AIBU for wanting DH to choose drama rehearsal over fathers day?

[djcrabb69]

DS 8 and DD 14 attend a weekly Drama academy and put on a show every June at a local theatre. They have an all day tech rehearsal which falls on fathers day. DH does not want them to attend (he did give them the option, both said they wanted to skip the rehearsal and spend the day with us) as he thinks days like this are special, especially whilst the children are young and wants us to spend the day as a family.
I think that we can celebrate on another day and the children attend the tech rehearsal. The academy also want them to attend. DH points out that there will be further rehearsals at the theatre in the lead to the show and that family should take priority.
Just looking for opinions on this. Thanks

I work in youth drama. If any of my cast missed tech rehearsal they would never be cast in anything important again.

They are letting down the director and all the other children. Time they learned what commitment means.

They should do the rehearsal, and celebrate Father’s Day with a nice dinner all together.
DH is a prick for putting himself first.

Thank goodness he changed his mind just at the point where things were getting a bit sticky for the OP!

Who’d have thought?

I spent most of mother's day signing children in and out if dd's ballet show and watching it. Plus the clocks had changed so we got up early to do hair and make up then get to the show. It wasn't a big deal.

Your dh is BU. The rehersal is important

If he's so convinced schools 'do a lot of damage to childhood' why don't you home school?

Sorry I haven't read it all but I'd defo give up Mother's Day and go out another time so don't see that Father's Day is a bigger deal. We always go out a different day as to avoid overly busy restaurants etc. It's not a big deal.

If it's not at the performance venue then it's not a tech rehearsal
This. Perhaps you should clarify what sort of rehearsal it is, as it obviously isn’t a tech rehearsal. It may be less important than you think.

When your DC signed up to be in the show, presumably they were provided with a full schedule including rehearsal dates and show dates. This must have been months ago. So why is your DH only now whinging about them being busy on the 16th? Surely it was on the schedule from the beginning? If they weren’t available for key dates then they should have dropped out a long time ago.

I agree with the poster who said that a child who fails to attend key rehearsals risks having their part taken away and will be blacklisted for future roles. I did youth drama as a kid and I’ve seen it happen.

I'm glad he's changed his mind, OP. I'm sure you can plan a time (at the weekend when everyone isn't at work or school, or has other pre arranged comittments) to celebrate a lovely fathers day, all together. Spending time together is important - so important that you shouldn't need to insist on observing arbitrary, made up days to make it happen.

(and I'm sure you understand that the rehearsal wouldn't be happening if the organisers didn't think it was necessary. People who put on youth theatre tend not to waste their own precious time scheduling rehearsals that actually, the participants don't really need to come to - in fact, just miss it and they will be perfectly happy to just catch you up at a later date.)

I’ve lost count of the number of Mothers Days & Fathers Days we haven’t celebrated due to rehearsal commitments including this year.

It’s called commitment.

fathers day? made up by clintons cards! meh! what a twat! let your kids do what they want

idiot

despite the importance of combatting stress in modern life by having family time, you chose to do a birthday activity on another day for practical reasons.

Thus ^ by Ellisandra

By all means have an 'official' family Father's Day on another day, "make those memories " but please do not disrupt the drama offering