'Too young' for him?

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BF's family has made comments about me being 'too young' for him.
I haven't met them yet, but I am this month.
I'm even more apprehensive to now I know their view.
I'm 19, he's 26/27.
Is this something that they'll just get used to or am I always going to feel a bit judged for the age difference right now?

Generalisations not much help here. It all depends on what the 19yo is like and what the man in his 20s is like. I met my husband when I was 19 and he was 25. We were both students. We got married two years later and are still married now, very happily, nearly 40 years later. It might have been a disaster, but that can happen at any age. There was nothing remotely creepy about my husband at any point!

I think it depends. Some women at 19 are mature, while others aren't. I don't think it's too big an age gap but you're likely to be on totally different stages of life so it may not work out. I think most people in their mid to late 20s wouldn't consider dating a teenager, but again it depends on the individuals.

Not RTFT got a bit fed up tbh. The age difference between you both is 7/8 years, that is the same age gap as my DM and DF, the got married when my DM was 18 and they have been married 46 years this year. I wouldn't worry about it.

I was 19 when I met my then 26 year old DH.

He was a very welcome change to the lads my own age I'd dated previously who were only interested in sex, getting drunk and what car they drove

DH and I have been together for over 27 years, have had 4 DC and now have 4 grandchildren. Some of the comments here are very offensive to say the least

If he makes you happy OP what other people think is irrelevant

The heart wants what the heart wants. Two young people, all legal and correct, nothing creepy.

You are too young for him, but that reflects on him, not you.

How utterly patronising about two people you don't know! It's a simpleton's argument to base it all on numbers.

@JinglingHellsBells more irrelevance.

I met DP when I was a teen and he was mid 20s. In hindsight, it made me old before my time. I went from youthful exuberance to trapped in an early middle age with someone who had been there, done that and didn't want to do it any more. So I didn't get to do it at all if I wanted to be with him. It was okay for a while in the middle but now at the other end he's turning into a grumpy old man and early old age is staring me in the face too. If I could turn the clock back I'd make a different choice. Your mileage may vary.

I think it’s fine. It’s your life. Be happy

I dont the age gap is too big but I would have a few concerns as a parent. You are 19 with a child already. You also have a child, assuming baby or toddler and already bringing someone else into their lives. It would concern me.

It's not a massive age gap but I do wonder why a 27 year old man would pursue a teen. When I was 27 I couldn't imagine dating a teen or even someone in their early 20s. Different life stages.

@ANewDawn10 it's concerning that I still have a life after having a child? Why is it such a negative that I had a child young? And who mentioned anything about bringing people into his life yet?

Oh bore off with the creepy rubbish.
Consenting adults, end of.
Life is short. If they are happy, crack on

I don’t usually see things in black and white but I just don’t believe any well adjusted 26 or 27 year old man would not be interested in a relationship with a teenager, no matter how mature she is. When you get to your mid to late twenties and think about how you perceive teenagers I think you will see what we mean.

I was your age when my husband turned 34. Just ignore it. A lot of people are very judgemental about people who live differently to the way they do. That’s a reflection on them and their small mindedness. Nothing more.

I was 19 when I met DP. He was 34. There's 15 years between us. We've been together 12 years. He's supported me through everything as I have him. We have a 6yo DS, 2 fur kids and a house we worked damn hard to buy when I was 21. We've been through a very very serious health scare with him, me having scares when pregnant with DS, his mum going through cancer treatment and now his best friend dying from cancer.

I'm pretty sure I'll get a lot of comments to this. But age is just a number to me. So long as you're both on the same page for where you want to be in life then what's the harm. It's got nothing to do with anyone else. If this last week has taught me Life is far too short to worry about other people's opinions.

Also worth mentioning that at your age I wouldn’t have dated someone any younger than your BF unless they were unusually mature ❤️

🤷‍♀️ Not ❤️

Why on earth are people justifying their judgemental posts with ‘almost 30’, ‘late 20s’. The OPs partner is neither of these things, he’s 26 almost 27

Why on earth are people justifying their judgemental posts with ‘almost 30’, ‘late 20s’. The OPs partner is neither of these things, he’s 26 almost 27

Erm 27 is late twenties
21 - 23 early twenties
24 - 26 mid twenties
27 - 29 late twenties

You're an adult.
He's an adult.

If you're bother happy, then Fuck what people think.

If you were 25 and him 33/34 people wouldn't say anything about it.

Don't worry about it, if you're both happy. Get on and are mature enough... then I wouldn't worry what people think

There are 19 year olds with the maturity of 40 year old and 26 year olds with the maturity of 17 year old.

Don't sweat it.

@Hithere12 he’s 26, so like you said mid twenties. Still no where near 30.

Brain hasn't finished developing yet?!
I moved out when I was 17 and living with my sons father who was 6 years older than me.

I'm appalled by the narrow mindedness of some posters here. Not all teenagers are vacuous giggling idiots. I certainly wasn't. Neither was my DD, nor were her friends. Some - many - are mature, intelligent and thoughtful people. In less than twelve months, the OP will be in her twenties.