To insist DS has closed toe sandals this year?

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He's 9. And will not go sockless. He refuses to go anywhere without socks on unless it's the swimming pool. I have managed to persuade him to wear the short trainer style socks when he is wearing shorts. AIBU to suggest I get him some closed toe sandals this year so it's not so obvious he's wearing socks?

I wouldn't mind too much either way about this. The problem I have is that our school allows sandals in the summer, but they have to be plain black (or tan or white, I think, but I guess that's more for girls). And because both my boys play endless football, I would prefer them to wear closed-toe sandals (at one stage this was a ruling from school, too, although I haven't seen them say that this summer). I assumed from the title of the post that this was the reason you wanted him to wear closed-toe ones. Last year we had some from Lands End, but this year I simply can't find any plain black closed toe sandals! Does anyone know where I can get them from? I need size 11/12 and size 1. The ones from last year (13) might still just fit DS1 but they are falling apart...

CassianAndor why is it baffling? I don’t have a 9 year old myself, my oldest is 5 so I’ve got no idea what she’ll be wearing on her feet in 4 years time. I was just telling you what I’ve seen the 9 year olds I know wearing (I was referring to boys, I don’t know any 9 year old girls).

Way to go to teach your child that fitting in is more important than being their happy self. My DD is the same age, most of the time she looks ridiculous, she doesn't care. Long may that be the case.

A lot of people find going sockless uncomfortable. As a woman I have spent far too much of my life being uncomfortable so that I look the part...I refuse to do so now. I certainly refuse to push my child on something that doesn't really matter on the fear of what other people might say or think.

Wincher they have black ones with a grey sole, but I suppose that's no help.

I’d let him wear the socks if he wants to, if his friends thinks it looks silly he can decide for himself whether the socks are worth it.

I appreciate you’re concerned because of your childhood experiences, but when it comes to other people making fun of your clothing, it makes a huge difference whether the clothes are your choice, or whether they’re clothes you don’t like to begin with but your parents have forced you to wear.

I also think closed toe sandals are great from a safety point of view, they give the toes protection from getting stubbed or getting poked by stray sharp branches etc.

Soy because Converse are expensive?

DD is at a non-uniform school, and most of the kids I see are in sandals in the summer.

My kids wear socks and sandals all the time, I really don't care!

I’ve got no idea how expensive children’s converse are, I’ve never bought any! I was just mentioning what the 9 year old boys I know wear!

Do not tell your child 'you think he might be laughed at'. What is that saying to him? Let him wear the bloody socks and whatever sandals he likes.
These are YOUR fears not his.
If someone wants to ridicule your son, they will find a way to do that. These socks may well be of no importance to anyone except yourself.
It's your issue not his.

My DC currently wear Clark’s sandals at around £35 a pair, are Converse more than that?

His a child does it really matter if he wears socks and sandles? His a child, I don’t see the issue with it!

If other dc comment he will either stop wearing socks or use his own mind and decide to keep wearing them, I think at 9 he should be allowed to use his own judgement on this

Sliders are vile. They actually turn my stomach to look at them. Somehow they look smelly/feety/like they'd have a bad case of toe fungus inside. With socks they look like all of the above, worn by a psycho.

These ones? www.keenfootwear.com/en-gb/p/1020670-13.html?gclid=CjwKCAjw8-LnBRAyEiwA6eUMGn_rSSuRLhSsBmJpz4vuCby48TOzdlE1m91tCLUAT_5CFkonp3F6QBoCA24QAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds Actually they look perfect, NoTheyAreNotTeenagers - thanks very much! A bit pricey but worth it! It's just a shame I can't really justify getting them some more interestingly coloured sandals as well for out of school!

Soy actually no, not really! So my bafflement is completely misplaced

(I also can't get on board with kids wearing the same shoes as me, and my feet are so small I wear Junior Converse!)

OP, those sandals are both so unfashionable that it won't look any sillier with socks on than without. Where does he wear them? Surely socks are no good on the beach? If only wearing for casual wear I would stick to some canvas trainers for him which will look great with his socks!

I’m a size 3 so also wear children’s shoes

Why does he have to wear sandals. Can he not wear trainers?

There's nothing inappropriate about wearing socks with sandals, so the 'he's a child, tell him what to wear' argument doesn't carry weight. It would if he were trying to go out in a t-shirt in mid-winter.

I always wear socks with sandals because if I don't, even the sandals advertised as 'comfortable' will cut my feet and make them bleed. I'm not going to cause myself pain because someone might look at my socks and think they're silly or unfashionable. That would be ridiculous.

Leave him alone and let him wear his socks.

My dd’s converse were £55 Soy! But she is in adult sizes.

Socks and "sliders" make me feel violently ill! Yes, tell him to sort it out or let him get laughed at and hopefully he'll see sense and go sock-less or wear trainers if he really has to wear socks!

My two have closed toe sandals this year. They are better for kickingg around a football and the like and a bit safer for their toes at school with all those chair legs... I would go for it, OP.

I don't see the point of socks and sandals at all.
Socks keep your feet warm, sandals keep them cool. It's like wearing a bobble hat and gloves with a bikini.
If they hurt people's feet then I don't see why they wouldn't just wear something that doesn't.

He wants a pair of sandals as he says his trainers are too hot.
I'm well aware it's me who cannot stand the sight of sandals in socks hence my AIBU. Which it seems that I am. As I said, Fresta, I don't aim high in the fashion stakes 😂 He will wear them to school. And I was internally debating if he would get away with them as trainers for the days when he has sport.

my boys wear closed toe sandals (with or without socks). open toe sandals are useless for playing, so i don’t buy them. i don’t want to limit them by their footwear, so closed toes it us.