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AIBU?

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To insist DS has closed toe sandals this year?

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NoTheyAreNotTeenagers · 06/06/2019 08:08

He's 9. And will not go sockless. He refuses to go anywhere without socks on unless it's the swimming pool. I have managed to persuade him to wear the short trainer style socks when he is wearing shorts. AIBU to suggest I get him some closed toe sandals this year so it's not so obvious he's wearing socks?

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saoirse31 · 06/06/2019 08:34

I think you're way too over invested in what other people think tbh. Let him wear what he wants.

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NoTheyAreNotTeenagers · 06/06/2019 08:35

No kid will laugh at him though, that's why he wants to wear them!

No, that's not why he wants to wear them. He will take socks off for a bath/shower and then puts them straight back on again. He will not even go to bed unless he is wearing socks.

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B3ck89 · 06/06/2019 08:35

My dad is a typical British tourist when on holiday abroad, pure white legs and socks with sandals... I admit I actually cringe

But the boy is 9, I wouldn’t think anything of it

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NoTheyAreNotTeenagers · 06/06/2019 08:35

Obviously he puts clean ones on after he's washed, in case that wasn't clear!

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B3ck89 · 06/06/2019 08:37

And he wears his shorts quite high, with his top tucked in and a bum bag on his waist
I’m sure you can get the picture lol

Zeusthemoose · 06/06/2019 08:37

My son has worn socks with sandles in the past because they have rubbed and it's more comfortable. Nobody laughed or cared. Why teach him to be overly concerned about what is deemed fashionable or cool? Let your son wear what he's comfortable in.

notlikelybyhalf · 06/06/2019 08:39

You can't tell a child what to wear!

Yes you can. Bloody hell this is the root of many of the problems that exist in today’s society with entitled children. They do not rule the roost.

sleepismysuperpower1 · 06/06/2019 08:40

could you get him a pair of shoes like these? lightweight and breathable but you can't tell he is wearing socks

herculepoirot2 · 06/06/2019 08:40

Children should do as they are told, but who expends energy on telling them not to wear socks? Who cares?

TORDEVAN · 06/06/2019 08:40

let him dress how he wants to dress, no harm will come of socks and sandals 🙄

Piffle11 · 06/06/2019 08:41

I'd let him get on with it, tbh. At 9 I think kids are wanting to have a bit more choice in how they look, and provided it's not offensive (although the socks and sliders look … yikes) or ridiculous, I say crack on. There are fashions that I never understood - that one with the teen boys wearing their jeans practically under their bum, showing off their pants and looking like they had no arse - but then I remember the stuff that I wore in the 80s! I have memories of my DM telling me I was an embarrassment because of what I was wearing: she was always so aware of what other people may think. Stuff everyone else: if your DS is happy, then isn't that a good thing?

Soontobe60 · 06/06/2019 08:43

I also think he should be allowed to wear what he feels comfortable in. He may not give a toss about what other people think, and if so, good for him! On the other hand, he may get very upset at being forced to remove his socks by his mother who thinks he looks stupid otherwise.
Wearing socks could be a sensory thing, and it's not uncommon. Or he could hate looking at his feet/ feeling things brushing against them. OP, please do not force him to fit into a box called 'not making a fashion faux pas'.
BTW, birkenstocks with socks is ultra hip!

Pinnacular · 06/06/2019 08:45

Barefeet is a modern fashion construct???

All those early humans might have something to say about that

CassianAndor · 06/06/2019 08:46

you are the problem here, OP. There is nothing wrong with him wearing socks with sandals - for anyone. It's your problem if you think it looks stupid, please do not pass that on to your child.

Teddybear45 · 06/06/2019 08:48

Where will you be going? If it’s really hot I might try to bribe or blackmail him out of the socks

TheCanyon · 06/06/2019 08:49

My 18yo dn and his friends go out like Fairylea pic. Its horrendous

juneau · 06/06/2019 08:50

Oh let him wear what he wants - he's 9! My dad wears socks with sandals

JammieCodger · 06/06/2019 08:51

Worst thing is their socks get absolutely filthy. They could at least wear black socks but I get a look when I suggest it.

MyNameIsCharlesII · 06/06/2019 08:52

Omg pick your battles op. Socks and sandals might not be your idea of cool but why make him feel bad about his choices when it doesn’t really matter.

LoafofSellotape · 06/06/2019 08:53

You can't tell a child what to wear!

Yes you can. Bloody hell this is the root of many of the problems that exist in today’s society with entitled children. They do not rule the roost

By 9 a child can decide if they want to wear socks or not.

Da went through a stage of not wanting to wear shorts so he spent a holiday in jeans ,by the next year he'd got over it and was wearing shorts.

Pick your battles OP, this is so minor it's not worth evening thinking about!

LoafofSellotape · 06/06/2019 08:54

Worst thing is their socks get absolutely filthy. They could at least wear black socks but I get a look when I suggest it

I've given up trying to get them clean now. I get that look too

yumscrumfatbum · 06/06/2019 08:55

My 19 year old DS wears birkenstock type sandals and white socks pulled right up. It amuses me how things that once were deeply untrendy come into fashion!

LadySainsburySeal · 06/06/2019 08:56

Oh I do hope that the socks with sliders/Birkenstocks is teamed with a rather fetching knotted hanky on the head! not to mention the string vest

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 06/06/2019 08:57

I can’t begin understand how it could be important to someone that their child doesn’t wear socks ; to understand how it could possibly be more important to any parent that their child is “stylish” than comfortable.

Try putting your child’s comfort above the importance of them being an indicator of your own good taste (good taste according to you).

SoyDora · 06/06/2019 08:58

I’m confused as to what the issue is really. Can’t he just wear trainers?

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