To want baby to have my surname too

[Sashadublin]

I'm due my first baby mid- June. DH and I very excited. When we got married I kept my name, for a few reasons, including that I'm an only child with quite an unusual surname and it would effectively end with me if I didn't. No issue from DH at the time. We had discussed and agreed that baby would have both my and his surname. They work well together. Not going to hyphenate it, but have the two and when the child is older if she just wants to use DH's surname, that's fine. Realistically happy for my name to at least be on the child's birth cert, but school, everyday usage can just be DH's . However DH recently had conversation with his sister who said this was a terrible idea. If my name was in the baby's surname on the cert for ever more she would have to have both. Asked a solicitor who specialises in family law and he said that was absolute nonsense, and practical for passports etc.I told DH I would compromise and just have my name on the birth cert but for everything else the baby can go by his surname only. He said no there can't be any compromise, the baby simply can't have my surname as well as his on the birth cert; just his. I'm absolutely stunned. Their family has 3 sons, they already have 4 grandchildren with that surname. It's just me in my family. His family are very unhappy about my wish apparently. I just don't get it, I'm hardly demanding we only use my surname for the baby. Exhausted and surprised at my DH. He says it's just a name and I'm being silly

One of my friends is having the same issue as another pp here.
She was married, has DC, and is now divorced. She has reverted to her former name as exh is abusive & difficult and she doesn't want to carry his name.
DC have just his surname. She wants to change so that the DC have both surnames.
Court tell her that exh has to give his permission for her to do this.

Just dropped in to say-again- hold out for the hyphen!!!!!

He says it's just a name and I'm being silly

'Oh that's a relief! Well that works out well then, it's something that's really important to me but if in your eyes it's just a name, then great, we'll go with mine - maybe you can change your surname to mine. Glad to see that this is something you don't attach much importnace to. Your family/sis? Um, not sure I understand. I don't recall marrying them-? Can you explain why they have anything to do with this...?'

My surname is incredibly rare and like the OP, the name ends with me. Hence, my children have double-barrelled surnames. Mysurname-DHsurname. It works well and we've had no issues except from in-laws...
But, it's my surname and I wanted to keep it. What my children do with the name if they marry is up to them.

You're the one giving birth so I reallly think you should get to do what you want to! We're in a modern world now baby doesnt need DH name