If we are talking 10years then I think you need to rent a 3bed.
I get that children just need love etc but I do think that it will be such a squeeze and they may not feel welcome at the weekends. I had a friend who never had her own bedroom (or even a room to share) and she always felt unwelcome at her Dad's house.

Short term, for a better and bigger house, I can understand though.

Just to clarify as well, we aren't poor and struggling to get by, we could afford to rent a 3 bedroom and still - you know - CARE for our children, but that would most likely mean we wouldn't have any room for savings to be able to get a 4 bedroom before the DC are teenagers

This doesn't make sense.

What's the difference in rent?

It must be huge if you'd be able to save for a deposit in 18 months vs having to wait c.10 years.

Renting short term 2 bobble bedrooms is probably fine, set of bunk beds and a single or a trundle so everyone has a bed and baby in with you.

• double obviously not bobble!